There is a certain feeling you get right in the middle of your heart when you’re about to be ambushed by emotions you’d rather not deal with, specifically those you have been resolutely pushing down into the deep recesses of your mind as often as you can.
Here’s the funny thing about emotions, they simply do not care how much you try to avoid them!
Trust me, whatever you are resisting emotions wise, will persist until you acknowledge, validate and finally release them.
Worry and frustration would slither into my head in the form of tension- a tightening around my forehead- leading to the kind of pressure that always threatened a headache, before releasing the floodgates to my insecurities and fears.
An answering call of frantic energy would then assail me and I have been known to call my friends in a miserable panic, saying I felt as if I was ‘ missing something’, or ‘needing just one win’ and of course ‘ not being able to focus’, because of this repressed energy.
It’s a kind of energy that is hard to explain, but once you’ve felt it, you know exactly what it is, the slippery slide to stress-thinking to becoming overwhelmed and you just feel ‘off’.
If you have ever felt like the above, then I have great news for you!
It’s time for you to release that pent-up emotion in your body that you’ve been trying to bury within yourself or just been straight up trying to avoid.
It’s time to release them by feeling them without any judgment, without attaching any meaning to them and by simply acknowledging that they are there and not fighting against them.
You release them by facing them, feeling them, realizing what they are trying to communicate to you and then release it all.
Releasing these emotions from your mental vault, will allow you to gain improved energy and more clarity, as well as the ability to ground yourself so that you can actually achieve the goals you want to.
The real challenges come when you are unwilling to face the emotions, because you are afraid or ashamed of what they could mean if you dared acknowledge them.
Another challenge arises when you aren’t even aware of what it is you actually need, and because of that, react by pushing more into the feelings and resulting limiting beliefs, creating more frantic energy and spiraling into the emotional abyss.
And that is the exact opposite of what you want to feel or think.
When it comes to emotions, you need to remember that they are mercurial and very fluid. You have the ability to flow through several emotions within a span of second, and each emotion comes with its’ own thought and reactive action.
The thing is, you decide how you react to your emotions and whether you attach significance to them, a meaning to them or even an action to them in those moments of feeling them.
Emotions are neither good or bad nor right or wrong.
They are in fact simply indicators of how a situation or event is triggering you at that moment. Emotions are indicators of how you are actually reacting to the presented stimuli. Every emotion you feel is valid and worthy of being acknowledged by you the person who is currently feeling them.
Acknowledging your emotions does not mean reacting, it means that you get to take a moment and realize what you are actually feeling towards that event or stimuli.
It’s the body’s way of alerting to you to the tone of the event/ situation/ person you are interacting with.
The purpose of acknowledging you emotions is not to fix them or make them go away- that’s you avoiding still- rather it’s to release their energy so you move from being blocked and overwhelmed to clear and mission focused again.
Ultimately, you decide which emotion fueled action if any, you will take.
So when you feel overwhelmed or like a storm is brewing in your head and body that simply means it’s time to look inwards and feel the feelings.
What I usually do and what I hope will also work for you is a light form of meditation. Please note, my idea of meditation is sitting quietly on my bed, sometimes with calming music, or with just the sound of the sea and simply being.
It always starts with me feeling anxious just being so still and doing nothing, but the more I feel like that or realize that I’m seeking distractions, it’s how I know that I need to reconnect with myself.
So I sit there, allowing my mind to zone away and drift, after I’ve made it clear that I am determined to be on this drive. I won’t lie.
It is not easy to just let your mind wander, because when you’re so accustomed to distracting yourself with work or TV or other activities, it does feel boring and weird to just day dream, yet it is one of the best ways to dive under the surface and see what is really brewing within yourself.
So let yourself get bored, frustrated. It’s ok to feel frustrated that your mind is wandering; you’re on the right track if that happens. It’ll feel like you’ve zoned out and your breathing will naturally align with your mental state, so just let go.
Sometimes focusing on one object that makes me feel calm helps me to let go easier and, I just mean looking at it and allowing my mind to wander off, without trying to pick, choose or avoid any of the thoughts that come up in that state.
When you’re ready, ask yourself, ‘What is underneath this feeling?” “What am I avoiding feeling in this moment?”
When you get the answer, allow yourself to look at it, converse and understand where it stems from, what it is trying to tell you.
You may feel anxiety tightening around your head, fear creeping into your veins or stress at something you feel unfinished, whatever it is, acknowledge it, and see what it is signaling to you.
Then release it.
This happens when you acknowledge the emotion, and the thing it is trying to signal in you. Once emotions have been acknowledged, they basically release themselves.
We run into trouble when we try to fight, bury or cling to one emotion, feeding into it and making it into something more than it was meant to be by adding our insecurities and attaching meaning to it.