They are all wrong!
It’s not that you hate your life; it’s that you know that it can be even better!
You know your life can be so much more and, you feel it in your gut, you feel it every time you think of what you’d rather be doing in this very instance if things would only FINALLY go your way.
You know it’s possible to live this free, adventurous and relaxed lifestyle, because whenever you go on your social media, there are hundreds of stories about those who left their job and are now vacationing in Bali, can work whenever and wherever they want to, are constantly partying but most of all, what really attracts you to the accounts are the looks of total bliss and freedom they are expressing.
And those images, stories and experiences are what draw you like a magnet to their accounts.
You gobble up their stories of living a fully free life, of making money in their sleep, of pursuing their dreams effortlessly and flawlessly and you compare that to your own seemingly boring and staid existence while longing settles deep inside.
Why can’t that be you?
Why can’t you be the one sharing the stories of living this fabulous life, of going to the parties, of rubbing shoulders with amazing people, of buying whatever you want, going wherever you want when you want?
Why are you only sitting on the sidelines, pining over someone else’s lifestyle , deciding as you want more that your own life will never even be close to theirs?
So you get envious, frustrated, angry, jealous, exhausted and stressed out because you no longer feel as if your life measures up or will ever get even truly close to all the things you now believe you need to have in it.
You focus on all the things that are glaringly missing. The people in your life, start to point out the long laundry list of things that you have yet to accomplish and compare you with those close to your age or younger who seem to be living that socially-accepted close to perfect life and because you’re hyper aware of this, and it STINGS- it drives you even further into the scarcity mindset.
Where even as you want more, desire more and work towards it, the one thing that drags you just from the finishing line- that you aren’t even aware is so close to you-, is the fact that you already know that you’re never gonna get there.
And the real reason that you’re never going to get there is because you’ve not been honest about what you really want in life.
You haven’t been honest about what lifestyle you truly would enjoy.
You have not been honest about the fact that you lost sight of your intuitive end goals a long time ago because you buried them deep in your psyche.
You haven’t been honest about the fact that you do NOT believe in the possibility of your life changing for the drastically better without some sort of cosmic sacrifice, (which means really that you have already doomed yourself to failure, even as you pretend to bury that thought).
All of that doesn’t deter you however, from wanting to prove those who doubt you wrong.
If anything, it drives you to all out war, and you hustle, grind, do all the things, but never just enough to actually win consistently, because deep down you know you’re not going to.
You just need a win. You just need something to show that you are working towards success, but whose version of success are you actually working towards?
For a long time, I thought success was checking off my grocery list of things to have, things I had to prove and living a life that was more professionally based than actually feeding my soul.
I spent hours researching how to make money from home, because I felt as if my job was making me crazy and I was convinced that I could make large sums of money quickly so that I could just enjoy myself without having to worry about money.
I wanted all the nice things- vacationing, expensive dinners because I love food, time to go to the gym, time to relax and unwind, etc.
And I was going to do ALL I needed to do because I wanted this and I SAW others living this, so I could too. Envious?
Of course not, I just wanted to live a wholly different life, just like those other people who were boldly boasting were as well!
At least that was what I told myself.
In reality, what I was doing was counterproductive to any of the things I wanted.
I stayed at home, researching how to build my business and tried a hundred marketing strategies, that promised to work with no large investment, even as I knew were not intuitively correct for me because I was now fully on into my DESPERATION mode and not the ‘I love what I’m doing’ mode.
I strained my eyes because I was forever staring intently into the computer screen, trying to figure out what I was obviously doing wrong, because the Experts all said they did this one thing and maybe I’m just not good at this… and instead of actually taking time to heal, I brainwashed myself into thinking a little strain was nothing and tried to make myself work even harder all to no better or further results.
I did not really work out, because I had no time to spare and if I did manage to squeeze in a few minutes, it was to work out the mounting frustration, I felt at STILL not living that glamourous life! Which meant that I didn’t allow myself to enjoy the fact that I was getting stronger and more flexible ; instead I became fixated on the fact that the scale was not decreasing as quickly as it damn well should be.
I did not really sleep or actually wake up feeling refreshed because my mind was turbulent and I could not shut off my thoughts or the web of increasing fears that wrapped tighter and tighter each day that I failed at my goals.
And in all of this, I spent rare time with my friends, ( citing mountains of work, no money and no free time) , got irritable with my family when they needed my help with anything (because seriously, can’t they see I’m trying to get stuff done? Why can’t they even try to appreciate what I’m trying to build here?)
I got progressively deeper and deeper into the mindset that I was a stupid failure who was never going to be one of those people who got to just lived life as they freakin well wanted and should just shrivel up and stop, because obviously I was never going to hack this thing.
Hindsight is 20/20 and now I can tell you that all of that stress and self castigation was not at all in line with what I was telling others or even myself about what I wanted in life.
So what was the root of this discrepancy in what I wanted in life and what I was doing?
My idea of being successfully happy was what was screwing with me and I suspect you as well.
Chatting with a friend of mine recently about life and why we got so frustrated about not having the things we wanted, we came to realisation that our mindset and the things we claimed to want were not our true goals.
It was a shock to realise that even as we were trying to change our lives, we were still essentially people pleasing!
Yes, we wanted to break away from the status quo of white picket fence, and an ok job, where we worked up to 5 weeks of VACATION. Where the amount of money you had declared your life a success or failure and wanted to chart our own path, but in the bak of our minds, the things that were driving us were not our true wants.
We were still protecting them by hiding them from ourselves and getting frustrated when we were unable to achieve them.
What did that mean for us then?
It meant that I had not actually decided for myself what success ACTUALLY looked like, what it would feel like and mean to me; rather, I was looking at OTHER people’s ideals of success and how they were creating that for themselves.
Isn’t that crazy?!
My borrowed idea of happy success and accompanying envy was what was holding me back from living a life that was truly free and happy. I was grinding and hustling because I was told I needed to and I believed that that was true, even as I was focusing on the things that didn’t mean as much to me.
So if I truly wanted to be living the lifestyle that I knew deep down I wanted, then I had to be honest with myself and most importantly, reconnect to my true goals and desires.
So yes, others were building families, getting promotions, working their dream jobs, vacationing in exotic places around the world and making money in their sleep.
And if I’m honest with myself, while I was impressed by those things, they were not necessarily what I wanted for myself and not intuitively right for me in the way others were getting those results.
That revelation lead me to do more mindset work, to dive deeply into myself and pull out my truth from the depth of the vault I had hidden them within.
When I really did the mindset work and put in real effort to envision the kind of life I was truly craving, I found that what was truly important to me were not necessarily tangible, rather there were about moments.
Do I want to make the money? Yes.
Do I want to live the carefree life and own all the creature comforts that I see? Hellz Yes.
Are those the most important things in my life? No
And that shocked the crap outta me, because if they weren’t that important, then should I be focusing on them with the intensity that I had been?
What I did learn was that what was the most important things in my life were my experiences, my moments spent with those I loved and who loved me.
It was about being fully present in the moment and making lasting memories. It was about feeling healthy and brimming with joy at being in my own skin. It was about being self sufficient, and enjoying the life I was creating one action and thought at a time.
Those were the things that truly mattered to me and as such those were the things that needed to have my intense concentration. And the more I focused on those things, the more the other things came into being.
The other things, the money, the business and the luxurious things I wanted, all came to being as they were necessary to support my other goals.
( So I wanted to spend more time with my family, then I had to ease off of the long hours and late nights. Same thing for really taking care of myself and as I did that, my business started to actually take off, because I was now taking actions that were not from desperation, but from a true place of confidence and allowing the business to actually breathe!).
I started giving energy finally to the things that fuelled my soul and allowed them to light up the rest of my life. Something so simple now as I write it, took me months to give myself permission to do.
Afterall, I had been taught to focus on making the money at all costs, on working so hard at my job, and it felt weird to not be giving 12 hours to trying to make money and build the empire.
It felt weird at first to actually spend weekends ‘slacking’, to allow myself to rest, to not be obssessed with the things that were going wrong and to celebrate no matter how small the things that were going right
Even now I’m still struggling and learning to just be! Years of conditioning will not go away overnight. it takes WORK!
And I’m very happy that I have allowed myself to come to this firm decision to shift my mindset so that it was more centered on me truly enjoying life, instead of waiting for when things were ‘perfect’ to start.
And what really helped me to get to this pinnacle point in my life?
This workbook changed my life and the lives of those who have worked through it, by reminding us that we are not in a race with others and that our self is the thing that we need to be nourishing and helping to truly grow.
It has 8 core themes, that as you work through guides you to insights about how you really want to create and nurture the life you want.
That means reconnecting and learning yourself as you would with a BFF. What do you really want, what really drives you etc.
How to identify, conquer and resolve your limiting beliefs and triggers.
What stories you have created around your life due to your experiences and how they have been shaping your life and how you can use them to empower yourself.
How to start truly trusting yourself implicitly.
How energy really works and how you can use it to actually manifest your real end goals.
Understanding what intuition really is and how to use it to guide you through your best life.
- Creating and envisioning your Next Level Self and bridging the gap between the You of now and that Boss level person.
The Level Up Journal Prompter is one of the only resources on the market that challenges you to really introspect and not only express yourself but also gives you homework so that you take real time actions that will give you real results.
Nothing is ever gained by just journaling and writing ( sadly), you also need to do the work, after you’ve gained the honest insights.
The journaling will help to clarify your path, now you have to actually take the steps and the Level Up Journal Prompter is perfect for guiding you to action for making the life you wanted for real.
So are you ready?
Are you ready to STOP being envious over other people’s way of live and boldly live your own, freely, happily and enthusiastically?
Are you ready to intuitively describe your own version of what YOUR successful life looks like?
Are you ready to pursue your real end goals and reap the benefits of putting your energy and effort into the things you ACTUALLY want to accomplish and live for yourself?
If you answered, yes to any of these, it means that you are ready to take action!
It means that you are over settling for less than you KNOW you can have!
You’re SO ready to get to the good part, ( career success, love, money etc) !
You’re ready for things to FINALLY start going your way!
You are ready to evolve and become not only a happier version of yourself, but a levelled up version of you!
The you who no longer people please, or gets frustrated when people don’t get/ scoff at your vision but gets the results they actually desire, even as they are scared.
The You who is so invested in enjoying their live RIGHT NOW that they are ready to make it a reality and the Level Up Journal Prompter is the first step towards starting the real work to getting there.