The Real Reason You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self Control)

Before we dive head first into the world of limiting beliefs, mental blocks, insecurities and ‘negative energy’, let’s first talk about the thing that  spawned all of them in the first place *drum roll please*  your end goals.

But first … let me know if this situation has ever happened to you…

You’re super excited about a desire, a goal or an idea you have and honestly it’s the best idea in the world to you and everything is going amazing in your head and this thing is making you feel so happy, excited and joyous.

Then, just as you’re in the process of conceptionalising it, you start thinking of all the ways this amazing thing is going to crash and burn and take you down with it.

(Dramatic I know, but am I lying?)

“What if I do this and then it totally blows up in my face and I’ve already sank all of this time into it?”


You think about all the reasons why it’s dumb AF.

“But I mean, who would want this anyway…, it’s fun for me, but maybe the world isn’t ready for this?”


You think about the fact that if you somehow do actually bring this thing into existence, then it’ll be too good to be true, the other shoe will drop and ruin everything.


You thing that this amazing thing holds the power to change your life too drastically and you’re not sure you’re even ready for all of that just yet.

“If this worked out, it would be so freaking awesome! My life would be so much better, but God I would be so crushed if something happened to take this away or what if it changes my life so much and then it just stops working? I’d be devastated!”

Or maybe you feel all of these things and it’s stressing you out, because, we’re multi-capable like that lol.

Sounds at all familiar?

Ok and then there is that feeling in your head, where all of these challenging and doubting thoughts begin to swirl around, making you feel foggy, tired and ready to bury the idea into the deepest recesses in your mind,  * insert shifty smile* for safekeeping obvs.

Followed closely by the pain in your chest- a kind of hollow feeling – a pang of loss as you bury the idea/ dream/desire even further and mourn the death of what would have been a really good thing, had those thoughts not come and crashed the creative party.

*Let’s have a moment of silence of this once amazing idea- gone to rest way too soon*

Now instead of thinking about the awesomeness of your idea, dreams, desires, etc enter self sabotage, fear, desperation and anxiety.

And they crowd up your mind and replace the joy, happiness and excitement you once felt, while dragging you down, down, doowwnnn into deepest abyss …if we allow them to.

And if you do allow the limiting beliefs to take over, then, even when you want more, even when you’re fighting the good fight and meditating, and journaling and trying to get your head on right and be that progressive bad-ass you know you can be….nothing great happens.

In the back of your mind, those emotions and feelings remain, ruling from the shadows, waiting for you to drop your guard so that they can pounce like the predators you know them to be!

And then life starts to progressively get a bit duller and more stressful and one day you wake up, wondering what the hell happened and why you feel so distrustful and anxious about the world and why you’re not motivated to do more or anything really.

So am I saying it’s your end goals fault that you feel like this?

no boo


I’m saying that when it comes down to it, the things that are so amazing to us, have the most epic potential and life changing benefits definitely, causes us the most stress and can make us feel so unworthy, thereby creating the limiting beliefs and mental blocks to protect us from the hurt they could potentially cause us.




what awaits you :

We answer why thinking about your goals stresses you the eff out and how to change that response.

Examples on fear, end goals , limiting beliefs and responding to them, so that you can practice shifting your mindset in real time.

We look at how different goals and desires provoke different reactions and dive deeper into why that is.

The sneaky reason you’re procrastinating and yeah, it has nothing to do with lack of self discipline, it’s way easier.

We break down what stressors are, how they effect your productivity and how to resolve them.

We give real strategies for shifting from procrastinating to enjoying your work again.

22 thoughts on “The Real Reason You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self Control)

  1. Procrastination used to be a big problem for me in college. Especially with assignments due. I realized that finishing it up sooner will free me from that anxiety that builds up with procrastinating.


  2. I would not be able to put down my fears in starting a goal or seeing it through into words but you’ve done that. While reading, I kept on nodding in agreement. My biggest fear is failure even though I get reminded that from failure we learn valuable lessons.


  3. Fear is one of the hardest emotions to deal with and the one which gets in the way of so much. And once we have a fear of something, it sticks in our heads and really gets in the way. Great topic to deal with.


  4. Wow, I’ve been there with procrastination! Thanks for sharing tips on how to shift your mindset to accomplish goals.


  5. fear fear fear and procrastination go together and is such a discipline issue. thanks for saying it has nothing to do with self control. amazing post, well written and to the point thanks
    jerry godinho


  6. You’ve made such great points! I did resonate a bit with the part you mentioned about starting a blog, so for the time being, I’ve focused on it being a joyful thing that I like doing because I like writing and sharing my photos!

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  7. I love how you turned the stressor analysis into “reasons for joy”, it makes so much sense and yet, I hadn’t seen it under this perspective before; I’d maybe call it my why or my inner drive or motivation; but identifying the joyful points make it even stronger. Thanks!

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  8. I really should have read this post 24 hours ago! I am doing a 31 day blogging challenge, and I had the worst time writing today’s post. I procrastinated it so much. I finally just did it, but, ugh. I didn’t want to! I so wanted to skip it, and just kept pushing it out of my mind. Your post makes so much sense to me, and I’m bookmarking it so when I find myself procrastinating again, I can go back and keep reading it until I stop procrastinating. Awesome post!

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