So today, we are going to be looking at how to use these limiting beliefs to ensure our success!
Now let’s look at the reasons that cause them in the first place and for each go through what will help us go from fight, flight or bury all the feels, to flowing and soaring!
Limiting belief reason 1:
Sometimes we create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that our minds simply do not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way we want them to.
For this one, the real issue here is that we do not believe the goal is possible.
While we know that it can happen, it does not feel feasible for it to happen for us.
It is a goal that while we would LOVE to achieve, we simply at this point in time cannot see how WE can get it done because of whatever reason. (Maybe lack of resources, time, or the magnitude of the change just does not fit in with our belief or expectation of what can really work out for us).
In all of this, the problem is the fact that we simply do not believe this goal is something for us. We need to expand our range of possibility if we are to ever start believing we are going to succeed in this goal.
So what do we do?
Break down the big goal into more comfortable sizes that are more relatable for you. Then choose one that is not outside of your range of belief, but is also not so easy that you know you’re playing small either. Your heart felt goals are supposed to scare you a little- it keeps the excitement going and allows your brain to realize that change is coming!
There will be fear, there will be doubt, but with this smaller sized goal, it won’t be as terrifying as before and you can manage your limiting beliefs easier, because the action you will be inspired to take will be things you can ACTUALLY envision for yourself and DO!
Listen in and acknowledge the doubt and fears that will arise and integrate them into your new perspective on this goal.
Big goal: “I am going to lose 30 lbs in 21 days”
• “ I am going to drink 2 liters of water a day”
• “ I am going to eat more veggies and less carbs”
• “ I will do fun and challenging physical activity for least 30 minutes a day”
• “ I will get 8 hours of real sleep every night”
• I’ve never tried this in this way before, is it even possible for me to lose this weight?
• What if I miss a day of exercise or don’t drink enough water, will I sabotage the results?
• I don’t even know why I’m bothering, it’s not like I’ll actually lose any weight anyway. It’s too late and I’ve already tried stuff and failed.
Eventhough I feel like I may not lose all the weight in the time line because I’ve failed before, I know that by making these smaller changes and sticking to the plan because it’s fun and easy, I’ll be healthier and will be loving my body more!
2) Limiting beliefs reason 2: We create our beliefs and mantras while ignoring our internal alarm systems that are protesting the insanity of this belief.
What happens in this situation is that we create our beliefs and mantras and try to ignore, bury or fight the feelings that arise when we think of them, because we want them to be true so very much and if something we’ve decided is negative comes up, we think of it as a threat to our beliefs.
So what can we do to change this?
First we need to realize that these feelings that arise are neither good nor bad, they are only what you make them mean.
And the thoughts are not there to deride your beliefs, or desires, rather they are there to show you that there are a few potential flaws/ challenges in the plan and if you listen in, you can fix them before they become even more apparent.
So instead of running from the feelings that arise when you think of your goals, simply allow them to flow over you and for each, check whether they are true or valuable and work to suit.
If they are neither true nor valuable, express that to yourself and move on.
Goal: “I am going to write my first book, publish it and reap the rewards all in 2 weeks”.
• “How are you going to do all of this in just 2 weeks?”
• “Do you even have everything you need to write or finish this book?”
• “Do you think people will want to read this?”
It’s true that maybe 2 weeks is a very tight deadline, but I’ll do what I can in that timeframe and ask for more if necessary. I should make sure I have all the information I need to start, but anything else I can learn as I go along. I’ll just focus on writing the book and ask my followers if they’re interested in the plot and that might help me make it even better.
3) Limiting belief reason 3: We create these beliefs as shields when our goals are too big, frightening and we’re scared to fully commit.
Sometimes we allow our thoughts to become limiting beliefs because they protect us from trying too hard and provide a cushion for when things inevitably do not go our way.
The truth is that the goal scares the pants off of us and it’s not just simply that we may fail at this goal, but worse, that we might succeed—and then fail.
So we allow our thoughts to corrupt the goal, so that we feel validated when we give up on it and use those same limiting beliefs as the reasons it would never have worked out for us anyway.
The real problem here is that you have decided that we are terrified of the change and are not yet ready or confident enough to face it, to allow yourself to believe that it will all work out for you and not hurt you in some way, regardless of how amazing it is.
In fact the more amazing and beneficial the goal, the more likely you are to want to abandon or procrastinate on it.
So what is the solution for this one?
It’s simple: Be honest with yourself. Be honest that you are afraid, that you have been self-sabotaging and work to see what is triggering that reaction for you.
Most of the time, you have already corrupted the vision and the goal, turning them into stressors, which your mind avert and avoid at all costs.
You feed it more by castigating and chastising yourself about the goal, making yourself see it as even more of a negative thing.
Example: I was to go to the gym this week and I didn’t and I’m wasting money! What is wrong with me! Ugh!
(Results in you not going to the gym for another week- sound familiar?)
Remember why you had this goal in the first place, what made it so exciting and precious to you? What made it fun?
Focus on that and instead of focusing on time that has already passed; focus on the here and now.
Allow yourself to slowly work on the goal and enjoy all aspects of it. When it gets too much, take breaks. The goal is to make you happy, not stressed all the way out.
The more you see it as an actual thing that brings you pleasure, the more you’ll become obsessed with it and the limiting beliefs will dissipate.
Big goal: “I want to start my own online business.”
• That’ll be a lot of work and what if I try and fail? No, I should just keep on what I’m doing right now…it’s the better option.
• I have researched and tried so many strategies and none of them work! I should just give up and try to find something else!
• I’m not making nearly enough money with this thing, is this even possible for me?
I started this online business because I saw a need for it in the market and the things I’m doing make me happy when I do them. I have so much fun and meeting those who like it.
I just have to be patient, and raise my energy up again, so my intuition can guide me. I can and will do this because it’s important to me that I do.
To reframe and repurpose your limiting beliefs, you have to first listen in to your feelings and be aware enough to realize that nothing is trying to hurt you.
Yes, they seem mean, and like jagged spokes ready to disrupt your happy time, but really, they are only as powerful as you make them.
If you truly repurpose them and start that as a practice, you’ll realize that your success comes a lot easier because you’re not running from yourself, but embracing all of you! It’s all mindset and what stories you’ve been telling yourself that makes this process either easy or difficult.
Either way, be kinder to yourself or realize that everything is playing out in the favour of the energy you are calling to yourself.
We talked about how to reframe and repurpose your limiting beliefs, but what triggers them for you in real life, real time?
Next Chapter, we dive into it all and what you can do to rewire your mindset to reduce stress!