Good On Paper Won’t Cut It Anymore

Has this ever happened to you?

You meet a person and they are amazing as  they check off just about 80% of the things on your Potential Partner Must Haves checklist, but for some reason, you just can’t seem to fully fancy them?


You meet a person and they are not at all what you would have wanted on paper, but man, you simply cannot quit them?


It’s like the world has gone topsy-turvy, but what could this mean?

According to the dating experts, it means it’s time to update your checklist and throw out the old one.

Here’s why.

We all have a Must Have Checklist (don’t even try to lie and say you don’t) that  we expect potential suitors to tick off, as proof that we are compatible in our minds,  but what happens when the Must Have Checklist is actually not YOUR checklist, instead it’s the one your parents, close friends and society have concocted for you?

Can you be happy with that? Would that list actually have on the things that best serve you and that satiates your unique needs?

 Dating is already an endurance game, but how are you to find your actual partner, if your benchmarks are not actually yours to begin with?

Let’s talk about what ‘looking good on paper’ actually means and why it’s totally screwing up your chances of living with Prince(cess) Charming.




Dating expert and coach Meredith Golden breaks down what ‘ looking good on paper’ actually refers to and it’s a real eye-opener.

Annie Foskett, Contributor for Elite daily, talks condidly about why she doesn’t care for the ‘ good on paper ‘ types anymore.

Tracy Schorn of Chump Lady, gives great insights into dating culture and why self knowlede is your best friend.

4 powerful questions to ask yourself to clarify your actual type and what you are looking for in a relationship.

14 thoughts on “Good On Paper Won’t Cut It Anymore

  1. These are some good pointers. Being able to be open with someone is so important to me and a good indicator of a future relationship.


  2. Now THIS has been my life for a while now – online dating! Oh the reality when you meet some of the critters – cor blimey! The reality can be scary! Meeting people in real life and getting to know them fully, can be an eye opener!! Sim – Sim’s Life


  3. I agree. That is like people can lie about themselves – to make them look attractive “on paper.” But once you meet them in person, it is not what they truly are.


  4. These are some fabulous tips and pointers here and I truly enjoyed reading! It is very true that people can look great on paper and totally different in person. Thank you for sharing and glad that I am past that point in my life…dating I mean. With the most amazing man on the planet!

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  5. These are great things to consider when looking at your relationships. I love that this will prompt people to really think about what they want and what they already have. Thanks for sharing!


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