Self Dates and Solitude

I have always admired those girls who could go to the movies, cafes and even shop by themselves, without feeling awkward or lonely, because to me that seemed like such a power move.

 As much as I’m an introvert, there are things that I simply do not want to do by myself, for the very simple reasons that I fear it would only serve to emphasize my loneliness.

Afterall, how many times have you seen anyone on a self-date who looked comfortable and like they were having fun, minus being attached to their phone or having that painful ‘ please keep me company’ expectant expression on their face?

Ok, so maybe that’s just me projecting my own feelings on the few times I’ve been out alone, but to be fair, those times were because I was meeting someone and felt anxious, knowing I’d be better when they finally appeared or I left.

However, recently, something changed within me. The more I learn about mindset health and connecting to myself,  the more I’ve started to allow myself to enjoy solitude and have started welcoming my thoughts, rather than engaging in an epic and exhausting battle of fighting them.




What awaits you:

Ashlee reveals what was truly keeping her from going on on her own and it’s SO relatable.

She also reveals what practice allowed her to feel calmer, more centered and waking up with a smile.

What the hardest things for her to disconnect from where.

What her next goals are and why she’s so excited to get there.

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7 thoughts on “Self Dates and Solitude

  1. Have always loved doing thinks on my own and most of the times i never feel lonely. I love going shopping, movies and just enjoy my own company. I look forward to enjoying my friends company but I look forward to my own much more. We are all different and that’s okay.

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  2. I completely understand about being an introvert, I’m the same. However, I do enjoy shopping on my own (less stressful), and relaxing in a coffee shop (when they were open!)

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  3. Honestly, I enjoy going to self dates. I can go where I want to go, without being rushed and not being told what to eat and what not to. Someday soon I would love to go on a trip to the beach – alone and watch sunsets. So relaxing!


  4. Spending time with yourself is just as important…sometimes solitude is necessary. I think during these times we are all learning to be more comfortable with ourselves and accepting ourselves with the validation of others. Taking time for yourself is so important.


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