It never occurred to me that I could be loved unconditionally. The concept itself made very little sense to me, as I simply could not fathom, how it was possible to love someone for doing nothing more than existing.
I subscribed for years, to what I now call ‘conditional affection’, where the relationship grew based on whether the person was willing to appease you and what they brought into your world to make your own well-being much easier.
You see it often in movies and in love letters, where the person professes his/her love and it’s a laundry list of the ways the other makes their life easier, but rarely states the qualities and traits of the first person; like are they kind, intelligent?
It’s always a very egotisical spiel that made me realize that the relationship would be based on whether the person could keep up or improve upon that laundry list.
The thing is, attraction starts with realizing how someone makes you feel, it gets fuelled by the things you have in common and then by you seeing and approving of behaviours.
The problem comes, because that’s where most of us choose to stop our hearts.
We stop at the things the person does for us, or the things you do for them.
There is another step, where you start to love the person simply because you realize and acknowledge them on an encompassing human level.
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What awaits you:
Ashlee further breaks down what she terms ‘ conditional affection’ and why while it’s normal, isn’t doing us any favours.
She gets candid about love, and the different types we subscribe to.
She talks openly about her journey to learning to love ‘unconditionally and how it’s changed her whole life.
She takes us through her process of this mindset and lifestyle shift.
She talks about religion, spirituality and the reality of love.
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