Hi , I’m Ashlee
An entrepreneur, blogger, author and creative and confident optimist dedicated to helping you live your life your way.
I’m a Bajan girl, who left her prestigious job as a journalist and PR Consultant, in an intuitively fuelled need to create the lifestyle that felt right. Armed with only passion, a laptop and a strong gut feeling, I set out on this journey completely half cocked, – very much like the Hobbits in Lord of the Rings- completely unaware of how this journey was going to challenge me, and dramatically change not only my lifestyle, but also my mindset on everything!
I can honestly say that I tried and failed at many things before I allowed myself to accept my true calling and accept it in a way that felt right for me. When I first started, I felt the need to find my footing by imitating all those who inspired me, but soon got frustrated and completely overwhelmed as nothing worked and my life seemingly began to not just unravel, but crumble like those dream buildings in the movie Inception, only to disappear like sand being dragged into the sea.
Soon, I could not help but to surrender to what my intuitive nudges were clamoring for and began to do the exact opposite of all the things I’d been taught made you a successful and validated person. It was roooouuughhhh AF.
I asked the Universe and God to help me to find my way and to allow me to live a happy life. And I won’t lie, when things began to go off the rails I thought I was being punished for being selfish and greedy. Much later, I realized God was simply fulfilling my request, by removing all the resources that no longer best served me and making space to allow new ones who would.
My life changed dramatically in the span of two years and with each change, I was forced to make a decision: growth or remain. I chose growth and saw my friendship circle become smaller, but more potent, filled now with those who were honest, supportive and creative.
I learnt more about myself and began standing up for myself and enforcing my boundaries, committing myself to the lifestyle I had asked God for and allowed the pain of growth to run its course. My mindset changed, my body changed and my soul glowed.
So I started this blog as a way to motivate and remind myself that I chose to change, that I chose to go on this journey and that I can infact do this. I can in fact learn more, be more and share more.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been insatiably curious about human psychology, nature and how we all should live happily in this space. I wanted to know that exactly made people genuinely happy and creatively fulfilled. I wanted to know why some people glowed and smiled all the time and others looked like the weight of the world was on their shoulders, resigned to their inevitable squishing. I wanted to know how we could all find that magic within ourselves.
( Yes, I’m a Disney kid)
I also realized that I was always the one my friends could call on for insights, advice and to just be openly and honestly listened to, no side helping of judgments or preconceived conditions.
I am a believer that people are multifaceted and should be allowed to explore and share all the amazing glittery parts of their personalities and talents. And could not understand this need society seemed to have to make you believe you could only be one thing in this life, even as it demanded you be multiple things at any given time.
So to help with this conundrum, I started researching more and more, trying to quench my curiosity about this script we were all expected to conform to and live out, time and time again.
And do you know what I realized?
I realized that I was for sure following the wrong script and I wanted out.
I wanted to let go of the burdens of classism, of being poor, of feeling trapped and stuck, of feeling I could only be considered desirable, loved and worthy based on conditions I had no actual control over. I decided I wanted to enjoy my life and wholly accept myself and I recognized that such a thing would require time, patience, self forgiveness and mindset shifts among other things…and I also needed to share all of this with others who were interested.
It took all of those things and now, I am able to honestly say that I am so glad I took this on this journey, that I’m still learning and that I am maturing into a person I love to see in the mirror. I smile more because a feeling inside of me makes me; it surges from my heart straight to my lips and brain.
I enjoy researching and writing up posts to share with you all and I even allow my thoughts on subjects to flow free so we can have a conversation. I’m more me than I’ve ever been and I’m always learning and growing.
I believe that if you want to truly thrive in this world, you must bring your whole self along this journey of self care and self love…
AND THAT BRINGS ME TO YOU…
You too have amazing unique sets of gifts, your personality, your sense of humour, your sense of empathy and more importantly, you heart.
I believe that when you are ready to create your new script, you first have to go through the ‘ unscripted process’, where you resolve your past conflicts, where you set yourself free to be absolved of mistakes, un-tether your worthiness from money, from success and prestige and strip yourself of your long time fear addiction.
Where you start to trust yourself implicitly, learn to listen and trust your intuition and realize that the world is not out to get you, rather it is doing its best to provide for you and is waiting for you to work with it, instead of against it.
It’s waiting to grant you all you ask, but first you have to learn how to stop self destructive and sabotaging behaviours, replace them with enlightening ones that feed joy and peace. It’s waiting for you to rehab your fear and greed addictions, so it can finally give you all you’ve ever wanted.
It’s waiting for you to recognize yourself and raise the frequency of your joy, so it can reimburse you tenfold.
It’s waiting for you to become unscripted.
So are you ready to go on this journey as well? Don’t worry, I’m here for you always.