Level Up Your Life in 9 Steps

WTF Is reconnection and why does it matter?

Reconnection to self is when you allow yourself to admit and accept your truths, your vision and your power. It’s legit the process of befriending yourself on the mindset level,  so you know who you are, why you’re doing what you’re doing and finally step into your co-creator shoes confidently.

You can sense when you need to reconnect with yourself.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling: foggy brains, restless mind, unavailable for most things that would have brought you some semblance of real heart centered joy, not knowing what would make you feel happy.

It’s shoulder muscles so tense, they constantly touch your ears, it’s feeling your face scowl and frown, it’s headaches, tense jawlines and gritting of teeth.

It’s living in a state of ‘ life won’t be better’ that robs you of your joy.

Here’s the thing:

You know who you are. You know that you want to move far away from this state. You know you want to smile more; you want to laugh, to feel light in your body and safe in the unshakeable knowledge that everything will all turn out for the best in the end.

You want to feel pleasure and way, way less pain.

When you reconnect to yourself, you’ll start to see the world differently; it’s a slow progress that is nothing to shout about with how seamless and easy it will be.

You’ll only notice that you are unavailable to negative thoughts, toxic energy and have no interest in engaging with anything seeking to bring down your vibes.

For me, reconnection was the process of realizing I was living  not for the glory of having this life, but in the state of all things that were never-ending going wrong and using that as reasons to cut myself off from my sources of light.

I was not social, I always felt like I needed to be working ( even as I was frustratingly overwhelmed and stressed out by the business not making as it should), I used my lack of finances and the shame around it to stop myself from enjoying most things. The thought was I’ll enjoy all those things once I reached my goal.

I had lost sight of who I was as Ashlee Cox. I only saw many failures and gave into protecting myself from them at all costs.

Reconnecting with myself, challenged me to move away from that kind of famine, defeating mindset and allowed me to create a new self-fulfilling prophecy.

One that involved a happier, healthier and well rounded Ashlee.

An Ashlee that had allowed herself to grow, to pivot on prioritizing problems that only brought more of the same, to using that same energy to concentrate on her actual goals.

An Ashlee that recognized she didn’t have problems, just signs that she needed a new path to her goal and allowed herself to take them.

An Ashlee that leveled the F up!

And I did it with the help of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

The Level Up Journal Prompter is available right now.

This book with its nine chapters will take you on a journey of self discovery like no other resource can in this day.

Chapters: Reconnection, Limiting Beliefs and Triggers, Stories and Paradigms, Self love, Trust and Belief, Life skills, Goals and Validation, Energy and Manifesting, Support and Boundaries, You, Intuition and the Struggle, Next Level Self .

I researched and wrote these chapters, complete with journal prompts, and strategic homework when I had finally started to allow myself to be more, to receive more and I still use them to this day, when I want to level up again.

There is an energy of accelerated growth within these chapters and a feeling of intentional ease and crystal clear clarity.

You’re ready to grow, ready to move from a state where you attract problems, to one where you easily attract success.

Click here to elevate your life right now.


READY TO ELEVATE?

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Is Prejudice a Lethal form of Bullying?


While I am not African American, I am a black Caribbean woman living in this wold and it would be naive of me to think that prejudices just because they are exploding out of one country, cannot affect all of the world. The Covid-19 pandemic should have shone light on that fact that anything that affects and impacts one of us, affects us all.

Another thing that pandemic showed us was that unlike us, viruses do not discriminate among ethnicity. If it attacks the human system, then we are ALL vulnerable. End. So in this light, I have to say I am so exhausted of the ongoing feuds we are still enabling around the world.

I am beyond exhausted that we even HAVE to have a hashtag #BlackLlivesMatter just so a stand for justice, equity and understanding that it is beyond NOT ok and will not stand to so openly behave in this way, to openly take such aggressive actions against a person because of the colour of their skin, because of perpetuated economic stereotyes and because we as a society have not let go of the ‘black people are dangerous mentality’.

We are all dangerous, and there is no ethnicity that has not done something violent against their own and others, so we need justice now. And to really change this centuries old conditioning, we have to see that when prejudices are boiled down, it is a lethal form of bullying.

Bullying in any form is not acceptable and we all know it is a condition that can be resolved, can be healed, the question here is: Do we want to heal and become the generation that took real, committed strides towards healing prejudices and seeing each other as human beings end,

OR

Are we the generation that keeps the pain and suffering going, by inciting more blame, more finger pointing and not getting justice in the way we all agreed was the process for it?

Let’s be the generation that teaches our differences are wonderful, that we all make mistakes and are flawed but that is not what defines us as a people. Let’s be the generation that teaches love is a human state of being that should not be scoffed at, but spread throughout each and every culture.

What will you choose?


How I’ve Learnt To Reconnect to Source

Two months ago, I made an active decision to become more spiritually woke. I wanted to move my emotional state from feeling super stressed out about money, Covid- freaking-19, bills, followers, you know , the usually plagues of a solo entrepreneur, who is also dealing with personal stressors.

Without truly acknowledging it, the backlash following the abrupt death of my Dad, shook me and catapulted me right back to unhealthy ways, unhealthy thoughts and I allowed myself to feed my fear so much, it almost exploded from my body.

Then after a few conversations with my friends, and a lot of guided meditations, because let’s be honest, I was OVER feeling the tension in my body, the desperation running amok in my thoughts which only gave me headaches, caused me to grit my jaw so hard, I felt my teeth grinding, and muscle aches in my shoulders because of how freaking tense I was keeping them.

It was also my birthday month (April) and really is there a better time to actively choose to take spectacular care of yourself in not on/ around your birthday?

So that’s what I did.

I’m a huge believer and advocate from mindset work and healing, because as we already know, it all starts with your thoughts and from that it leads to actions that build your lifestyle.

So I had a choice to make.

Give into the pressures of stress, desperation and insidious fear, where I started to lose confidence in just about everything that made me the unique and loving person that I am.

Or

Reconnect to myself. Become an active participant in my life again and CHOOSE what I focus on, how I allow myself to feel, what I am available for and concentrate on the surplus of good that was in my life, if I would only acknowledge them.

So I started on the latter.

Was it easy?

Absolutely not. I learnt how deep rooted my fear based state ran and I started to notice just how often I was actively looking for things to make me feel awful, to feel sad, as excuses to justify giving up on actions, my desires, the works.

Reasons to stay in a state of not quite happiness but not quite bouncing off the walls either.

Then I remembered this book: The Level Up Journal Prompter.

It’s the book I created to help me out of this kind of funk.

Within it I go through 9 Chapters which challenge you to move from stuck and playing small to being your Next Level Self.

The self that allows you to take the next step in your life confidently, that allows you to get clear on your goals, get clear on shifting your limiting beliefs and the lifestyle you are calling towards yourself.

From learning how to reconnect with myself and challenging myself to answer the journal prompts openly and honestly- no running from myself- to actually doing the homework and slowly becoming more and more aware of my progress, of my many victories, of how strong I am and will continue to be, I felt super inspired and motivated.

This book, which is loaded with insights I am straight up impressed came out of me, was  perfect to move me again, to gain clarity in my mind and remind myself of how powerful I actually am, of how healthy I want to be both mentally and physically.

I reminded myself that I was allowed to feel my feelings, and to respond to them, it reminded me I was allowed to choose my state of existence and to be unconditionally supported and loved.

It reminded me that I was enough right now and that me growing, stretching and nurturing my love of who I am, were all natural and encouraged.

So this month, I’m re-launching it, because I know these last few weeks in lock down have straight up sucked for some of you. Not necessarily because you couldn’t go outside, but because it caused you to feel unsettled, to face your own thoughts and doubt monster alone and un-equipped.

It forced you into a feeling of melancholy, of panick and of living in the energy of already having failed. Caused to you remember all the stories around why you won’t have a wonderful life or success…It fed your fear based state too.

No more.

You are ready to go a guided journey towards your own power.

Towards realizing what it is, towards getting control over your thoughts, emotions and crystal clear goals.

You’re ready to level the F up!


READY TO ELEVATE?

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Wish of the Week: Sleep Dress

SKIMS Sleep Dress (black)

Price:  $56

Why We’re Curious:

Ok, so we all know that I love watching Reality TV, so DUH I also watch Keeping Up With the Kardashian. IDGAF, it’s a guilty pleasure and I am ok with it. So anyway, I was all very interested in Kim’s newest entrepreneurial project, SKIMS, especially since, I’ve never tried shapewear that felt good, but I figured one of the Leaders of the Spanx revolution would change all of that.

Seriously though, the one time I tried to wear compression clothing for my stomach, I felt like my organs were being rearranged and I was immediately over it.

 Let the body flow then, as long as I could breathe and still feel human!

So yeah I was curious about Skims, but then they brought out their Lounge wear and baby, it’s like they were talking directly to me. I live in Barbados and the concept of ‘ house clothes’ is REAL here, so this Sleep dress, which comes in onyx, bone and slate is one of the comfy things I’m craving.

Easy clothes, comfy and fit for everyday wear….oh and it’s machine washable?

That’s me!

I rarely wear bodycon, but I totally would with this one, because it just looks like it can handle these curves, without trying to strictly contain me too tightly. I need some give baby.

Ok fam, I cannot be the only Skim Curi-ast here, so spill the deets and let me know about this product!

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How I’m Learning to Love Unconditionally

It never occurred to me that I could be loved unconditionally. The concept itself made very little sense to me, as I simply could not fathom, how it was possible to love someone for doing nothing more than existing.

I subscribed for years, to what I now call ‘conditional affection’,  where the relationship grew based on whether the person was willing to appease you and what they brought into your world to make your own well-being much easier.

You see it often in movies and in love letters, where the person professes his/her love and it’s a laundry list of the ways the other makes their life easier, but rarely states the qualities and traits of the first person; like are they kind, intelligent?

It’s always a very egotisical spiel that made me realize that the relationship would be based on whether the person could keep up or improve upon that laundry list.

The thing is, attraction starts with realizing how someone makes you feel, it gets fuelled by the things you have in common and then by you seeing and approving of behaviours.

The problem comes, because that’s where most of us choose to stop our hearts.

We stop at the things the person does for us, or the things you do for them.

There is another step, where you start to love the person simply because you realize and acknowledge them on an encompassing human level. 


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What awaits you:

Ashlee further breaks down what she terms ‘ conditional affection’ and why while it’s normal, isn’t doing us any favours.

She gets candid about love, and the different types we subscribe to.

She talks openly about her journey to learning to love ‘unconditionally and how it’s changed her whole life.

She takes us through her process of this mindset and lifestyle shift.

She talks about religion, spirituality and the reality of love.


Up next. shop the Unscripted Collective Vol 1 now.


Why We Are Into the Praise Kink

There is just something about being called ‘ good’ and praised for existing that accelerates your heart-rate, turns you into a puddle and makes the person who just whispered those words of praise into your ears even hotter than they were a few moments ago.

We’re finally in an age where more and more people are being open and honest about having kinks and also admitting what they are; one of the lesser known kinks that has been gaining popularity is the very simple yet powerful ‘ praise kink’.

A kink, not to be confused with a fetish – which usually refers to a necessary behavior that a person needs inorder to become aroused-, simply defined is a sexual activity that fall outside of sex that society traditionally considers  acceptable, (read: vanilla sex).


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WHAT AWAITS YOU:

Find out more about why this kink is setting bedrooms aflame

Discover what is meant by ‘psychological play’

Sex Educator, Tina Horn also weighs in on this new kinky trend

Are Praise kinks only for BDSM? Find out in this post!

Learn more about different kinks and what ‘drops’ are.


The Low Down On Working from Home

One of the many appeals for working from home for me was,  of course not having to get up super early and get ready for work and the belief that I would be able to choose my own hours.

In the beginning of this journey, I was lured in by the siren call of not having to wake up at a specific time, not having to do the ‘ work day grooming’ routine, including wrangling the mane I call my hair, not having to don another suit and pack my work bag and figure out lunch, etc. Rather, I could stay in my comfy clothes all day, make lunch when I was ready, work out more and then set time in the day to grab my laptop and work!

Everything I needed was here at home with me and it was awesome!

Sounds like heaven yes?

And it was for a while, until things inevitably went completely out of control!


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what awaits you:

Ashlee takes you throuh the unvarnished truth about her experience of working for home, after 5 years experience.

Ashlee spills on the little things no one ever tells you about working from home, how they can help and also derail productivity.

The 5 Boundaries you need to enforce right now to stay sane

The little habits that will make this transition so much smoother and actually productive

The major things to actually watch out for during this process and why you need to kick the habits

The mindset shifts that saved her sanity.


Next up, shop Releasing Fear, Embracing Life and The Level Up Journal Prompter Workbook


The Confusing Skill You Didn’t Know You Needed

Is it me or does it feel like the more we obsess about our goals, the more they seem to frustratingly not happen?

We are often told that if we want to be successful in life, we need to have motivation, desire, ambition and commitment, but as I’ve realized recently, there is another very important ingredient that many seem reluctant to talk about.

And since I’m not a reluctant person, but mostly because I want to share this information with you, I’ll let you in on the most secretive ingredient since KFC’s 7 herbs and spices.

The ingredient is ‘detachment’.

Yes, you read that correctly!

Now I can almost hear you murmuring, ‘what does detachment have to do with being successful?” cue confused face.


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What awaits you:

Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Happier Life, weighs in on why detachment is so important for mental health.

We look into the book of Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity as it explains why you need to relax your tight grip on how life should unfold.

We break down the Backwards Law

Marla Tabaka, a small business adviser, as well as Tania Kotsos, contributor for Mind Your Reality, weigh in on why releasing control actually brings success.

Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Healthier Life, talks detachment, peace and if they actually go hand in hand.


5 Ways Your Best Friends Set the Standards for Your Lover

Let’s be honest: There is no such thing as ‘Just Friends’,  in fact, the people who you choose to be your confidants and spend your time with  are very important people.

They are the ones who you trust, who you share your victories and failures with and they are the ones who you fully expect to have your back at all times and its all mutual.

There is an inner scale of friendship, that we all adhere to whether we admit to it or not and it runs from acquaintances, friends, good friends, close friends, to best friends, which we use to establish the level of connectivity, and vulnerability we display around each respective friend label.

(Am I wrong? Didn’t think so)

You know how awesome your friends are, the decisions you both make to ensure your relationships grow  happily, and the level of deep trust that you are consistently nurturing  ( especially your BFF’s)  so is it any surprise that these people who you have chosen to be in your inner sanctum highlight the standards  to which you must hold your romantic partner?

Nope, that makes sense!

Afterall the people you have bestowed the honour of ‘good friends’ and ‘best friends’ are relationships that are near and dear to your heart always… so why wouldn’t the person you are having sex with and linking lives not have similar qualities and show signs of care?

There is absolutely no reason.

The following are the five ways in which your BFF’s are setting the standards for the kind of behaviours and beliefs your partner should embody!


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what awaits you:

The TOP 5 ways your BFF’s set the gold standard for your partners

Kim Panganiban, LMFT, Certified Gottman Therapist, gives her insights on the partner you’re looking for.

Author of “Therapy in Focus: What to Expect from CBT for Social Anxiety Disorder” Arlin Cuncic, MA, sings the many beneficial praises behind close social bonds.

We break down the phenomenon of ‘ NO SEX INTIMACY’.

The real reason your partner has to get along with your friends revealed.


Next Up, Shop this amazing eBook, More Than Friends


Wish of the Week: Copa Cagna

Copa Cagna

Price:  $20

Why We’re Curious:

All wine drinkers have that one friend who when it comes to buying wine, it’s a whole production. They want to know the vintage, and they are all very elegant and dare I say downright snobby about getting the ‘right kind of wine’…luckily for the rest of us, who just like the taste of wine, there’s a brand out there just for us.

Leah Van Dale, also known as Carmella from her WWE persona has a wine brand that proudly proclaims that they are not for ‘ wine snobs’ and I am here for it!

Capo Cagna roughly translates to ‘boss bitch’ and the mission of the winery, is make their customers to feel like a million dollars without breaking the bank and just owning who you are unapologetically.

Yeah, I can get behind that.

They offer two bottles, the Cabernet Sauvignon and the Chardonnay and honestly, they look so good I want to taste!

So people, who have tried them out yet? Let me know!

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