The Role Negativity Plays In Manifesting

Is wrong to tune into your ‘negative’ thoughts?

When manifesting, people become more aware of their thoughts, of the words they speak and the way they think about themselves, and so they become very, very paranoid about what many address as ‘ negative thoughts’.

Of course your words have power, of course your thoughts have power and of course the way you think about yourself is powerful.

You are a powerful, divine being!

You are a million to one in a lifetime chance of being yourself, being in this time and space and being blessed with the talents, world view and ability to share joy to others. You are a unique being.

And with great power, comes great responsibilities.

So yes, you do need to be aware of your thoughts, words and actions because they are all working in conjunction to send signals to the Divine Spirit that’s only job is to give you what you demand.

Think of the Universe/ Holy Spirit as a benevolent God that is totally whipped for you. They want to give you every single thing you want, but here’s the catch.

They have to wait for you to tell them what you want ( free will and all that) and they have no real understanding of good / bad, their language is one of energy and the frequency of which that energy vibrates when it reaches them.

So if you’re feeding your fear based state, you’ll get more problems, more reasons to stress to F out and more of all the things you say you don’t want.

Why?

Because that’s all you’re thinking about, all you’re talking about, all you believe and expect will follow you in your life.

So you look for evidence that you are NOT going to make it, and you obsess over it. When asked what you don’t want, you know those answers better than the back of your own hand.  And let’s be honest, we’ve all been in this state for years. All learnt to maneuver around life based on the things we fear ( that’s how we survived).

And that’s also the reason when we do get the things we want, they happen in such a way that it further feeds our fear addiction, our stress and they do not stay good for the length of time they should.

So to move from a fear based state to one of love, so that you actually start getting what you desire , want and are being called to have, you have to do the same thing you’ve been doing with fear, but with love.

So you focus on the things you want,  love the feeling of them, you understand that they will come ( same as with fear, when they do), you find evidence that your life is awesome and moving in a direction of awesome and you allow yourself to connect to you more.

To truly move, you need to address those same ‘negative emotions’, and to do that, you have to tune into them.

They are not here to hurt you, but to feed what you allow them to. They are here to test, to challenge and based on your reaction, your ego ( a vital part of your subconscious personality and the vessel through with the Universe/ Holy Spirit protects you) will continue to feed your thoughts to help you stay safe. This will manifest as either more fear or a feeling of confident intuition.

So no it’s not at all wrong to tune into your ‘negative’ thoughts or emotions. In fact what you should do is allow them to come into your mind, analyze them and listen to what they are actually telling you.

To help you with that, I’m gonna give you an exclusive exercise taken from the Level Up Journal Prompter, where you face your feelings and understand what they are actually telling you.


THE FEELINGS


Tune into you right now and just be. No distractions, no interruptions, just be one with your thoughts and breathe as you are guided to, slowly and deeply.

What is an emotion or thought you are resistant to feeling or thinking.

Identify it. Look at it. Is it ultimately true?

What is present underneath that emotion?

Look at that. Is it true?

Feel your way through your various emotions, noticing the stories you’ve been telling yourself.

Observing what you’ve been telling yourself about your life or goals that do not feel good.

Become aware that these are all concepts and ideas that can be shifted.

What idea, concept, or story would feel better than the one you have been telling to yourself?

Take a break for 10 minutes a day at least and focus on the good feelings and thoughts that are now allowed to surround your happy goals.

Journal on your findings. 

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‘Nurture By NAPS’, Launch Will Support Expecting & New Mothers Amidst Pandemic

June 17th was a big day for the Boston NAPS, as the reputable market leader in women’s prenatal and postpartum care, announced the launch of the much anticipated Nurture by NAPS, their new membership program for new and expecting mothers.

Nurture by NAPS, is a subscription membership program which offers accessibility, comfort and community to new mothers.

 The new virtual education program is evidence-based, with an instructional curriculum from women going through pregnancy all the way through the early stages of motherhood.

While I personally have no children of my very own, I am the very proud Aunt to a boy and girl fraternal twin and plaything to a precocious six year old girl, in short I know how stressful and sometimes isolated new mothers can feel as some of my friends have confided their fears, worries and lack of knowledge to me.

This is why when I  was contacted with the release that the Boston NAPS was  going digital, especially in this time of Covid-19- which has not made being pregnant any easier at all, I knew I had to share this to my platform.

As noted by the press release,  the Nurture by NAPS educational platform, seeks to ‘ provide women with scalable, on demand pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting-related courses, procured and instructed by their team of highly-qualified medical professionals’; which is basically means, it’s there to take the guess-work out of your new life adventure- being a new mother.

“We are thrilled to bring our vision to life with the launch of Nurture by NAPS, reflecting our unwavering commitment to provide a healthy combination of medical and real-life mom advice, paired with a non-judgmental, access-from-anywhere community,” remarked Jamie O’Day & Emily Silver, Co-Founders of Boston NAPS. 

Co-Founders Jamie O’Day (BSN, RN, IBCLC) and Emily Silver (MSN, NP-C, IBCLC)

If you are unaware of the Boston NAPS, let me give you some back-story about Co-Founders Jamie O’Day (BSN, RN, IBCLC) and Emily Silver (MSN, NP-C, IBCLC).

These two lovely ladies who are mothers to 5 children combined with over 10 years experience as former Labor and Delivery nurses, founded Boston NAPS in 2011 as a side hustle during their time working together as Registered Nurses in labor and delivery unit of a local hospital where follow up postpartum care was a numerous request by many of their patients.

From there, this experienced and qualified duo worked diligently to help women feel more informed, confident and supported as they navigated pregnancy and of course parenthood.

So did we expect anything less from those who truly understand what others are going through as new mothers and as nurses combined when the pandemic hit the world and globally made it one of the scariest times to be a new mother?

Of course not.

It makes sense to me that the company would not only realize that with social distancing mandates unfolding that they would need to help more mothers on an even larger scale and in response, Nurture by NAPS was created and launched in June of this year.

 It is a very timely launch as according to the March of Dimes, more than 5 million women in the U.S live in ‘maternity care desert’, lacking access to professional obstetric and postpartum care, which means that Nurture by NAPS will be bridging the healthcare accessibility gap for these women who have been underserved in these communities.

“By creating a scalable, on demand curriculum that directly serves expecting and new moms with evidence-based educational content, we’re ultimately transforming the definition of community with digital access, while empowering women to feel confident in their decision-making, and addressing the trials of physical isolation via essential pregnancy, postpartum care and mental health resources,” says Jamie O’Day & Emily Silver, Co-Founders of Boston NAPS. 

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The Nurture by NAPS platform includes: Video content produced by medical professionals; Live webinars chalk-filled with valuable content; Weekly live Q&A sessions addressing trending topics; “Ask a Nurse” feature that offers parents an opportunity to tap into the expertise of nurses within 24 hours, and more. The programs are categorized chronologically: Pregnancy, 0-3 months, 3-6 months, 6-9 months, and 9-12 months. Programming starts at $175. (Taken directly from press release)

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Level Up Your Life in 9 Steps

WTF Is reconnection and why does it matter?

Reconnection to self is when you allow yourself to admit and accept your truths, your vision and your power. It’s legit the process of befriending yourself on the mindset level,  so you know who you are, why you’re doing what you’re doing and finally step into your co-creator shoes confidently.

You can sense when you need to reconnect with yourself.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling: foggy brains, restless mind, unavailable for most things that would have brought you some semblance of real heart centered joy, not knowing what would make you feel happy.

It’s shoulder muscles so tense, they constantly touch your ears, it’s feeling your face scowl and frown, it’s headaches, tense jawlines and gritting of teeth.

It’s living in a state of ‘ life won’t be better’ that robs you of your joy.

Here’s the thing:

You know who you are. You know that you want to move far away from this state. You know you want to smile more; you want to laugh, to feel light in your body and safe in the unshakeable knowledge that everything will all turn out for the best in the end.

You want to feel pleasure and way, way less pain.

When you reconnect to yourself, you’ll start to see the world differently; it’s a slow progress that is nothing to shout about with how seamless and easy it will be.

You’ll only notice that you are unavailable to negative thoughts, toxic energy and have no interest in engaging with anything seeking to bring down your vibes.

For me, reconnection was the process of realizing I was living  not for the glory of having this life, but in the state of all things that were never-ending going wrong and using that as reasons to cut myself off from my sources of light.

I was not social, I always felt like I needed to be working ( even as I was frustratingly overwhelmed and stressed out by the business not making as it should), I used my lack of finances and the shame around it to stop myself from enjoying most things. The thought was I’ll enjoy all those things once I reached my goal.

I had lost sight of who I was as Ashlee Cox. I only saw many failures and gave into protecting myself from them at all costs.

Reconnecting with myself, challenged me to move away from that kind of famine, defeating mindset and allowed me to create a new self-fulfilling prophecy.

One that involved a happier, healthier and well rounded Ashlee.

An Ashlee that had allowed herself to grow, to pivot on prioritizing problems that only brought more of the same, to using that same energy to concentrate on her actual goals.

An Ashlee that recognized she didn’t have problems, just signs that she needed a new path to her goal and allowed herself to take them.

An Ashlee that leveled the F up!

And I did it with the help of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

The Level Up Journal Prompter is available right now.

This book with its nine chapters will take you on a journey of self discovery like no other resource can in this day.

Chapters: Reconnection, Limiting Beliefs and Triggers, Stories and Paradigms, Self love, Trust and Belief, Life skills, Goals and Validation, Energy and Manifesting, Support and Boundaries, You, Intuition and the Struggle, Next Level Self .

I researched and wrote these chapters, complete with journal prompts, and strategic homework when I had finally started to allow myself to be more, to receive more and I still use them to this day, when I want to level up again.

There is an energy of accelerated growth within these chapters and a feeling of intentional ease and crystal clear clarity.

You’re ready to grow, ready to move from a state where you attract problems, to one where you easily attract success.

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The Transformation- The First Step vs Your 100th.

Inspiration can sneak up and hit you over the head from just about anywhere at any time. Same thing with epiphanies and this week, I got a healthy dose of both, while watching a show on the E Network.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking, what could she possibly have been watching?

Well, it was Revenge Body with Khloe Kardashian. Yes, I love that show and I’ll tell you why, as you read on.

For one, the show, especially this season, has a focus on not just the goal of weight loss, but on the wholistic journey of lifestyle change the individual is undertaking and it really shows how serious deciding to commit to the process and journey is as a continuing to grow person.

When these participants come onto the show, they are not just there to lose weight, rather they are there for help in dealing with their own demons, asking for help from these professionals to see what they are really fighting with and help them to shed the chrysalis and emerge the beautiful butterfly they know they can be.

They are ready to not just work hard, but also find their rhythm again and I relate to that so much!

While the show focuses on workouts and meal plans, if you really tune into what the participants are sharing with you, you would hear just how much of a lifestyle change for the better they are going through.

And it is rough AF.

It is the arduous task of changing habits, of not running to your security blankets, it’s about mindset shifts, discipline and self love.

It’s not just doing an exercise, but committing to the entire process, and even as they cry and sweat and think long and hard about giving up, many of them don’t.

They make a decision to see it through, they make a decision to be honest with themselves and their trainers and you the viewer by the end of the episode see a person who has grown into their next level selves.

Exercise and diet require the mind to be present and for it to work just as hard as you do when you push those weights, when you do that cardio and when you eat the veggies.

If your mindset doesn’t allow you to adapt, then you simply won’t.


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The Work Life Lie Revealed

“Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life.”

Can we talk about this statement please!

So I remember the first time I heard this magical quote, it was coming from the mouth of a very happy man who owned a taco food truck and I remember thinking ‘look at how freaking happy he is’ and I like everyone who was watching whatever show it was, started to melt at the idea and how true that seemed right then and there.

It hit me profoundly, because, yeah!- work shouldn’t be boring, stressful or make me want to cry just by thinking about it right?

Work should be something I look forward to, something I thoroughly enjoy doing day in and day out and something that allows me to learn new skills and then apply them. Work should be something that I am passionate about and that grows right along with me.

Then, no less than five seconds later, my old school training came back to me and all those amazing, magical thoughts I had about loving work, came crashing down like an empty glass being pushed off the table by a indifferent cat , impassively watching as the glass shatters upon impact to the cold tiled floor.

What could have been the thought that triggered this level of destruction?

“ But he doesn’t look like he makes a lot of money…and isn’t that food truck situation super risky and not financially secure?

And yeah, just like that I remembered every one of my teachings that had been ingrained in me about needing money,

needing my money to come from a secure and dependable source,

needing to make a whole lot of money

and the belief that a lot of money could only come to me if I was as endlessly industrious as those freaking ants…because no one wanted to be that slacker grasshopper and then be totally screwed!

(Even though if you looked at that story in a different light, the grasshopper played music for those ants and then the Universe provided for the grasshopper via those same ants).

And so I did what any normal, red blooded female who had been taught that life was hard and making money was the only thing that would make your whole world go round, I thought about my skills and talents, picked the ones that Society seemed to pay a reasonable amount for, that I didn’t hate and I applied for a job at all the places that I prayed would pay me.

I was not thinking about myself in terms of what actually landing this job would entail or even mean.

All I thought about was the fact that I had a University degree that I was now pretty sure I was actually never going to get a chance to use, three Associate degrees that I was definitely not going to gain money from and I needed to show my parents that I had not infact wasted time on the subjects that I had loved at the time.

So basically I needed a well paying job to justify my ‘higher education’ that I partly paid for with my temp job as a Sales Clerk in a High-end Shoes Store, also because I desperately did not want to continue to work in the shoe’s store after so many years of freaking study!

And for a while I admit that I was very happy! I felt as if I had cheated the system, because my job was perfect!

I wrote for a living and it was decent pay- though I wished it was more, even as I didn’t expect it to ever be and I got to learn new skills, meet new people and eventually move out of my parents place and into a shared space with my then boyfriend.


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So in a very real sense to my mind, “I was doing what I loved!” and it paid well enough.

And it was almost perfect, as perfect as my young brain could imagine it could get….until of course, it was not.

Until I was no longer doing what I loved, because the atmosphere had changed and I was starting to feel anxious, starting to realize that while I loved writing, meeting people, sharing their stories, I no longer enjoyed doing so in the environment I was doing it in.

So the catch to this fairy tale is that all too soon, the job brought with it all the stresses, pressures, drama and time constraints that I could not help but to shaft at, and I was now working at all hours, felt like I was no longer in control of my time or where I had to go for work and my boss had me on call always.

And the worst part was that I believed deeply that I would never get a better job or money making opportunity than this.

 So what was I going to do?

I genuinely did not like the ‘how’ of what I was doing anymore, but I felt as if all the reasons this felt so wrong to me were not actually valid enough for me to leave and so that level of impotence and anger built up in me, trapping me, stifling me and slowly I went from a happy person to one that was not and let’s just say it does not take very long for misery to infect all aspects of your life.

Eventually I realized that I was torturing myself for no reason and poisoning my own well of happiness, and all because I was terrified that this thing that I had outgrown was all I was ever going to have.

Why was it that I was placing everything over my own happiness?

Why was it that I was convinced that my happiness did not matter and needed to be sidelined in favour of bills and my superior’s needs?

One day, I remembered the quote: “Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life.”

And it truly hit me the significance of this quote as it relates to my own life.

It made me realize that I had sacrificed a lot of myself to my old training and I wanted to have new teachings.

I wanted to actually give myself permission to allow myself to ‘ do what I love’,  I wanted to be working for hours and hours on something I genuinely enjoyed because yeah that’s technically hard work, but I’d be smiling, I’d be happy and I would have no complaints.

I wanted to have to be dragged away from work, instead of being eager to get away from it and the most important thing I realized was that I owed it to myself and the rest of my life to have that experience.

This meant that I needed to find out what I loved to do, what I truly enjoyed and then to be brave enough to pursue it.

And this would not be based on how much money I thought it would bring, not on psyching myself up to do it and knowing in my soul I was settling, or that I was doing it to please others, while I found no pleasure in it.

I wanted to experience that quote- I wanted to love what I do and never feel like I was ‘working’ ie stressing, frustrated, wanting to escape it.

And to do that, I had to realize what I wanted for my life, not just financially, but on the real scale, the This is ME scale. I had to be brave enough to pursue a healthy relationship with myself where I got to know myself, my likes, dislikes, loves and desires and validate them.

I had to relearn the way I spoke to myself, the things I did, how I took care of myself, and allowed happiness to enter into my life.

This came with repetition, with patience, with the understanding of unconditional love, support and the importance of my own health.

This allowed me to clear away some of the misery I had been harbouring and to bring light into my life.

The more I did it the more I realized where my passions lied and I want that for you as well.

You deserve to allow yourself to feel truly happy, to feel that sensation emanating from your heart and spilling to fill up your body.

To wake up and smile because today you GET to do what you love and it easily supports your whole life.

The only question is : What are you waiting for to truly get to know yourself?


The Key to Feeling Young Again

Beauty tips, cute clothes, hours logged in the gym and a strict diet regimen-, these are the things that we turn to when we want to feel happy again; when we want to recapture the spark of our youth, and make our bodies feel GREAT again!

And all of those things work, they help us to be healthier, to feel more confident and to even look at the world with a wider, more rose tinted and relaxed lens, however, these things are not enough.

They are perfect and essential for a balanced life don’t get me wrong, but these things are only half of the coin when it comes to being truly healthy and living that youthful life.

So what is the other half?

It’s the intangible side of you; it’s the part of you that controls your desires, your emotions and even whether you even do any of the above activities!

It’s the side of you that allows you to perceive the world around you and lives right in your heart.  Mental and mindset health don’t always get the credit and due diligence they deserve and over time we have tried to make them sound much better, talking about self care, self love, passions and goals.

No matter what you call it, this intangible side of you is the difference between you reaching your goals and living the kind of life you desire or you feeling muggy, stuck and n stasis, crumpled by stress.

This side of you, the side that should be ruled by your intuition also needs exercise, it needs to be nourished and it needs to be maintained so that you feel not only young again but energetic and unconditionally happy.

It is what will allow you to face your fears, conquer your challenges and stand back up with a huge grin on our face when you are knocked down.

To guide you towards the balanced health of that side of you, we at Ashlee Unscripted created the Level Up Journal Prompter.


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This book will take you on an insightful journey through your own life and help you to paint the picture of who you intend to grow into next.

It tackles some of the most common pain points as well as pleasure centres  of that side of you and allows you space to vent out not only your frustrations, but also the things you really, really, really want!

Journaling has always been a great way for me to bring the things in my subconscious out into the open where I could look at them and really see them, really acknowledge these wants, desires and also the hurdles.

Says, Ashlee Cox, author of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

This particular book is filled with prompts, insights and actionable tasks that I myself took when I was going through a mindset transition and I felt awful, but knew there had to be more to this and as I face the pain points, I created the journal as well.”

This is a labour of love she is quick to point out and as such she admits that she was skeptical of compiling the questions and thought s she had gone through into a product and release it into the world, but over time, when more of her readers responded to her messages on trying to get their life on track, and expressing their want to feel younger, happier and like they were growing into an enhanced version of themselves, she put the prompter for sale.

It is really for anyone who is trying to figure their life out and want to get back to heart and center. It’s for the person who wants to truly feel young again and be really healthy, because they are taking care of both sides of themselves and allowing themselves to truly grow!” said Ashlee.

Some of the topics covered within the prompter include, reconnecting to the self, repurposing limiting beliefs and conquering mental blocks, understanding the importance of energy and what you are expending yours on, as well as breaking down manifesting abundance and understanding how energy ties it all together.


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Envy No More: How To Be Happy When Everyone Else’s Life Looks Perfect

They are all wrong!

It’s not that you hate your life; it’s that you know that it can be even better!

You know your life can be so much more and, you feel it in your gut, you feel it every time you think of what you’d rather be doing in this very instance if things would only FINALLY go your way.

You know it’s possible to live this free, adventurous and relaxed lifestyle, because whenever you go on your social media, there are hundreds of stories about those who left their job and are now vacationing in Bali, can work whenever and wherever they want to, are constantly partying but most of all, what really attracts you to the accounts are the looks of total bliss and freedom they are expressing.

And those images, stories and experiences are what draw you like a magnet to their accounts.

You gobble up their stories of living a fully free life, of making money in their sleep, of pursuing their dreams effortlessly and flawlessly and you compare that to your own seemingly boring and staid existence while  longing settles deep inside.

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Why can’t that be you?

Why can’t you be the one sharing the stories of living this fabulous life, of going to the parties, of rubbing shoulders with amazing people, of buying whatever you want, going wherever you want when you want?

Why are you only sitting on the sidelines, pining over someone else’s lifestyle , deciding as you  want more that your own life will never even be close to theirs?

So you get envious, frustrated, angry, jealous, exhausted and stressed out because you no longer feel as if your life measures up or will ever get even truly close to all the things you now believe you need to have in it.

You focus on all the things that are glaringly missing. The people in your life, start to point out the long laundry list of things that you have yet to accomplish and compare you with those close to your age or younger who seem to be living that socially-accepted close to perfect life and because you’re hyper aware of this, and it STINGS- it drives you even further into the scarcity mindset.

Where even as you want more, desire more and work towards it, the one thing that drags you just from the finishing line- that you aren’t even aware is  so close to you-, is the fact that you already know that you’re never gonna get there.

And the real reason that you’re never going to get there is because you’ve not been honest about what you really want in life.
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You haven’t been honest about what lifestyle you truly would enjoy.

You have not been honest about the fact that you lost sight of your intuitive end goals a long time ago because you buried them deep in your psyche.

You haven’t been honest about the fact that you do NOT believe in the possibility of your life changing for the drastically better without some sort of cosmic sacrifice, (which means really that you have already doomed yourself to failure, even as you pretend to bury that thought).

All of that doesn’t deter you however, from wanting to prove those who doubt you wrong.

If anything, it drives you to all out war, and you hustle, grind, do all the things, but never just enough to actually win consistently, because deep down you know you’re not going to.

You just need a win. You just need something to show that you are working towards success, but whose version of success are you actually working towards?

For a long time, I thought success was checking off my grocery list of things to have, things I had to prove and living a life that was more professionally based than actually feeding my soul.

I spent hours researching how to make money from home, because I felt as if my  job was making me crazy and I was convinced that I could make large sums of money quickly so that I could just enjoy myself without having to worry about money.

I wanted all the nice things- vacationing, expensive dinners because I love food, time to go to the gym, time to relax and unwind, etc.

And I was going to do ALL I needed to do because I wanted this and I SAW others living this, so I could too. Envious?

Of course not, I just wanted to live a wholly different life, just like those other people who were boldly boasting were as well!

At least that was what I told myself.

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In reality, what I was doing was counterproductive to any of the things I wanted.

I stayed at home, researching how to build my business and tried a hundred marketing strategies, that promised to work with no large investment, even as  I knew were not intuitively correct for me because I was now fully on into my DESPERATION mode and not the ‘I love what I’m doing’ mode.

I strained my eyes because I was forever staring intently into the computer screen, trying to figure out what I was obviously doing wrong, because the Experts all said they did this one thing and maybe I’m just not good at this… and instead of actually taking time to heal, I brainwashed myself into thinking a little strain was nothing and tried to make myself work even harder all to no better or further results.

I did not really work out, because I had no time to spare  and if I did manage to squeeze in a few minutes, it was to work out the mounting  frustration, I felt at STILL not living that glamourous life! Which meant that I didn’t allow myself to enjoy the fact that I was getting stronger and more flexible ; instead I became fixated on the fact that the scale was not decreasing as quickly as it damn well should be.

I did not really sleep or actually wake up feeling refreshed because my mind was turbulent and I could not shut off my thoughts or the web of increasing fears that wrapped tighter and tighter each day that I failed at my goals.

And in all of this, I spent rare time with my friends, ( citing mountains of work, no money and no free time) , got irritable with my family when they needed my help with anything (because seriously, can’t they see I’m trying to get stuff done? Why can’t they even try to appreciate what I’m trying to build here?)

I got progressively deeper and deeper into the mindset that I was a stupid failure  who was never going to be one of those people who got to just lived life as they freakin well wanted and should just shrivel up and stop, because obviously I was never going to hack this thing.

Hindsight is 20/20 and now I can tell you that all of that stress and self castigation was not at all in line with what I was telling others or even myself  about what I wanted in life.

So what was the root of this discrepancy in what I wanted in life and what I was doing?

My idea of being successfully happy was what was screwing with me and I suspect you as well.

Chatting with a friend of mine recently about life and why we got so frustrated about not having the things we wanted, we came to realisation that our mindset and the things we claimed to want were not our true goals.

It was a shock to realise that even as we were trying to change our lives, we were still essentially people pleasing!

Yes, we wanted to break away from the status quo of white picket fence, and an ok job, where we worked up to 5 weeks of VACATION. Where the amount of money you had declared your life a success or failure and  wanted to chart our own path, but in the bak of our minds, the things that were driving us were not our true wants.

We were still protecting them by hiding them from ourselves and getting frustrated when we were unable to achieve them.

What did that mean for us then?

It meant that I had not actually decided for myself what success ACTUALLY looked like, what it would feel like and mean to me; rather, I was looking at OTHER people’s ideals of success and how they were creating that for themselves.

Isn’t that crazy?!

My borrowed idea of happy success and accompanying envy was what was holding me back from living a life that was truly free and happy. I was grinding and hustling because I was told I needed to and I believed that that was true, even as I was focusing on the things that didn’t mean as much to me.

So if I truly wanted to be living the lifestyle that I knew deep down I wanted, then I had to be honest with myself and most importantly, reconnect to my true goals and desires.

So yes, others were building families, getting promotions, working their dream jobs, vacationing in exotic places around the world and making money in their sleep.

And if I’m honest with myself, while I was impressed by those things, they were not necessarily what I wanted for myself and not intuitively right for me in the way others were getting those results.

That revelation lead me to do more mindset work, to dive deeply into myself and pull out my truth from the depth of the vault I had hidden them within.

When I really did the mindset work and put in real effort to envision the kind of life I was truly craving, I found that what was truly important to me were not necessarily  tangible, rather there were about moments.

Do I want to make the money?  Yes.

Do I want to live the carefree life and own all the creature comforts that I see? Hellz Yes.

Are those the most important things in my life? No

And that shocked the crap outta me, because if they weren’t that important, then should I be focusing on them with the intensity that I had  been?

What I did learn was that what was the most important things in my life were my experiences, my moments spent with those I loved and who loved me.

It was about being fully present in the moment and making lasting memories. It was about feeling healthy and brimming with joy at being in my own skin.  It was about being self sufficient, and enjoying the life I was creating one action and thought at a time.

Those were the things that truly mattered to me and as such those were the things that needed to have my intense concentration. And the more I focused on those things, the more the other things came into being.

The other things, the money, the business and the luxurious things I wanted, all came to being as they were necessary to support my other goals.

( So I wanted to spend more time with my family, then I had to ease off of the long hours and late nights. Same thing for really taking care of myself and as I did that, my business started to actually take off, because I was now taking actions that were not from desperation, but from a true place of confidence and allowing the business to actually breathe!).

I started giving energy finally to the things that fuelled my soul and allowed them to light up the rest of my life.  Something so simple now as I write it, took me months to give myself permission to do.

Afterall, I had been taught to focus on making the money at all costs, on working so hard at my job, and it felt weird to not be giving 12 hours to trying to make money and build the empire.

It felt weird at first to actually spend weekends ‘slacking’, to allow myself to rest, to not be obssessed with the things that were going wrong and to celebrate no matter how small the things that were going right

Even now I’m still struggling and learning to just be! Years of conditioning will not go away overnight. it takes WORK!

And I’m very happy that I have allowed myself to come to this firm decision  to shift my mindset so that it was more centered on me truly enjoying life, instead of waiting for when things were ‘perfect’ to start.

And what really helped me to get to this pinnacle point in my life?

The Level Up Journal Prompter.

Level Up works

This workbook changed my life and the lives of those who have worked through it, by reminding us that we are not in a race with others and that our self is the thing that we need to be nourishing and helping to truly grow.

It has 8 core themes, that as you work through  guides you to insights about how you really want to create and nurture the life you want.

  • That means reconnecting and learning yourself as you would with a BFF. What do you really want, what really drives you etc.

  • How to identify, conquer and resolve your limiting beliefs and triggers.

  • What stories you have created around your life due to your experiences and how they have been shaping your life and how you can use them to empower yourself.

  • How to start truly trusting yourself implicitly.

  • How energy really works and how you can use it to actually manifest your real end goals.

  • Understanding what intuition really is and how to use it to guide you through your best life.

  • Creating and envisioning your Next Level Self and bridging the gap between the You of now and that Boss level person.

The Level Up Journal Prompter is one of the only resources on the market that challenges you to really introspect and not only express yourself but also gives you homework so that you take real time actions that will give you real results.

Nothing is ever gained by just journaling and writing ( sadly), you also need to do the work, after you’ve gained the honest insights.

The journaling  will help to clarify your path, now you have to actually take the steps and the Level Up Journal Prompter is perfect for guiding you to action for making the life you wanted for real.

So are you ready?

Are you ready to STOP being envious over other people’s way of live and boldly live your own, freely, happily and enthusiastically?

Are you ready to intuitively describe your own version of what YOUR successful life looks like?

Are you ready to pursue your real end goals and reap the benefits of putting your energy and effort into the things you ACTUALLY want to accomplish and live for yourself?

If you answered, yes to any of these, it means that you are ready to take action!

It means that you are over settling for less than you KNOW you can have!

You’re SO ready to get to the good part, ( career success, love, money etc) !

You’re ready for things to FINALLY start going your way!

You are ready to evolve and become not only a happier version of yourself, but a levelled up version of you!

The you who no longer people please, or gets frustrated when people don’t get/ scoff at  your vision but gets the results they actually desire, even as they are scared.

The You who is so invested in enjoying their live RIGHT NOW that they are ready to make it a reality and the Level Up Journal Prompter is the first step towards starting the real work to getting there.


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Failure is Only the Beginning of Your Level Up

If you had told me just two years ago that my epic failures would have paved the way for me to be on track to living my ideal life, I would have probably punched you in the arm and blocked you.  (maybe)

First of all, don’t call out my failures like that. Second, don’t lie!

All I could see then, was how everything was out of control, how exhausted I was and how sure I was that it was only a matter of time before everything went tits up again.

I was seriously blinded to the fact that just like in those books I love, I – the heroine of this piece- was simply going through her growing pains that would finally open her eyes to the truth about what she soul deeply wanted and lead her on the path to getting it.

( Hindsight is an amazing thing when you finally get it, but in the moment, these events feel like you’re drowning in a deep abyss and ain’t glamorous or as fun as they make it seem in the books and movies!)

And if you had told me that I could turn my life around through journaling, there would have been a real high possibility that I would have thrown water at you and told you to ‘ Buzz off’.

And it’s not because I didn’t like journaling, rather it was HOW I had been journaling that would have made me think that you were just being annoying for no reason … and possibly taunting me.

For me, journaling was tantamount to simply reporting the details of my day into a book, to vent about something or to just express myself in a safe-ish and private place, with some thoughts about how I felt about an event, but certainly not as I use it now.

It was not an activity I saw being even remotely possible to being  described as  ‘ life changing’ or even something that could help me in real time, so you cannot begin to imagine my shock when I started learning about journaling prompts and actually tried them out for 10 days!

It was such an eye-opener for me!

Who knew, I could get this level of insight into myself from just expressing myself on paper? Everyone….apparently.

I had enrolled in a free event with Amanda Frances, and it was to help entrepreneurs to release the blocks they had around their businesses and money, while guiding us to being honest about how we envisioned them to function and convert.

Now Amanda is one of the few business coaches who believes that mindset goes a long ass way towards success in all forms and so, her homework was in the form of journaling prompts.

And these prompts really opened up my world to what I had OBVIOUSLY been missing out on for way too long.

With the prompts, I had to really zero in on the question and be honest with myself about the corresponding answer, since that would determine how I structured the business and get those results I was craving.

This process also showed me just how much I was still lying to myself and attempting to keep even my thoughts about my future and my desires as safe and vague as possible.

It brought home with startling clarity that if I was still playing small  even to myself, then I was in a real bad way after all and I was tired of that!

I was tired of feeling like I couldn’t express my real wants even to myself because the crushing disappointment of not finding a way to make them a reality may send me crazy.

I was tired of feeling like I was being called for so much more but in the moment being stuck AF and could not see the trees for the bushes.

I was exhausted living in the problem and not allowing myself to believe that I was capable of the solution.

  I had somewhere along the way accepted that failure was more likely and reasonable an outcome than me actually achieving what I wanted to.

I was so over all of that!

I wanted to be honest  with myself finally and I could feel this block in my brain, hiding my true wants away from me, in the same manner as when I hide sweets from my 5 year old cousin- just out of reach.

It was beyond infuriating and in my frustration, I challenged myself to flip the script and instead of getting angry and petulant, I’d calm down and get to the bottom of this.

So I took the time to clear my mind ( not easy at all!) , to relax my breathing, and to focus on the truth of the questions presented to me.

I also allowed myself to not stress about the length of my answers, rather just on being honest and not shying away from the truth, even as my brain tried and kept trying to switch gears. Honestly, it felt like i was trying to wrangle a stubborn horse into a pen!

And do you know what?

It brought such clarity to my life; I started to get excited again and my brain reignited with so many ideas for what I wanted to implement in my future and business. I felt some of the tension I’d had from wrangling my thoughts and some of my limiting beliefs melt away and I felt lighter.

My head no longer hurt and felt foggy, my shoulders were suspiciously looser and my whole body was buzzing with a very different type of energy.

Re-reading my answers a day later- because I believe in letting things marinate- I allowed them to trigger whatever emotion denoted within me and gave myself permission to simply feel them.

To not scrutinize them, or wrestle with them but to simply let them wash over me like waves crashing on the sandy shores and allow my real thoughts to come to light from the vault in my mind.

Allowed them to challenge, inspire and dare me to do something about them, to turn them from fleeting thoughts triggered by intuitive nudges into aligned actions.

And that was what I did.

For those who know me, you know that I love writing things down and creating resources (I have too many outlined ideas for projects! Guys it’s a problem!).

So that is what I did.

I set pen to paper and created the Level Up Journal Prompter, because I needed to go through the self –reflective process again, but this time the target would not be for my business, rather it would be for my life.

I had started to feel disconnected from myself in ways that defy explanation and meditation was  just not enough to help me to feel reconnected again, plus I was listening to a lot of mindset coaches and they introduced the concept of ‘ Next Level Self’ which for all intents and purposes was your ideal, leveled up version of self.

The version of you that has moved past your blocks, is living the life you could only have dreamt of right now and has an improved mindset.

And I knew that to get to the true, honest to God version of my leveled up self I had to go through the steps. I had to reconnect with myself first- become consciously aware of whom I was right now, and become aware of the other factors that would be impacting on my growth.

So I sat down, created the questions, answered them, and guided myself along the path to not only reconnecting to who I am right now, but also who I am growing into!

That is the power of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

Those who have already bought it since its launch this year, told me that  it has helped them to become more aware of themselves, realize just what triggered their limiting beliefs, helped them to repurpose them and has challenged them to be more honest about what they really want out of life and what energy and effort they were truthfully going to put into making those thoughts reality.

It’s all about leveling up and growing into an enhanced you, with love, understanding and the strength accumulated for the you of right now!

Once you have learnt how to truly reconnect with yourself and allow yourself to grow or ‘level up’ everything else gets to work a whole lot better.

Those worries that have been plaguing you, that you’ve been shoving down, they become indicators and add to your strategies list.

Those people, who always try to use your insecurities against you, are suddenly powerless because you now are able to create and enforce your boundaries.

That feeling of being lost, disappears because you now have a Light Me up list and know yourself even better.

Those tight shoulders and strained back that are always bearing the load of your stresses can finally unwind and relax, because you’ve figured out the best way to actually release your stress, so you have more fun, laugh more and spend more time with those you want to.

The Level Up Journal Prompter comes with 9 unique themes, all designed  to help you explore and delve deeply into the best thing ever created in this dimension- You and guides you to see yourself for real.

It also helps to show how far you’ve already come and how to bridge the gap from the awesome you now to the Next Level version of you!


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How My Epic Failures Allowed for a Fully Free Life

It never occurred to me that just 4 months after my 30th birthday I’d be moving back in with my parents, especially when I had successfully done all the things I had been told to accomplish and a bit more by age 27.

I was an amazing journalist who got to cover all the top shows and pageants, who was schmoozing with Ambassadors and got specially invited to their functions.

I was even one of the extremely few journalists to be allowed to cover an event in the depths of the American Embassy in Barbados all while making decent pay.

I lived with my husband who supported my dreams and wanted to happily build our family together and we had not too long moved from our starter home in a really nice community, into an amazing townhouse styled apartment which was even closer to his work.

My family both biological and the in laws, all got along and I received nothing but love from my husband’s family. His mom was like my second maid-of-honour!

My new neighbours were fun and awesome. And I was ecstatic when my friend Jax moved in next door and we had our wine and chill nights with one of our other neighbours, Jen, a working single mother of one.

I was living the dream of writing for a living, I fully owned my car  and was about to launch a new business with one of my best friends- turned sister (we got so extremely close that people really thought we could be twins- despite us looking nothing alike lol), while launching my own solo business in graphic design!

(read: Can you spell busy bee?)

So what the hell happened?!

How did I go from living that life, to moving back with my parents’ seconds away from being absolutely  destitute and willing myself  not cry because I was sure I would flood the parish, if not the whole country?

Turns out the things that look great on paper aren’t always that great or long lasting, particularly when they are not your END goals, but you decide you can settle for them.


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Ashlee takes you on a journey of how her seemingly awesome lifestyle, was not what it seemed.

We get insights from her job, the good, the bad and the reasons why she felt compelled into becoming an entrepreneur.

Ashlee gets vulnerable and heartbreakingly honest about how her marriage failed, the lessons she learnt from it and how it’s allowed her to build a much healthier and better future.

She talks about the journey of starting over from seemingly scratch and how she figured out to stop punishing herself for it.

She pinpoints the differences in her mindset then and now

How she learnt to forgive herself and allow a future filled with hope and renewed faith

She talks about her life now and the amazing things she is up to now

She talks about  the things she had to release and learn to enjoy her present.


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The thing that pulled me from the brink of energetic extinction!

I am so passionate about helping people gain clarity of self and nurture their growth mindset, that I literally made it my business.

My experience in this field started not surprisingly with my friends first, because they would come to me  and still do- for relationship advice, to vent and  to just have a safe, stress free sounding board.

And they would contact me at times when they just could not see past their own anger or mistake or was scared by something in their relationships and I would be the one they would either call or literally drive to visit and we’d have a session.

If they were by my house, we would go for a walk as I live in the country side and nature is awesome for heart to hearts or we would go to the beach and walk along the sand, listening to the waves crash against the shore, while they expressed what was bothering them.

And afterwards, they would thank me for really listening to them, for letting them pour out what they needed to and also for being honest in how I helped to guide them to reveal what was underneath their distress, which then helped them to solve their own predicament.

Lately, I’ve been working with more entrepreneurs, towards nurturing their growth mindset, which has been so crucial to them living the life they want overall and also in nurturing their own rising empire.

And while they may be business minded, they are all still human and they have been going through tough relationships times break-ups and family dramas all of which has been contributing to the blocks they have been experiencing in their lives, but the one thing that they all have in common, is the realization that they can have a better life.


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They can have a life they enjoy and that is not ruled by fear, anxiety and desperation.

They are realizing that they are indeed worthy of unconditional support,  and love and that it is safe for them to be honest with themselves about what is actually happening in their lives in that moment.

They are shedding old, draining paradigms and at their own pace, shifting into new, better serving ones.  They are learning the importance of emotional energy flow and self love and how this can and will impact their actions, decisions and overall life health.

It is my belief that the  world needs more people who are self aware, who are ready to be more positive and genuine with themselves and others, because then you don’t get the people who will waste your time, take pleasure in making others  feel less than, or will disrespect your boundaries.

You’ll get more people willing to help, willing to see how things can be solved instead of inflicting unnecessary pain and stress on others. More people will be willing to take responsibility for their actions and are aware that true power comes from being able to communicate and be honest up front, so we’ll have less life trolls.

And I’ve seen these kinds of changes within the people who I work with. I love it when they are able to see the big picture of a situation and are no longer limited to only their point of view and also when they realize that growing is an every day journey that they are more than up to.

It makes me so happy when they have given themselves the permission to be living the life they dream of and know that it is safe to go through life’s hurdles and know that this is just a challenge for them to solve on their way to further growth.

The funny thing is that I have been passionate about mindset work for a long time, but only truly began to see its real value and applying it to my own life, when I came to the abrupt decision that I had to no real choice but to leave my marriage.

 I was in shambles, doubting my worth, doubted my ability and was miserably cranky AF.

I felt like everything around me was crumbling, including my work, my social life, my health everything.  I was just tired.

And learning about the Law of Attraction and enrolling into my first online course on mindset and business started me along a much different and so much better path.

It took like months of real work, discipline and several mindset shifts for me to pull myself back from the brink of extinction and to realize that, this painful situation that I was dealing with in that moment, was not actually the end of my world, and that I had the choice to let all the poison out and begin to rebuild the life I felt had been burnt down.

That hope, alone was enough for me to really start getting my mojo back and not only did I start to feel better mentally, but I also got the strength to finally start to take care of myself, to release and resolve old stories.

Soon I was brave enough to not just help myself through one of the roughest most dangerous times of my life, but to also start a movement to help anyone who ever went through something similar or were on the journey towards self growth and needed genuine guidance, because while it seems easy to say, in real life, that ish is HARD WORK!


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