The Secret Truth to Being Successful

It has been ingrained in me from a very young age that success in any form, comes from hard work. This belief is what got me through my Common Entrance Examination when I was ten, got me to my high grades at the CXC level when I was fifteen and what saw me burn right out in college, only to fight for supremacy in University.

It is a concept that has also seen me through many days at my various jobs and even more so as a budding entrepreneur.

However, it is also a concept that I realized I grossly misinterpreted and drove too far, too deeply. The concept of hard work suggests to me sweat, blood, tears and an unrelenting drive to achieve my goal. The flip side of that being, there is little room for fun, happiness, mistakes or patience, things I realized I needed for a healthy life.

It is a concept that I have grappled with for years because if I was not successful in something, then it meant I needed to work even harder, and had to make even more sacrifices, which always felt wrong but necessary.

Those sacrifices often times came in the form of spending time with loved ones, taking breaks, taking good care of my health and body and becoming even more of a workaholic who had nothing to show for it.

It meant I had to do more, dig in my heels further, cut out all distractions and drive myself ever onward towards success.

Success meant hard work.

It’s only later in my life, late twenties really that I began to understand that hard work did not actually mean eye-strain, sleepless nights, fighting to work with people who did not want to work for me or sacrificing time with love ones .

 It did not mean self-punishment or being super unhealthy. In fact it turns out that hardwork meant having a new school of thought, where I needed to do less, which allowed me to have even more.

As an entrepreneur, I listened to many webinars on strategy, on building up my business and all the things that I absolutely had to have in place or guaranteed failure of my business, and I am here to say that all of that was absolutely wrong.

In life it’s not about having the right strategy, it’s not about working yourself to death and it is definitely not about robbing yourself of happiness.  What it is about is fueling your high energy meter.

Psychologist, mindset coaches, spiritual healers and intuitive entrepreneurs all know the truth behind living your best life and being successful.

In short, they all know one secret truth:


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what awaits you:

The secret all the experts, gurus and yours truly now know to be true and has helped to become way more success in all areas of life.

Gabby Bernstein weighs in on what a ‘Super Attractor’ is and how becoming this inspires even more success in life

We talk fear addiction and how to rehab the habit in real life.

Ashlee talks about her struggles with accepting this new way of reaching success and it’s not at all what you’d think it’d be.

We break down how this weird concept, unlocks the lifestyle you desire when applied daily.


The Confusing Skill You Didn’t Know You Needed

Is it me or does it feel like the more we obsess about our goals, the more they seem to frustratingly not happen?

We are often told that if we want to be successful in life, we need to have motivation, desire, ambition and commitment, but as I’ve realized recently, there is another very important ingredient that many seem reluctant to talk about.

And since I’m not a reluctant person, but mostly because I want to share this information with you, I’ll let you in on the most secretive ingredient since KFC’s 7 herbs and spices.

The ingredient is ‘detachment’.

Yes, you read that correctly!

Now I can almost hear you murmuring, ‘what does detachment have to do with being successful?” cue confused face.


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What awaits you:

Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Happier Life, weighs in on why detachment is so important for mental health.

We look into the book of Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity as it explains why you need to relax your tight grip on how life should unfold.

We break down the Backwards Law

Marla Tabaka, a small business adviser, as well as Tania Kotsos, contributor for Mind Your Reality, weigh in on why releasing control actually brings success.

Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Healthier Life, talks detachment, peace and if they actually go hand in hand.


Start Dating Yourself

The idea of self-dates may seem strange especially if you’re in a relationship, after all wasn’t one of the overall points of having a partner, so we wouldn’t have to go and do things alone?

But that’s just the thing, why are we so determined to not spend time with ourselves?

Why does the idea of going out alone, bring up feelings of awkward loneliness and feelings of slacking off, when we could be spending time being more ‘productive’.

We know we are social creatures, but does that really explain the sheer panic and fear many of us feel at the prospect of being alone with our thoughts or visiting a place alone?

Mental strength trainer and international bestselling mental strength author, Amy Morin, breaks down this conundrum for us …


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What’s awaiting you:

Key advice from Mental strength trainer and international bestselling mental strength author, Amy Morin on why dating yourself is a must!

Online Coach, Sarah Von Bargen, weighs in on how doing what we love also benefits our other relationships.

Elite Daily Contributor Lena Oh, gives awesome insights on the connection you achieve when going solo.

Find out if it really is natural to enjoy your solo-ness or if you should want others with you…nature vs nurture.


How to Protect Your Energy During the Covid-19 Lockdown

Just last night , Acting Prime Minister of Barbados, the Hon. Santia Bradshaw, confirmed that the country now has 45 cases of the aggressive covid-19 virus, and that the Government has decided to implement additional measures under the Emergency Management Act, including the closing of banks, beaches and parks as well as the prohibition of alcohol sales, among other restrictions.

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For me, this comes just hours after witnessing the cremation of my Dad, who died of a heart attack last month. Needless to say, it is not an easy time in our household, but I’ve decided that rather than give into the creeping fear and growing panic, I prefer to look at all of this as a chance to protect my energy and stay centered.

Right now, with everything around the world seeming to be spiraling right out of control, where you are being encouraged to practice social distancing of at least 6 feet from everyone, to stay quarantined home, and to practice as many healthy hygiene habits as possible, this is a very deadly, yet oddly surreal time.

So if you’re with me and prefer not to give into the addictive siren call of fear, here are some things to do to protect your energy and keep your mind healthy as well as your physical space.

  1. Start the day without the phone. I wake up pretty early and have enforced the rule of not looking at my phone until at least 9 am, so that other people’s energy and vibes do not affect the way I begin my day. I’m considering enforcing this at the end of my day as well and possibly keeping the phone on airplane mode during the ‘off times’.
  2. Do start the day with positive affirmations. I’ve felt pretty ‘out of it’ these past few days, as huge lifestyle and emotional changes have been coming at me one after the other, and I’ve been trying to be mindful of how I’ve been perceiving them. And it has not been easy at all. What I find does help is to spend 10 minutes in quiet solitude, and by speaking positivity into existence around me. This helps to rewire fears and brings deeper understanding and healing.
  3. If I can, I host a dance party or I exercise in the morning. Turning up the music and moving is one of the best ways to shake off negativity and bring your endorphins up, while also boosting your mood.
  4. Make time for self care! Now is the time to be super mindful of your health in every aspect and to allow yourself time to rest, goof off and to clean your environment. Feeling clean, comfy and relaxed does untold wonders for your mood and overall health.
  5. I’ve limited my news intake to only important updates and actively cut myself off if I feel as if I’m spiraling. When that happens, I engage in activities that boost my moods.
  6. I have an amazing support system and I check in with them regularly. They not only ground me, but also respect my boundaries and it’s good to remember that other good and positive things ARE happening around your world.
  7. Just take a deep breath, hold it and then slowly exhale. Practicing breath work is important especially when dealing with situations that may trigger you. I’ve started practicing some techniques and it helps to clear out the fog in my head at times.
  8. Just allow yourself to decompress and just be. You do not have to be in constant motion, sometimes being quiet, still and introspective is a great medicine.
  9. I’ve always wanted to try to sage my home at the beginning of each month to ward off negative energy and I may do it this month.
  10. Get your REM sleep and eat your fruits and veggies and get your water fill. Physical health is super important right now and it’s not just about fighting to not catch the flu or Covid-19, it’s about staying healthy. Period.
  11. Know that there is only so much you can accomplish in a day, so do not over work yourself, but know that you do have free hours to goof off with. Be greedy with your time and practice self-love in all instances. This is a lesson I’m still learning, but it is defo coming along.
  12. Use social media to help add to your mood. Whether it is inspirational or motivational or even humorous posts, I’m there, because laughter and joy are important y’all!

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