Unscripted in 15 Ways

Ashlee’s goal for Ashlee Unscripted is to be a platform to inspire and inform readers with energy and insights into overcoming and resolving some of life’s more formidable roadblocks and challenges.

And it is with that in mind that I am super excited to announce that we have created our first official blog-zine, aimed at providing some of the insights and guidance to move past real blocks in real time!

After months of behind the scenes planning and curating the right articles for this particular project, The Unscripted Collective Vol 1 is finally available!

This product serves up a massive dose of mindset expansion and encourages you to keep motivated while being present in life’s little moments of bliss and learning.

As many of you may know, Inner work has long been an important and vital part of Ashlee’s belief in creating the life you truly desire with ease and understanding, so the creation of this book was a perfect match for her teachings as well as her love for designing her own products.

“I wanted to create something that was easy to read, was even fun, but also carried some amazing insights and real life experiences! I genuinely love this blog-zine and it’s also digital so you can read it anywhere, anytime.

Ashlee explains.

I’ve since created more niches specific products but the Unscripted Collective Volume 1 is my first love and I’m super proud of it!”

Ashlee makes it a point to re-read her own words and to also read the words of other coaches and bloggers that resonate with her. She explained that the idea for the blog-zine came to her when she was looking over her blog and thought it would be pretty cool to have these articles in a space that was all her readers’ choice and they could travel with easily.

“I love sharing my experiences with those, who are going through right now what I also went through and that is what drives me to create my books, to do the videos on IG and to keep this blog going. It is not easy to share your own deep stories at times or to open up and show others that yeah I went through crazy and I’m still standing, but that is exactly the kind of message they need to hear and know to be true,” she explained.

Ashlee, as you can imagine has been very hands-on with this product, from the articles used to the way the finished product was designed, making sure that it reflected a fun, engaging and edgy feel for her loyal readers.  With a strong belief that beauty and self love starts from the inside, before it can radiate out, Ashlee wanted to ensure that the product was also a worthy buy for those who wanted to read it.

The Unscripted Collective Vol 1 is the perfect book for those who love to read, but also love the magazine feel of blogs and the fun way information is expressed.


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What Awaits you :

Couch time with Ashlee, as she talks about choosing to forgive, not to let the poison of betrayal ruin her life, but choosing a healthier and happier path while working through the pain

Diving into why being just who you are can be a hard feat in Today’s society and why it’s so important to reconnect to your soul.

Why it is not safe as some of the experts are pushing today to ‘ force’ yourself to do anything, rather you have to trust your intuition and we break down how to do just that.

How to stop manipulating yourself into settling, because it only leads to long term pain and hard lessons.

How to become truly inspired without losing yourself and so much more.

The blogzine has over 15 articles, beautifully curated so that they flow into each other in a fun way and takes you on a journey of casual yet super insightful self discovery!


How to Release Your Pent-up Emotions

There is a certain feeling you get right in the middle of your heart when you’re about to be ambushed by emotions you’d rather not deal with, specifically those you have been resolutely pushing down into the deep recesses of your mind as often as you can.

Here’s the funny thing about emotions, they  simply do not care how much you try to avoid them!

Trust me, whatever you are resisting emotions wise, will persist until you acknowledge, validate and finally release them.

Worry and frustration would slither into my head in the form of tension- a tightening around my forehead- leading to the kind of pressure that always threatened a headache, before releasing the floodgates to my insecurities and fears.

An answering call of frantic energy would then assail me and I have been known to call my friends in a miserable panic, saying I felt as if I was ‘ missing something’, or ‘needing just one win’ and of course ‘ not being able to focus’, because of this repressed energy.

It’s a kind of energy that is hard to explain, but once you’ve felt it, you know exactly what it is, the slippery slide to stress-thinking to becoming overwhelmed and you just feel ‘off’.

If you have ever felt like the above, then I have great news for you!

It’s time for you to release that pent-up emotion in your body that you’ve been trying to bury within yourself or just been straight up trying to avoid.


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what awaits you:

How to release your pent up emotions with real practices that feel easy and uniquely you.

Discover how learning to release your pent-up emotions will improve your life and mindset health.

Where the real emotional challenges spring from and how to resolve them

4 key insights into how to release pent-up emotions in real life and real time.

What emotions actually are and how understanding this, will help you to manage and use them.


The Art of the Breakdown

If you’re lucky it’ll strike when you are at home, in a quiet space alone. If you’re doubly lucky, there will be a nice glass of wine on the table next to you when it happens.

However, if you are in anyway similar to me, it will strike out of the blue and wherever it damn well wants to.  It will start with a weird desolate sensation in your heart and spread to your stomach, which will trigger the need for emo music, a tragic sing-along and will end in your brain feeling fuzzy as your heart seems to throw up and tears squeeze themselves out of your eye-sockets.

It will feel like a compulsion and your body will straight up call mutiny in its impulsive need to betray you. There are no commands that work to halt the roar of the emotions that will come to the surface and unleash themselves in an insane bid to embarrass you or to plunge you deeper into the despair.

The despair is the safe part.


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what aWAITS YOU:

Going on the ride of the emotional breakdown of an emotional dam.

How this can be very different for everyone, but the characteristics that remain the same regardless.

What keeps us in this down feeling and how to resolve it, so you can boost your mood again.

When this particular type of breakdown crests and falls, what was behind it usually.

Advice on how to survive the onslaught and tips for deaing with the aftermath

Exclusive exercises that can help you get through this process


How to Stop Depriving Yourself of Happiness

I used to believe that one of the reasons I was not ‘happy’ was because I did not know what would make me actually happy.

I knew of all the things that would make me feel sad, disappointed, angry and stressed out. Those things I could rattle off like an expert when asked or slip them into any conversation surrounding the ‘What I do not want in my life’ list.

Yet, for all that I knew with pinpoint laser clarity what I did NOT want in my life, I had no idea what I truly did.

I was still unsure about how and what I wanted to spend my days, I was unsure of what would really give me pleasure, make me smile and just give me that boost of joyousness those High vibe people were talking about over the internet.

Then I realised with a start one day, as I caught myself actively dismissing something that would have actually made me feel better, that it was not that I did not know what made me smile, or made me happy… it was that I was actively burying them and choosing to not take action towards doing the things that invoked those happy feelings.

For me and when I asked, a lot more people, it seemed as if  the concept of ‘Happiness‘ was easier to deal with if we allowed it to be a pipe-dream. If we convinced ourselves that happiness was conditional, then when things got rough, we could use this emotion as a cop out and something to day dream about .

To say, ‘this sucks because I’m not happy. I just want to be happy,” even as we know full well we’re not going to truly put in the effort to actually put true happiness into our lives.

Happiness is not a one-off kind of thing, it’s a state of being and it does not negate other emotions. You can be living a very happy life and still get upset or angry about things – trivial or otherwise…, the real difference is your mindset.


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what awaits you:

What genuinely happy people know and do.

Seven (7) key things you learnt when you were younger that are actively blocking you from receiving joy and happiness easily and simply into your life.

Ashlee breaks down how to stop depriving yourself of happiness daily and embrace it instead.

The shocking and neccessary role your intuition plays in this process.

The existential questions that keep you small

How to move forward from your well learnt limiting beliefs, so you can achieve your goals, your way.


Sometimes It All Sucks & It’s Ok

Sometimes, all you feel to do is cry, and rage and scream and the urge is so strong, it takes over your whole body!

Sometimes you want to curl up on the kitchen floor and drown your sorrows in your fave alcohol or in your fave comfort foods.

Sometimes positive platitudes are enough to make you  want to commit acts of violence and there is no real reason why…

Sometimes my Luvs, you are simply human-

…Human in a world that seems to delight in chewing you up and spitting you out….slowly.

A world that others keep telling you, you have the power to control, but every experience that pops into your head reinforces that this control is true for other people. Never you.

You’re the one who just cannot catch a freaking break, you’re the one who seems to have committed some terrible crime in a past life. You’re the one that keeps being kicked down, again and again.

So what are you supposed to do?

What do you do?

The latest motivational/ inspirational  post you probably read told you to not give up!

It most likely encouraged you to persevere and to not let these feelings take control of you. It probably reminded you that you should be grateful for all you have, because there are others with so much less and it tried to motivate you to believe in yourself and to just keep on going.

And you probably looked at that post and wondered what kind of happily ever after hippie person wrote that ish.

Persevere? Haven’t you been doing that ish for like forever?

When is the change supposed to happen anyway?

When is it YOUR time to shine, have all the things and feel better about your life?

When is it your time to be abundant, to feel as if you are in control of your life and time and finances?

What exactly are you doing so wrong that these others seemed to have perfected?

Because right now, in this moment, you are seconds away from flinging your hands up, and caving to defeat.

And it will not be pretty.

You are seconds away from screaming at the fury and angst that has been building up within you but worse of all, you are moments away from settling into your surrender.

Moments away from deciding that all your naysayers were right and your end goals are silly, too big or just not for you. You may be one final push away from thinking you are a failure and that you are neither good enough nor worthy enough and that is why you keep on failing…

And really, all you want to know is ‘How do I make this better? How do I make me better?’

If no one else knows how you are feeling right now, I freakin do.

I know the days of watching others get the attention, praise, money and validation for their ‘bravery’, talents and  dedication.

I know the headaches, backaches and restless sleep of wracking your brain trying to figure out what you need to do, that you’re STILL clearly not doing, because no matter what, you’re not the one getting those amazing results.

And I know how easy it is to straight up start blocking those positive a-holes who keep sprouting rainbow-like possibilities from their posts.

Seriously, EFF them, -even though you are also reading their posts and secretly wishing it was all as easily doable as they made it seem for you too.

All I can say to you, my friend, is that this is normal and natural. 

Of course you’re going to feel frustrated and stressed out when you’re trying to shape your life into someone else’s image.

Of course your life is going to feel empty, if you’re focusing on your problems and what is lacking in your life, rather than what is enriching it.

Of course you’re not going to be sure what you deep down want, because you’ve been actively running, fighting and burying those intuitive nudges so deep down in your psyche, that now that you’re ready for them to guide you, you no longer recognize your own voice.

And of course you’re going to be seeking comfort when you’ve been trying to prove that you are worthy, prove that you can make those important in your life happy and be what you think they need you to be, even at the detriment of actually being and living your life as yourself…

So yes, all of these feelings, emotions and resulting frustrating situations are all normal when you are actively living a life that is not at all in alignment with your true self or purpose.

So again, what to do?

First, we let it all out!

Rage around!  Let the pain and frustration out.

Scream!

Find a sport that allows you to HIT something or exert yourself.

Lift weights and do cardio exercises.

Rage Journal!

Let it all out, exhaust your emotions and let yourself release it all, so that you can come back with a leveled, less pent up brain and then, only then, refocus.

Refocus on your ULTIMATE goals, the ones that are constantly in your mind and makes you so happy and excited that your freaking heart skips a beat while thinking about them.

This gets easier, the more you reconnect to WHO you are and what you need in your life to make you feel so much better consistently!

Release all the ‘I did this already’ and the ‘I can’ts’ and the ‘I ‘m just so freakin done with this’ and ‘what will people think…’ and ‘what if..?’

Screw it all.

Release the rage; refocus on your goal, de-stress by doing something fun and let yourself recover.

Tomorrow, or even later- depends on how fast you listen to your intuition-, you will find the path you need to.

When it’s time, you will be able to recommit and know that it is safe to go after what you truly desire. In time you will learn that sometimes it all sucks and it’s not a bad thing.

You’ll learn from your mistakes and come out so much stronger, wiser and patient from it all.

It is safe to feel it all and to react and to respond and to take a moment and to come right back with an improved strategy.


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How to Stop Manipulating Yourself Into Settling

We manipulate ourselves every day in some way and while it is not always a bad thing depending on the circumstances and the reasons behind this , it can also be one of the fastest ways to losing track of you real end goal(s). 

There are a host of ways and reasons why we may manipulate ourselves, and that includes trying to feel better about a situation, talking ourselves into  doing things  that really we don’t want to do, trying to protect our reputation and/ image,  including staying out later with friends, when really we want to go home, but don’t want them to think you’re a ‘stick in the mud’, rationalize why someone was mean or unprofessional to us, just so we can clear the deal…and the list can go on and on.

The really big challenge with self – manipulation is when we get lost in the lie so deeply and so quickly, that we no longer know which way is actually up; when we tell ourselves that we no longer know what we want or that we should give up on a certain huge outcome that we actually desire.

This is what can lead us to settling for what we have right now, even as we KNOW deep down that it is not what we truly want.

I liken it to when the waiter screws up your order, and instead of calmly explaining this is not in fact what you wanted, you accept the slip-up because of what ever excuse you come up with at the time.

Only it’s times one thousand.

Self-manipulation is not all it’s cracked up to be, when we’re actively doing it to take away our own hopes, dreams and giving up on what our real end goals.

It’s not ok, when we self manipulate out of fear, desperation or anger, because then, we are not pushing ourselves into a better zone, rather we are pulling away from the journey of happiness and growth only to end up entering the bad lands.

 If your feelings are NOT coming from an authentic place within you, then the lie, no matter the worthy cause will start to burst out of you like Poison Ivy’s vines and when that happens, it will cause you to feel all sorts of emotions you’d rather not, all while doubting yourself and getting even more tangled up in the lie-vines.

I’ll tell you my own story with self-manipulation gone wrong!

I self-manipulated myself for about 6 years, telling myself I was happy with my lot in life, while I was not. 

During that time, I would have told anyone that I was happy, that yes life was rough but I was making due. I would have lied to your face and said I believed it was all going to get better.

And to protect my lies, I pushed down and tried to BURY those urges, those whispers of dreams that resonated too loudly within me.

You know, those fantasies that feel right, but make no real sense because of where you are in your life right now?

Those day dreams that pull and tug at you and haunt your days because really they are exactly what you deeply want and need, but it makes you feel sad because you’ve already decided they are not realistic. And you know on some level that you’re killing off your own potential.

  I almost got myself to believe that I was happy and everything was just fine after a while of constant repetition, but it just refused to stick. 

How could it?

The truth was that I wasn’t that happy about the life I was living or the lack of control over where I was going to be at any hour of the day. I was not happy about feeling trapped and unable to just embrace that feeling that comes with truly happily living!

In the end, I had to stop trying to run from myself and really face it all.


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What awaits you:

Ashlee spills the tea on how she got her self to stop settling for way less than she actually wanted.

Exercises and tips on how to deal with the thoughts and limiting beliefs that keep you playing small.

One of the best ways to stop settling for thins in your life revealed.

How honestly makes it all easier to go after your dreams and what you truly desire.


How to Be Inspired, Without Losing Yourself

Have you ever met someone who inspired the hell out of you?!

Like in your mind, they are freaking amazing because of how confident they are, how poised and elegant?

They get stuff done, they look AWESOME and their lifestyle is what you imagine yours to be someday.

They are living the life that RESONATES with you. They are doing the things that you wish, dream and fantasize about doing and you have a little, secret crush on them.

( You know it’s true!)

That’s why you follow them on any and all social media accounts.

Why you need to let them know that you are around in some way- or you’re more of a lurker and you don’t like anything on the accounts, but you are always aware of their posts and they give you LYFE!

They just freaking resonate with you and they inspire you to be better and to want more from your life. They did it, and they are so sure that you can too.

Annnnd here’s where things get tricky.

For some of us, it’s not enough that we are inspired and motivated to be better, instead we get triggered and start to literally model ourselves after our role models or celebrities.

It starts off small, maybe we start to mimic some of their behaviors, the way they express themselves, even their gestures. Maybe we start altering the way we think about things and can recall how they dealt with a specific situation, so we try it as well.

 And then we start to compare ourselves, which in some cases lead to either you deciding to improve yourself, or you try to replace yourself with a version that is more them than you.
The problem comes when you start to forget who YOU are and what is so SPECIAL about you.

When you start to compare yourself and keep coming up short and decide that you are just not good enough.

People, it’s time to get real and realise that you are you for a reason. That you are special in your own way and to realise that the same people that are inspiring you, are not trying to change their core self, but has accepted it and has chosen to continue to grow.


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what awaits you:

Self reflection exercises to gain clarity on what you think is so awesome in their life as it compares to your own.

Guided prompts to help you get specific on the success you’re actually desiring and how to get there for yourselff.

Guided prompts into reconnecting and boosting your self-confidence that you can have and be exactly what you desire.