Power suit? Check. Business Tie? Check. Button up? Double check.
When it comes to clothes that exude power and the idea of confidence, we think of the manlier type of clothes right, and the idea that lingerie could rank up there seems abit incredulous, because lingerie in many of our minds have no place outside of the bedroom.
When we think of power, assertiveness and confidence, it’s hard to reconcile those attributes with the idea of femininity because of how often we think of those things as masculine.
So the idea of wearing lingerie under your power suit?
Nope, that would be a sign of weakness right?
Turns out, it could be the extra boost of confidence you need!
Lingerie is about feeling fun, comfortable and sexy, all things that go a long way in boosting your confidence, because when you feel sexy, in control and comfortable in your skin, you’re unstoppable.
I was not always a believer in lingerie, eschewing it as impractical and garish.
I was embarrassed at the very idea of even buying it, even as I love black lace and the way some styles define my natural curves.
Lingerie was in my mind a fun fantasy for a partner, something to put on for date night and easily thrown away.
In short I was not comfortable with seeing myself as a sexual being, nor was I comfortable with the idea of being that naughty.
That all changed really quickly, when I finally found the right pair of lingerie for me.
The kind that was soft fit right and made me feel sexy all day.
There are an array of options to choose from when it comes to lingerie, including bodysuits, corsets, garter belts, bras and panties.
Experimenting with them allowed me to start appreciating my body and my own sexual confidence proudly.
“Lingerie can help you reclaim your sexuality. Masturbation is frequently discussed when to comes to cis males. There seems to be this fog of shame and secretiveness that hangs over the world of female and nonbinary masturbation,” notes, writer and marketing consultant, India Kushner on The Tempest.
“Enjoying your own sexuality is healthy and normal. Sexuality doesn’t always have to revolve around pleasing people during the act of sex. Lingerie can be an excellent way to titillate and excite in more ways than one”.
Comfortable lingerie is also a celebration of femininity; it’s soft, comfortable, pretty and private.
Finding the right fit, cut and design are all important, as you don’t need your underwear to be uncomfortable nor do you want to be counting down the seconds until you can chuck them off, rather, you should enjoy your underwear and feel supported all day.
“The fit of your lingerie affects more than just its comfort,” says Estelle Puleston, founder of Esty Lingerie , “Whatever shape you want your chest to be, there’s a bra out there for that. You can give your bust a boost, or minimise it down. And from corsets to shaping shorts, there’s lingerie to transform the rest of your figure too. We should all love the bodies we’re in, but it’s nice to have a helping hand here and there right?
Lingerie can help you to tweak those things you’re not so confident about, as well as emphasizing your favourite bits. It can even improve the way your clothes fit. And when you love the way you look, you’ll shine with self-esteem”.
Lingerie also gives you an outlet to express your own personality and thinking about what you’re wearing under your clothes can make you smile and give you an added boost of ‘ I’m bold, I’ve got this!’
You’re sexy; you know it and you should be proud of it. Have fun picking up and changing up your pairs of lingerie.
The same way you know wearing them would titillate your partner, is the same premise on why you should enjoy them for yourself first.
Have fun, go wild and find you faves, play dress up, feel the materials and what emotions they bring out of you.
You’re entitled and encouraged, so wear them with confidence!
You made it to the end! Wooot!
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