How I learnt to Let Life be Easy

Can I really have what I want in this life and can it be easy?

This was the question I struggled with for years upon years and most often than not, the answer I came up with was a resounding ‘no’.

I was taught hardwork, struggling and paying dues were all the benchmarks I had to go though repeatedly, before I could see any hint of success.

I was taught to wait for the inevitable shoe to drop, if anything good ever happened to me and without truly noticing it, this was the way I started to live my entire life.

I started to mistrust people who were kind, friendly and seemed generally good natured, because it reminded me of how I used to be and made me upset that I was no longer that person, but I couldn’t be that person, because all the lessons I’ve learnt ( and learnt well) yelled at me that I had to be guarded, I had to people please, I had to hide  who I was and look to other successful people to show me what my life should look like, what my thoughts should be and what I was allowed to achieve.

Now here’s the thing, you simply cannot have this mindset when you’re looking to do great things. I’m a naturally empathetic person and something ALWAYS felt wrong about this lifestyle, but damn if I could put my finger on what exactly it was.

So years go by and my intuition,- that whispering guardian angel that lives within me- that I would occasionally listen to every now and again, started pestering me and pestering me. It was sick of seeing me settle, sick of seeing me lose confidence and looking for a semblance of affection in the wrong people.

It was tired of me adding unnecessary burdens to my heart, tired of feeling my pain over and over again, tired of me basing my dwindling happiness on beliefs that were designed to drain it.

 So it finally rose up and got my attention.

And one day, after the weeks following a tremendous health scare that I was being treated for, my defenses were down. I was for the first time in a long time, also fed up of the pain, the betrayals and feeling as if I had let myself down.

That’s when I felt the intuitive nudge; taking it as a sign from God that I simply could no longer ignore, I allowed the message to flow into me. It told me there was no need for struggle, no need to burn myself out, no need to make everything complicated.

It explained no one was impressed by any of this.

And I wanted to believe in it so bad, but old habits die really freaking hard and I felt my mind erupt into a civil war. One side preaching that life was always supposed to be joyous and beautiful, the other saying that if it isn’t hard and complicated how will I learn to appreciate it?

Turns out I was not ready for my life to be easy, I wasn’t ready to release my teachings no matter how wrong they felt. I wasn’t ready for my life to be so aligned I could have everything and anything I wanted.

I was fighting tooth and nail for my limitations.

Mind you, I tested the theory a few times and it worked beautifully each time, but it was not enough for me to rehab the 3 decades strong fear addiction. And when that truly hit me- that not only was I choosing to feel crappy and complicate my life, but I was doing so because i was so driven by fear and the need to struggle, I made a real decision to get to the bottom of this need and reprogram my mind.

It was time for me to allow my life to flow. I had seen the evidence for myself. I bought my car cash, I rented  a condo for super cheap and it was in a great natural area, I was in fact never actually short on money, I always got what I wanted even if I didn’t buy it and the coup de grace, I was loved unconditionally by awesome humans!

So when it really sunk in that my life wanted to be easy, that it wanted to be successful and there was no need to stress and struggle, only to listen, align and do.

I finally started to allow things to flow. I finally moved things out of my way and reconnected with my inner being and that rare feeling of harmony and trust.

Life became so easy , I almost started to doubt its longevity again, because the last thing to leave me was the idea that good things could run out and I’d be left holding the proverbial bag. Funny how I never thought bad things could come to an end…

So I went to mindset rehab and I came out so much better for it. It’s a daily effort to reprogram my mind ( 30 years of habits do not change in a week) and each day I get stronger, more confident, more aligned and life is something I want to actively engage in again.

One of the resources I used when I was going through this period was the Level UP Journal Prompter. This book is filled with journal prompts, exercises and insights that I personally used to challenge myself into changing old teachings for new intuitive ones.

It’s easy to say I want better for myself, but as I learnt, it’s not so easy to walk the walk and release the bad habits to receive abundance. Hope and Faith are hard because of those same teachings, but it’s not impossible.

I know you’re ready to do more, to drop the effing struggle and let life actually flow in harmony as it needs to be. I know you’re over feeling as if you have to climb that oil slicked ladder, getting nowhere fast.

Use the book, go through the 9 chapters and allow yourself to expand, to grow and step into the awesome power that is your birthright. Add to your reading list now.



Level Up Your Life in 9 Steps

WTF Is reconnection and why does it matter?

Reconnection to self is when you allow yourself to admit and accept your truths, your vision and your power. It’s legit the process of befriending yourself on the mindset level,  so you know who you are, why you’re doing what you’re doing and finally step into your co-creator shoes confidently.

You can sense when you need to reconnect with yourself.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling: foggy brains, restless mind, unavailable for most things that would have brought you some semblance of real heart centered joy, not knowing what would make you feel happy.

It’s shoulder muscles so tense, they constantly touch your ears, it’s feeling your face scowl and frown, it’s headaches, tense jawlines and gritting of teeth.

It’s living in a state of ‘ life won’t be better’ that robs you of your joy.

Here’s the thing:

You know who you are. You know that you want to move far away from this state. You know you want to smile more; you want to laugh, to feel light in your body and safe in the unshakeable knowledge that everything will all turn out for the best in the end.

You want to feel pleasure and way, way less pain.

When you reconnect to yourself, you’ll start to see the world differently; it’s a slow progress that is nothing to shout about with how seamless and easy it will be.

You’ll only notice that you are unavailable to negative thoughts, toxic energy and have no interest in engaging with anything seeking to bring down your vibes.

For me, reconnection was the process of realizing I was living  not for the glory of having this life, but in the state of all things that were never-ending going wrong and using that as reasons to cut myself off from my sources of light.

I was not social, I always felt like I needed to be working ( even as I was frustratingly overwhelmed and stressed out by the business not making as it should), I used my lack of finances and the shame around it to stop myself from enjoying most things. The thought was I’ll enjoy all those things once I reached my goal.

I had lost sight of who I was as Ashlee Cox. I only saw many failures and gave into protecting myself from them at all costs.

Reconnecting with myself, challenged me to move away from that kind of famine, defeating mindset and allowed me to create a new self-fulfilling prophecy.

One that involved a happier, healthier and well rounded Ashlee.

An Ashlee that had allowed herself to grow, to pivot on prioritizing problems that only brought more of the same, to using that same energy to concentrate on her actual goals.

An Ashlee that recognized she didn’t have problems, just signs that she needed a new path to her goal and allowed herself to take them.

An Ashlee that leveled the F up!

And I did it with the help of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

The Level Up Journal Prompter is available right now.

This book with its nine chapters will take you on a journey of self discovery like no other resource can in this day.

Chapters: Reconnection, Limiting Beliefs and Triggers, Stories and Paradigms, Self love, Trust and Belief, Life skills, Goals and Validation, Energy and Manifesting, Support and Boundaries, You, Intuition and the Struggle, Next Level Self .

I researched and wrote these chapters, complete with journal prompts, and strategic homework when I had finally started to allow myself to be more, to receive more and I still use them to this day, when I want to level up again.

There is an energy of accelerated growth within these chapters and a feeling of intentional ease and crystal clear clarity.

You’re ready to grow, ready to move from a state where you attract problems, to one where you easily attract success.

Click here to elevate your life right now.


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How I’ve Learnt To Reconnect to Source

Two months ago, I made an active decision to become more spiritually woke. I wanted to move my emotional state from feeling super stressed out about money, Covid- freaking-19, bills, followers, you know , the usually plagues of a solo entrepreneur, who is also dealing with personal stressors.

Without truly acknowledging it, the backlash following the abrupt death of my Dad, shook me and catapulted me right back to unhealthy ways, unhealthy thoughts and I allowed myself to feed my fear so much, it almost exploded from my body.

Then after a few conversations with my friends, and a lot of guided meditations, because let’s be honest, I was OVER feeling the tension in my body, the desperation running amok in my thoughts which only gave me headaches, caused me to grit my jaw so hard, I felt my teeth grinding, and muscle aches in my shoulders because of how freaking tense I was keeping them.

It was also my birthday month (April) and really is there a better time to actively choose to take spectacular care of yourself in not on/ around your birthday?

So that’s what I did.

I’m a huge believer and advocate from mindset work and healing, because as we already know, it all starts with your thoughts and from that it leads to actions that build your lifestyle.

So I had a choice to make.

Give into the pressures of stress, desperation and insidious fear, where I started to lose confidence in just about everything that made me the unique and loving person that I am.

Or

Reconnect to myself. Become an active participant in my life again and CHOOSE what I focus on, how I allow myself to feel, what I am available for and concentrate on the surplus of good that was in my life, if I would only acknowledge them.

So I started on the latter.

Was it easy?

Absolutely not. I learnt how deep rooted my fear based state ran and I started to notice just how often I was actively looking for things to make me feel awful, to feel sad, as excuses to justify giving up on actions, my desires, the works.

Reasons to stay in a state of not quite happiness but not quite bouncing off the walls either.

Then I remembered this book: The Level Up Journal Prompter.

It’s the book I created to help me out of this kind of funk.

Within it I go through 9 Chapters which challenge you to move from stuck and playing small to being your Next Level Self.

The self that allows you to take the next step in your life confidently, that allows you to get clear on your goals, get clear on shifting your limiting beliefs and the lifestyle you are calling towards yourself.

From learning how to reconnect with myself and challenging myself to answer the journal prompts openly and honestly- no running from myself- to actually doing the homework and slowly becoming more and more aware of my progress, of my many victories, of how strong I am and will continue to be, I felt super inspired and motivated.

This book, which is loaded with insights I am straight up impressed came out of me, was  perfect to move me again, to gain clarity in my mind and remind myself of how powerful I actually am, of how healthy I want to be both mentally and physically.

I reminded myself that I was allowed to feel my feelings, and to respond to them, it reminded me I was allowed to choose my state of existence and to be unconditionally supported and loved.

It reminded me that I was enough right now and that me growing, stretching and nurturing my love of who I am, were all natural and encouraged.

So this month, I’m re-launching it, because I know these last few weeks in lock down have straight up sucked for some of you. Not necessarily because you couldn’t go outside, but because it caused you to feel unsettled, to face your own thoughts and doubt monster alone and un-equipped.

It forced you into a feeling of melancholy, of panick and of living in the energy of already having failed. Caused to you remember all the stories around why you won’t have a wonderful life or success…It fed your fear based state too.

No more.

You are ready to go a guided journey towards your own power.

Towards realizing what it is, towards getting control over your thoughts, emotions and crystal clear goals.

You’re ready to level the F up!



The Confusing Skill You Didn’t Know You Needed

Is it me or does it feel as if the more we obsess about our goals, the more they seem to frustratingly not happen?

We are often told that if we want to be successful in life, we need to have motivation, desire, ambition and commitment, but as I’ve realized recently, there is another very important ingredient that many seem reluctant to talk about.

And since I’m not a reluctant person, but mostly because I want to share this information with you, I’ll let you in on the most secretive ingredient since KFC’s 7 herbs and spices.

The ingredient is ‘detachment’.

Yes, you read that correctly!

Now I can almost hear you murmuring, ‘what does detachment have to do with being successful?” cue confused face.

The term ‘detachment’ usually brings up thoughts of being indifferent, apathetic or dissociative, however, in truth, these are all erroneous assumptions.

“One can be loving, happy, helpful and energetic, and at the same time be detached. I mean detached from worries, fears, negative emotions and the negative emotions of other people,” says Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Happier Life.

The skill of being emotionally and mentally detached is the art of choosing to remain calm and happy even when things in your life suck, because you have learnt how to remove the expectation of results unfolding in any specific way.

In short you have learnt to make peace with the fact that life is an unfolding saga of uncertainty and that’s ok, because you realize you never had that kind of directive cosmic control to begin with, thus the more you fight for something, the more it’s likely to not happen.

 “I call it the ‘backwards law.’ When you try to stay on the surface of the water, you sink; but when you try to sink, you float. When you hold your breath, you lose it — which immediately calls to mind an ancient and much neglected saying, ‘Whosoever would save his soul shall lose it,” writes Alan Watts in the 1951 book, The Wisdom of Insecurity.

Many of us, in our search for betterment and to draw positive abundance to ourselves know that while success is inevitable, there is much to be said for understanding that the world we live in is not one to be controlled in our fashion, rather it requires us to keep our energies up and to have faith that everything is working out in our best favour.

This is one of the reasons many experts in the field of energy, mindset and even psychology encourages their clients and followers to not become attached and stressed by the process of succeeding, rather to focus on the outcome and the emotional response it elicits.

Tania Kotsos, contributor for Mind Your Reality, notes, “Once you accept the truth about your thought power and that you are one with the One Universal Mind, you will be able to release any need to control the process. Instructing the all-knowing Universe “how” you want things to come about is telling Omniscience that you know better.”

And this is one of the many reasons it is beyond ok to stop obsessing about your goals and getting impatient for them to manifest.

 The simple truth is that becoming overly attached erodes at the power you actually have and opens you for even more frustrations, stressful situations and adversely affects your health.

Marla Tabaka, a small business adviser, notes on INC, “Desperately wanting, or needing a specific outcome in any given circumstance–to the point of stressing out about it–is harmful to your health and happiness. Literally.”

So why is being overly attached so health harming?

It’s because this behavior will lead to such physical symptoms as stress headaches, anxiety, upset stomach and shortness of breath.

To be overly attached to your idea of success, whatever it might be ( promotion, new car, more money, etc) will keep you trapped in fear and a ‘ continuous state of unhealthy desire and lack’, especially when you throw someone else’s actions and opinions of you into the mix.

Tabaka, explains that there is a power and a resilience to those who are able to want an outcome, and detach themselves from the significance of it.

“People who can successfully detach from the outcome will not be affected or daunted by obstacles or failures; they always bounce back and try again,” she notes.

“Those who are overly focused on getting exactly what they want and how they want it to happen fall into patterns of self-pity and concern about failure and missed opportunities.

 The person who manages healthy detachment is always innovating and moving forward. A state of healthy detachment helps to redefine failure and shifts the focus to positive, solution-based thinking,” she continued.

So you can see being detached from the outcome of your goal is actually a very useful and healthy practice, because it allows you to think more clearly, stay balanced and it is unlikely you will become agitated in response to what others say or think about you.

Remez Sasson, author of Emotional Detachment for Healthier Life, notes that true detachment, “…helps you control your moods and states of mind, and therefore, enjoy inner balance, harmony and peace. It also helps you handle more efficiently your daily affairs of life, as well difficult situations or emergencies.”

He too contends that the state of detachment comes from a place of inner strength and peace, coexisting with self control, self discipline and a focused mind.

It, according to Sasson, brings inner calmness and tranquility that external circumstances cannot disturb or upset.

 If there is one skill that we all need, it’s the ability to understand that yes, we want this outcome and then to release the ‘how, when, where’ to the Universe to figure out. 

How many times have you obsessed over getting something specific, and not receive it, decide you’re just going to let it be and then as soon as you’re about to forget about it, it shows up?

That’s the point of detachment.

Not only does it allow your goal outcome to manifest at the best time, it also allows you freedom and space to enjoy life while you work on it, without incurring such fleeting but destructive emotions as self-pity, doubt, failures and missed opportunities. “A state of inner detachment helps to forget failure and focus on the future and on success,” notes Sasson.


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How to Protect Your Energy During the Covid-19 Lockdown

Just last night , Acting Prime Minister of Barbados, the Hon. Santia Bradshaw, confirmed that the country now has 45 cases of the aggressive covid-19 virus, and that the Government has decided to implement additional measures under the Emergency Management Act, including the closing of banks, beaches and parks as well as the prohibition of alcohol sales, among other restrictions.

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For me, this comes just hours after witnessing the cremation of my Dad, who died of a heart attack last month. Needless to say, it is not an easy time in our household, but I’ve decided that rather than give into the creeping fear and growing panic, I prefer to look at all of this as a chance to protect my energy and stay centered.

Right now, with everything around the world seeming to be spiraling right out of control, where you are being encouraged to practice social distancing of at least 6 feet from everyone, to stay quarantined home, and to practice as many healthy hygiene habits as possible, this is a very deadly, yet oddly surreal time.

So if you’re with me and prefer not to give into the addictive siren call of fear, here are some things to do to protect your energy and keep your mind healthy as well as your physical space.

  1. Start the day without the phone. I wake up pretty early and have enforced the rule of not looking at my phone until at least 9 am, so that other people’s energy and vibes do not affect the way I begin my day. I’m considering enforcing this at the end of my day as well and possibly keeping the phone on airplane mode during the ‘off times’.
  2. Do start the day with positive affirmations. I’ve felt pretty ‘out of it’ these past few days, as huge lifestyle and emotional changes have been coming at me one after the other, and I’ve been trying to be mindful of how I’ve been perceiving them. And it has not been easy at all. What I find does help is to spend 10 minutes in quiet solitude, and by speaking positivity into existence around me. This helps to rewire fears and brings deeper understanding and healing.
  3. If I can, I host a dance party or I exercise in the morning. Turning up the music and moving is one of the best ways to shake off negativity and bring your endorphins up, while also boosting your mood.
  4. Make time for self care! Now is the time to be super mindful of your health in every aspect and to allow yourself time to rest, goof off and to clean your environment. Feeling clean, comfy and relaxed does untold wonders for your mood and overall health.
  5. I’ve limited my news intake to only important updates and actively cut myself off if I feel as if I’m spiraling. When that happens, I engage in activities that boost my moods.
  6. I have an amazing support system and I check in with them regularly. They not only ground me, but also respect my boundaries and it’s good to remember that other good and positive things ARE happening around your world.
  7. Just take a deep breath, hold it and then slowly exhale. Practicing breath work is important especially when dealing with situations that may trigger you. I’ve started practicing some techniques and it helps to clear out the fog in my head at times.
  8. Just allow yourself to decompress and just be. You do not have to be in constant motion, sometimes being quiet, still and introspective is a great medicine.
  9. I’ve always wanted to try to sage my home at the beginning of each month to ward off negative energy and I may do it this month.
  10. Get your REM sleep and eat your fruits and veggies and get your water fill. Physical health is super important right now and it’s not just about fighting to not catch the flu or Covid-19, it’s about staying healthy. Period.
  11. Know that there is only so much you can accomplish in a day, so do not over work yourself, but know that you do have free hours to goof off with. Be greedy with your time and practice self-love in all instances. This is a lesson I’m still learning, but it is defo coming along.
  12. Use social media to help add to your mood. Whether it is inspirational or motivational or even humorous posts, I’m there, because laughter and joy are important y’all!

How do you protect your energy? Share with us below in the comments


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What To Know In Times Of Grief

The true test of raising your positive energy and trying to attract more miracles into your life comes in the midst of the toughest, roughest and most uncertain times of your life.

It is very easy, I recognise now to say you will ‘ try’ something when you feel safe with time, when you have someone who is helping your financially, and when your present allows you some form of security, so you have the luxury of ‘ trying something’.

However, as I found out very recently, the moment something happens to upset that delicate balance, when something snatches away your security blanket, and opens your eyes to an all new extent of challenges, problems and negative emotions, it is also really freaking easy to abandon your lessons of inner peace, inner healing and give yourself over to despair, to obsessing about the plethora of deadline sensitive challenges and remove yourself from any spark of enjoyment.

My moment came in the early morning around 2 am in the Queen Elizabeth Hospital as a doctor informed me, my brother and my Mom that my Dad, who seemed fine just a few hours ago was now gone.

In those moments, I felt nothing, but my body was reacting all on its own. I wanted to laugh at the sheer insanity of what she was saying and cry when it hit me that this was real. Just like that, my security blanket was ripped away and there laid stark in front of me was a black hole.

The black hole of responsibility and impotence, because my Dad was the main breadwinner of the family ( pun intended as he was a baker) and now he was gone. In my head, all I saw was how useless I am. How much I had been relying on him and that triggered guilt, fear, anger and loads of grief and devastation.

And for this whole week I’ve been playing games with my feelings, ignoring them, basically freezing them out because I told myself I no longer have time. I felt atrociously stupid for thinking I could attract abundance and flung myself as I always do when these kinds of things happen into crisis mode.

I resigned myself by the 4th day to have to suck it up and give up on any dreams I had, because life was not about happiness, but survival and this was all I was going to have.

Grief is a funny thing and it makes you see things in very new ways, not all great. Yet, something in me, this voice that had been cultivating since the beginning of this year, this voice that suggested the challenge of raising my positive energy and told me to surrender, wouldn’t let me give into my own pity-party.

It wouldn’t allow me to reconstruct the dark cape my new challenges and problems were trying to cover me back in. It wouldn’t let me go back into the black hole from which I have been trying to will myself out of years.

And I’ll be honest with you, it is very easy to feel despondent when you’re flat out broke, when it feels as if nothing you do works and that you maybe too idealistic to play the games of reality. It is not easy to change old paradigms, especially when they seem to be all you have to protect your survival when things go horribly wrong.

And I was deep into doubting myself, deep into layering on piles and piles of self castigation, self pity and antipathy.

And then one day, I went back to my blog and listened to some of my Riffing with Ashlee episodes that I had created in those moments of glorious insight and realised that the woman who said those things, who was working so hard on her mindset and had the goal of living a life filled with happiness should not be abandoned.

Why should I honour my Dad’s life by killing all the life within me?

He sacrificed daily for me to be able to bring this dream of my ideal lifestyle to fruition. He listened to me, had faith in me and how ungrateful would I be to give it all up just because a new obstacle appeared?

A voice in my mind…- my intuition maybe-, is telling me to be grateful and appreciative of the times, experiences and moments we had together. It’s telling me to remember to have fun with what I’m doing and trust that God and Universe ALWAYS have my back.

It’s telling me to be faithful and to surrender to the problems, to the anxiety, instead of obsessing over what it all means. To catalogue all the things that are telling me that everything is going to be ok.

This means putting in effort to be mindful of your feelings and to realise that it’s beyond ok to let fun in. That it is ok to allow fun and positivity into your life no matter how dark a time you are going through.

To prioritise yourself health, physical, emotional, mental, spiritual and social over everything else and to not let others dictate how you should feel, what you should do or to give up on what is important to you.

It’s a tough lesson, I won’t lie, but it really is one of the biggest tests I’ve gone through in my life!

It’s going to feel like it’s you against everything and it will even feel as if you’re expendable, worthless and wasting time, but the truth is…you’re not any of those things.

You are brave, strong, wise and beautiful for realising that adding to the world’s miasma is the wrong path. You’re courageous for listening and tuning into yourself and you are absolutely gorgeous for realising that God/ the Universe has brought you so far, not to abandon you, but to prepare you for the next step.

For me, it’s a test of faith, commitment and to see if I really am practicing what I preach, what I say I believe and yeah, this was terrifying, but not impossible. It’s heart wrenching, but not enough for me to give up on myself.

So I choose to take away from this experience that it was my Dad’s time, it was gratefully quick, and he was not alone and be grateful that my Mom and I are still able to eat, sleep and worry about things. We are in a tough spot, yes, but it won’t be forever and there are so many things we can both choose to branch out in now.

My Dad is gone.

I’m praying he is at peace and reconciled with the way his life was. Just as you don’t know when you’re about to enter this world, you also don’t know when you’re about to leave it. And you have to remember daily that this time, this journey, these experiences are all gifts, to be enjoyed to add more love to the world.


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What is Really Stopping Your Flow ( It is not FEAR)!

 Today we are talking about the thing that has the true power to completely derail your success and leave you in a corner of the kitchen floor, ugly crying while you day drink, and no I’m not talking about fear.

This emotion is one that many know of it’s power, but it is rarely brought up as one of the BIG emotions that if fed regularly can turn into a real monster making it super hard to resolve and conquer!

I’m talking about one of the most insidious, sneaky and long lasting emotions you have within you!

I’m talking about doubt, more specifically- self- doubt (When you question your own ability to achieve / do something).

So yes, we talk a great deal about resolving or even overcoming fear, including the fear of failing and the fear of success, and while it is very true that fear is one of the most triggering emotions when we have decided to pursue our dreams and goals, self- doubt wields a much darker power!

We rarely talk about the power of self doubt and the effects it has, even as it is the thing that more often than not, is what is stalling us from getting what we want.

So let’s talk about it.

Doubt manifests in various ways, superbly triggering your mental blocks around a desired outcome. It is sneaky foe which never fights alone, since it also triggers fear and a host of other potentially overpowering emotions!

It is a sneaky foe which never fights alone, since it also triggers fear and a host of other potentially overpowering emotions!


The many forms of self – doubt are as follows:

Resistance

This occurs when you really want a desired outcome, and you have been thinking about it a lot, however, you become aware of this tight feeling around your head and heart when you think about it, which then triggers worry and anxiety within your body.

This resistance causes you to start rethinking the likelihood of you being triumphant and you begin to lose faith and hope in the actuality of your success.

Your heart quickens but the emotion is not one you can get behind and it leaves you feeling tired and drained- doubtful!

Doubt also manifests as limiting beliefs and become even stronger the more you give into them, instead of challenging them and allowing yourself to be guided with conviction towards your success after realising what these limiting thoughts are actually trying to communicate with you.

Logic

If you have decided that the outcome you desire is not one that easily fits within your scope of reality and the rules that govern your life, then it will be difficult to buy in and believe in it.

The goal may seem so huge and impossible for you that the only way you can see it happening for you is if a cosmic deity came down and gave you the power of a genie. And while the way may be impossible, the result is not- maybe others have achieved that result, but you are unsure if you can as well.
My best example- I want to fly through the air. The Wright brothers made that a possibility by creating the first airplane; not exactly flapping your wings like a bird but it works. Same thing with the Helicopter!

Fear

Fear is not always just fear; sometimes it is a manifestation of deep seated doubt and lack of both confidence and faith in what you are doing.

It is triggered especially when you give yourself a deadline in which you should start experiencing a certain level of progress and you do not.
It occurs every time you ‘fail’ or make a mistake or simply when nothing is happening.

This then leads to frustration, overwhelm and stress.

You begin to fear that you will never see the desired outcome, that maybe this whole thing was a fool’s dream and a waste of time….and as the time comes closer, the fear that you are not enough and have messed up somewhere becomes even stronger. You doubt your ability and your results.

Here’s the thing, the bigger the desire for the outcome of the goal, the easier it is to doubt that it will come through.

The more you doubt the possibility of the outcome the more you trigger your limiting beliefs and the harder it is to see them as things to challenge and not prophecies of your inevitable failure.

Doubt has the power if you let it to derail you completely, it is insidious and subtle, but the effects are long lasting.

In fact when you think about your limiting beliefs you can actually trace them to the triggering emotion that is self-doubt.

So how do we get over our doubt and actually do what we need to?
First and foremost you have to identify the specific thing that is triggering your doubt around this goal and your own abilities and resources.

Fear is an easier emotion to resolve because once you face your fears they tend to be easily resolved, however doubt is not so easily dealt with.

Doubt is rooted in possibility and it is super easy to assign meaning to your outcomes, thereby feeding your doubt until you no longer believe in success and eventually give up.

So when you think of your goal, journal out what is causing you to doubt yourself and the possibility of what you desire.

Can this thing be mitigated?
Is there something you can do alleviate or resolve this thing?
Is this thing ultimately true?


 Example:

Goal: I want to buy my first home in 2 months!
Doubt: But how the hell am I going to do this? I am not making nearly enough to buy my home. I am trying to find new ways to make money. It is going to be so hard to do this!

Doubt Trigger: Knowledge of not having enough money. Belief that the house hunting process will be stressful and the deadline impossible.
What can be done: I can figure out how to make the money I think I need.
I can research just how the process of buying a home actually works.

I can also rewire my mindset around the possibility of me achieving this ‘hard’ goal.

I can break this goal into smaller more actionable goals.

I know what I want and I release it to the Universe to guide me to my inevitable success!

Reframing Trigger: Right now I do not have the required money to buy my dream home and I feel like that will add to the stress of this experience, but I know that I will make the money and I know that I can have what I desire.

Here’s the funny thing, depending on how strong your self-doubt is, there is a chance that some of the practical work can all lead to even more doubt, because while they will fill you with more information and help you make an informed decision, they do nothing to actually address the growing feeling of doubt that you can do this permanently.

 For that you need conviction. You need to genuinely believe that you WILL have what you need and asked for.

Ultimately, doubt is combated by, faith and the strong belief (conviction) that no matter what, you will achieve your goals.

It is the combated by faith so strong that even as nothing happens in the final dwindling seconds, you still know that it will happen.

It is combated by knowing that you did do all that you were able to and now the rest is left in the hands of your God/ Universe.

While doubt is not rooted in logic- even though it will use it against you- it is in fact rooted deeply with your own range of possibility and believability and that is why when you feed it by compounding your limiting beliefs, you open the door for things to take a very long time to go your way.

When you doubt yourself, you are calling into question the validity of your desires, and assigning unnecessary meaning to them if they do not happen right away. You are feeding the self fulfilling prophecy of failure.

Ultimately to receive what you want quickly and easily, you will have to let it all go and allow the Universe/ God to guide you through your journey.

What I mean is that you need to become an energetic match for the thing you truly want and feed that positive and happiness inducing feeling, while not hyper focusing on the stressors swirling around the goal like sharks.

This world of energy works with whatever kind of highly emotionally fueled energy you are expressing and expending in the world.

This energy then colours your beliefs and your actions which impacts your ability to amass the kind of abundance you naturally can.

If you have ever wondered how others have been getting ahead and getting all the things they want seemingly so easily and with so little stress and pressure, while you feel as if you have to climb several mountains- and you hate climbing – just to be in the vicinity of success, then yes, it is time for a mindset and energetic emotional rewiring.

Let’s start now:
Envision the outcome of the goal you desire and lean into the feelings surrounding your mind and body at those celebratory thoughts come to and flow through you.

This is key- what are you feeling in your body? Hold on to that happy feeling and now set out to feed it.

Set out with the intention of nurturing and nourishing that happy feeling, so that it becomes your default.

Will this be easy? No. Most of our defaults are set to stress and doubt things and it is hard to let go of bad habits like that, but thankfully not impossible.

When it comes to the goal, set a to-do list of all the things you can do, that are within your control and do them- assign no meaning to any of the outcomes, just do your part!

All others release, they are out of your control and therefore are not up to you to happen.
Check in with yourself daily to see where you are emotionally and mentally and work to suit.

Be vigilant not to give into worry around the outcome of the goal; instead choose often to believe that your goal is not only possible but is coming closer to accomplishment every day.

Delete the deadline if that is a source of stress- as we tend to assign so much meaning to a deadline that it does not need. It is a neutral thing and means neither anything good or bad.

Spend time thinking daily thinking about your desired outcome and how you will feel- like 3 minutes a day- every day until it seems impossible for it to NOT happen.

Listen to that small yet urgent voice in your body that whispers to your mind- that is your intuition and it will tell you the aligned actions to take- you’ll know that it is your intuition because it will feel like that celebratory feeling in your chest and body.

Take those actions immediately and continue to enjoy life.
Release the goal and the significance of it, because you know it will happen and continue to feed that energy by filling your life with the things, experiences and people who trigger that happily accomplished feeling.

Now, will some of the things you have to do in the beginning be hard? You bet your ass they will be.

Will it be hard to just believe and have faith? Oh yeah. This is new and change is always hard, but it will get easier.

Could there be sleepless nights and feelings of wanting to give up? Will there be residual limiting beliefs and feelings of failure and all the consequences that come with it?

Once again- helllll yessss.

Many of us have not been feeding our inner happy selves; instead we have been looking for all the ways we are fucking up and can’t have what we truly want.

We are all caught up in settling and even as you desire for more and know you can have it, it will be a serious battle to change your default.

Your subconscious will set out to self sabotage until you genuinely believe that you WILL HAVE what you want.

If it does not believe you, then you do not believe you.

This exercise is about reconnecting to yourself and actually detoxing your energy, while rewiring your mindset on what is possible for you when you simply decide and know that the world is working to make your success happen for you.

You have to believe it, want it and take the aligned actions.

You have to also know that you are not working on it alone and it will happen.You can’t force it; you simply have to trust and belief in yourself, your faith and in your Universe.

I know we talk about doubt in a very linear way, as if, if you just do this one thing it’ll be ok and doubt will be banished into the ether, but the truth is that you have to work on your doubt daily, which means you have to work on fueling up your happiness meter daily and starving doubt.

Understanding how you actually learn to believe in things and what you actually expect to happen around your goal and in the reality of your life are both things that also impact how successful you will be in the end.

For me it was not enough to just know these things.
When I was in the thick of it, about to be suffocated by the feelings of being stuck at the level I was at- broke and trying desperately to believe that this was only a temporary thing, which was hard AF because it felt as if I was broke for YEARS.

When I felt my world limiting to just me, the computer and my new BFF called ‘Desperation’, I can tell you that I truly doubted that I would ever truly get anything more than the little hope I had now.

So I coached my hope in the desperation to keep it safe, thinking it was safe to use desperation to drive myself to believing I could do it. And when I failed yet again, I almost extinguished my hope altogether.

When finally gathered my courage to embark on a new goal, I felt myself going back to my defaults- feeling my doubt intensify around that goal like a bee hive following their Queen-bee.

I’ll be honest, it felt insane to not focus on the issues, to not focus on the very challenging problems that surrounded my goal, after all if I didn’t focus on them then how would I resolve them?

It made zero sense to just ‘release them’ and to focus on making myself feel better…yet, the more I enjoyed the different areas of my life and filled them with happiness and contentment daily, the more I envisioned the happy outcome of my goal, the easier it was to let go of the hurdles, the more I started to believe that my desired outcome was something inevitable.

I started to expect it all to work out easily; I started to believe not only in myself, but also in my ability to continue to nurture a happy life.

I had to start living that happy life where I was right now, rather than hinge my outcome on any prerequisite, and when I got triggered- which was A LOT in the beginning, I had to face it, resolve them and decide what I wanted to continue to feed into.

I started to learn how I believe in things- my process from thinking to believing and expecting.

I started to learn what true success and happiness meant for me.

I started to trust myself and in my ability to enjoy my life and have whatever I allowed myself to have.

And slowly as I gained momentum, the thing that seemed so freaking impossible, became something that I just expected to happen and it did.

It was not an easy road to releasing my old habits and creating new ones, no matter how amazing they were, but I did it and I know you will too!



Rewiring Mindset and Editing Your Life Story

In the last post, we talked about some of the ways we can repurpose our limiting beliefs and even broke them down to specific situations!

Today, I’m spilling the tea on how to rewire your mindset, which is a fancy way of saying changing your perspective on your goals and your mental blocks.

We’re going to be looking at the things that cause resistance around your goals and how to blast them back into the abyss that they dared to fly up from in the first place.

So how do you go about changing your perspective on these things in real time?

You * drum roll * start reconnecting to yourself.

Here’s the thing, a lot of us are so disconnected from ourselves that if we didn’t live in this body, we would have no idea of who we were.

We spend a lot of time getting to know others and enjoying their company, building bonds and establishing trust and respect, however, when it comes to doing the same thing for ourselves, we shy all the way away from doing so!

I know, you’re thinking, how I can be disconnected from myself; I literally am myself and am in this body, with these thoughts and these feelings!

Yes, all true, however, let me know if any of these things resonate with you …

  Sitting in a café / movie theatre/ bar/ you name it- all alone and feeling lonely AF and hyper aware of other people having the best time. Feeling your heart beat staccato in a hollow rhythm because you want what they have. You want to also not be alone. You feel weird and awkward being alone.

  You argue with yourself a lot and avoid certain thoughts when they pop up because you just don’t feel like dealing with them or they hurt too much.

  You feel like a failure too much, you rarely look in the mirror and LOVE what is looking back at you.

  You’re fixated on working on ONE area of your life because to you it is failing and since it is, so are you.

If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of those ( no matter how salty) then the truth of it is that there is at least a part of you that is disconnected from the other parts of you and to be honest,  many of us were not raised to cultivate a strong mental relationship with ourselves to begin with.

We rarely check in with ourselves to see how we truly feel about something or what we truly want, instead, we allow someone else (our authority figures/ haters/ lovers/celebrities) to make those decisions for us, so that we do what is expected and keep the peace.

And the more we do that, the more we start to separate from who we are- hence all those movies about ‘Finding Yourself!” – and the less we trust ourselves, the less we enjoy our own company, the less we believe in ourselves, because we are slowly eroding the bond we have with ‘me, myself and I’.

So to change your perspective, you have to be willing to repair that bond.

I like to think of it, as reconnecting with an old friend and making time in my hectic AF day to spend time with that being- myself!

So we meditate, we check in with ourselves, we affirm our loves, passions, and fun times, we work on projects, we talk, we laugh and we allow ourselves to fall back in love, trust and respect with each other. I become my best ‘BFF’ friend a little more every day.

And all of this goes a long way to me understanding what is triggering my limiting beliefs and certain mental blocks and changing my perspective on what is actually happening in those moments.

How you feel about a situation/experience/thing and what you believe based on those are what helps to make your decisions.

That is why limiting beliefs can have the power to stall and even destroy our success, if we simply buy into them, instead of challenging them and listening to what they are really saying about the situation.

So let’s start changing some mindsets!

First identify your trigger moment- what was the thing that made you think of your limiting belief or insecurity?

Check in with yourself and discover when you tend to give up, get overwhelmed or believe that your success is not/ no longer possible.

When you identify that moment and thing, what do you choose to make it mean? Do you make it a positive or negative thing?

 *Hint* It’s neither. It’s just a thing and it has no meaning until you give it such…so don’t give it a meaning.

Secondly, check in on how you usually respond to the trigger moment in most recent situations.

(Make a list of all the trigger moments and all the things that have been making you pause on working as enthusiastically as you would towards your desired goal. Be honest and specific)

Thirdly, when you observe your response to the trigger moments and limiting beliefs, is this, what usually leads self-sabotaging behavior?

Do you feel unmotivated or incensed enough to want to give up?

Fourthly, make a firm decision here and now that you will start practicing responding in a more positive way when the opportunity next presents itself.

So let me give you an example of how this may play out:

My goal: I want to start a successful online business.

Context: I have launched my first product and there are no sales yet. I looked at my Business account and there are exactly zero sales made .It’s been a month and I barely hear crickets. I feel like a HUGE failure and I want to give up.

Trigger moment: I think to myself, no money equals HUGE failure and I leave the room sad, frustrated and in tears.

Process: I decided that because I’ve not made anything yet, it means that I NEVER will and that made me feel like a failure and useless.

I realize after I’ve cooled off that, I’ve added my self-worth and future success to this one perceived failure, when really I could go online and look at what I’m actually putting out and see if I would buy the product based on that.

I could take a break from this and re-charge my energy so that I’m putting the best energy and intuitive actions into my business.

I’ve decided that I will stop attributing myself worth and overall success in life and business to something that I consider a failure and instead discover what was further needed so I can try again.

I decide that my success is inevitable and I’m going to allow myself to attract it and work smarter instead of more desperately.

Trigger moments happen often when we feel as if something has thrown us off track from our success and if we allow them to continually ‘pause ‘our progress we will start to doubt ourselves more, stop taking intuitive actions and even feel as if we should surrender our power and dreams to someone else.

We will begin to focus more on the problem itself, thereby making it bigger and more significant than it really is, because we are now attributing meaning to this issue, when really we just need to take a moment, focus on something we deem to be going right and go with that, and allow the problem to resolve itself.

Trigger moments are just one of the things that can cause our limiting beliefs to transform into real mental blocks, which are even harder to dismantle when they are in their so deep in our minds causing setbacks and stress.

A belief is simply a thought that we allow to circulate in our minds so much that we affirm them as truth, which means that in all things we do have the power to make a decision on the path we want to take.

It means that we can start to re-train ourselves to see these trigger moments as what they are and take a moment to repurpose them as well.

Next, I’ll be breaking down the real triggering emotion that actually derails your momentum and makes you a perfect target for stress!



How to Make Your Limiting Beliefs Explode Your Success

So today, we are going to be looking at how to use these limiting beliefs to ensure our success!
Now let’s look at the reasons that cause them in the first place and for each go through what will help us go from fight, flight or bury all the feels, to flowing and soaring!

Resolutions:

Limiting belief reason 1:

Sometimes we create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that our minds simply do not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way we want them to.

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For this one, the real issue here is that we do not believe the goal is possible.

While we know that it can happen, it does not feel feasible for it to happen for us.  

It is a goal that while we would LOVE to achieve, we simply at this point in time cannot see how WE can get it done because of whatever reason. (Maybe lack of resources, time, or the magnitude of the change just does not fit in with our belief or expectation of what can really work out for us).

In all of this, the problem is the fact that we simply do not believe this goal is something for us. We need to expand our range of possibility if we are to ever start believing we are going to succeed in this goal.

So what do we do?

Break down the big goal into more comfortable sizes that are more relatable for you. Then choose one that is not outside of your range of belief, but is also not so easy that you know you’re playing small either. Your heart felt goals are supposed to scare you a little- it keeps the excitement going and allows your brain to realize that change is coming!

There will be fear, there will be doubt, but with this smaller sized goal, it won’t be as terrifying as before and you can manage your limiting beliefs easier, because the action you will be inspired to take will be things you can ACTUALLY envision for yourself and DO!

Listen in and acknowledge the doubt and fears that will arise and integrate them into your new perspective on this goal.

Example:

Big goal: “I am going to lose 30 lbs in 21 days”

New Goals:

•           “ I am going to drink 2 liters of water a day”

•           “ I am going to eat more veggies and less carbs”

•           “ I will do fun and challenging physical activity for least 30 minutes a day”

•           “ I will get 8 hours of real sleep every night”

Limiting Beliefs:

•           I’ve never tried this in this way before, is it even possible for me to lose this weight?

•           What if I miss a day of exercise or don’t drink enough water, will I sabotage the results?

•           I don’t even know why I’m bothering, it’s not like I’ll actually lose any weight anyway. It’s too late and I’ve already tried stuff and failed.

New Perspective:

Eventhough I feel like I may not lose all the weight in the time line because I’ve failed before, I know that by making these smaller changes and sticking to the plan because it’s fun and easy, I’ll be healthier and will be loving my body more!


2)         Limiting beliefs reason 2: We create our beliefs and mantras while ignoring our internal alarm systems that are protesting the insanity of this belief.

What happens in this situation is that we create our beliefs and mantras and try to ignore, bury or fight the feelings that arise when we think of them, because we want them to be true so very much and if something we’ve decided is negative comes up, we think of it as a threat to our beliefs.

So what can we do to change this?

First we need to realize that these feelings that arise are neither good nor bad, they are only what you make them mean.

And the thoughts are not there to deride your beliefs, or desires, rather they are there to show you that there are a few potential flaws/ challenges in the plan and if you listen in, you can fix them before they become even more apparent.

So instead of running from the feelings that arise when you think of your goals, simply allow them to flow over you and for each, check whether they are true or valuable and work to suit.

If they are neither true nor valuable, express that to yourself and move on.

Example:

Goal: “I am going to write my first book, publish it and reap the rewards all in 2 weeks”.

Limiting Beliefs:

•           “How are you going to do all of this in just 2 weeks?”

•           “Do you even have everything you need to write or finish this book?”

•           “Do you think people will want to read this?”

New Perspective:

It’s true that maybe 2 weeks is a very tight deadline, but I’ll do what I can in that timeframe and ask for more if necessary. I should make sure I have all the information I need to start, but anything else I can learn as I go along. I’ll just focus on writing the book and ask my followers if they’re interested in the plot and that might help me make it even better.


3)         Limiting belief reason 3: We create these beliefs as shields when our goals are too big, frightening and we’re scared to fully commit.

Sometimes we allow our thoughts to become limiting beliefs because they protect us from trying too hard and provide a cushion for when things inevitably do not go our way.

The truth is that the goal scares the pants off of us and it’s not just simply that we may fail at this goal, but worse, that we might succeed—and then fail.

So we allow our thoughts to corrupt the goal, so that we feel validated when we give up on it and use those same limiting beliefs as the reasons it would never have worked out for us anyway.

The real problem here is that you have decided that we are terrified of the change and are not yet ready or confident enough to face it, to allow yourself to believe that it will all work out for you and not hurt you in some way, regardless of how amazing it is.

In fact the more amazing and beneficial the goal, the more likely you are to want to abandon or procrastinate on it.

So what is the solution for this one?

It’s simple: Be honest with yourself. Be honest that you are afraid, that you have been self-sabotaging and work to see what is triggering that reaction for you.

Most of the time, you have already corrupted the vision and the goal, turning them into stressors, which your mind avert and avoid at all costs.

You feed it more by castigating and chastising yourself about the goal, making yourself see it as even more of a negative thing.

Example: I was to go to the gym this week and I didn’t and I’m wasting money! What is wrong with me! Ugh!

(Results in you not going to the gym for another week- sound familiar?)

Remember why you had this goal in the first place, what made it so exciting and precious to you? What made it fun?

Focus on that and instead of focusing on time that has already passed; focus on the here and now.

Allow yourself to slowly work on the goal and enjoy all aspects of it. When it gets too much, take breaks. The goal is to make you happy, not stressed all the way out.

The more you see it as an actual thing that brings you pleasure, the more you’ll become obsessed with it and the limiting beliefs will dissipate.

Example:

Big goal: “I want to start my own online business.”

Limiting Beliefs:

•           That’ll be a lot of work and what if I try and fail? No, I should just keep on what I’m doing right now…it’s the better option.

•           I have researched and tried so many strategies and none of them work! I should just give up and try to find something else!

•           I’m not making nearly enough money with this thing, is this even possible for me?

New Perspective:

I started this online business because I saw a need for it in the market and the things I’m doing make me happy when I do them. I have so much fun and meeting those who like it.

I just have to be patient, and raise my energy up again, so my intuition can guide me. I can and will do this because it’s important to me that I do.

To reframe and repurpose your limiting beliefs, you have to first listen in to your feelings and be aware enough to realize that nothing is trying to hurt you.

Yes, they seem mean, and like jagged spokes ready to disrupt your happy time, but really, they are only as powerful as you make them.

 If you truly repurpose them and start that as a practice, you’ll realize that your success comes a lot easier because you’re not running from yourself, but embracing all of you! It’s all mindset and what stories you’ve been telling yourself that makes this process either easy or difficult.

Either way, be kinder to yourself or realize that everything is playing out in the favour of the energy you are calling to yourself.

We talked about how to reframe and repurpose your limiting beliefs, but what triggers them for you in real life, real time?

Next Chapter, we dive into it all and what you can do to rewire your mindset to reduce stress! 



The Biggest Misconception About Limiting Beliefs and Mental Blocks Blown Up!

Today I’m spilling the tea on limiting beliefs, mental blocks and trigger moments and why they manifest in the way that they do!

Limiting beliefs just as the name implies are those ‘negative’ and challenging thoughts that swirl in our head so much that you begin to believe them as facts. They are the thoughts that keep you from believing your success is possible and can drive you to take actions that are not in alignment with our progress.

So where do they come from?

Usually when you are truly being attacked by your limiting beliefs there are for three main reasons.

  • Sometimes you create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that your minds simply do not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way you want them to.
  • You create our beliefs and mantras while ignoring your internal alarm systems that are protesting the insanity of this belief.
  • You create these beliefs as shields when our goals are too big, frightening and you’re scared to fully commit.

Contrary to EVERYONE’s belief of limiting beliefs, I do not think they are bad things, infact I think they are your Ego’s best work in terms of not only protecting you, but also gauging where you actually stand on your own belief system.

Lemme explain that more.

While we all get so caught up in the fact that we have a great idea/ project/ desire etc and we start to plan it out and set deadlines and try to make it a reality, what happens when the limiting beliefs pop up?

We listen to them and then we immediately fall prey to our own insecurities. Here’s the thing tho, you’ve been using your limiting beliefs all WRONG.

They are not there to stop your progress; in fact they are there to test it and ensure that you are aware of how to improve upon your game plan.

Those thoughts that swirl in your brain and trigger your flight or fight instinct are only there as a mental checklist to see how prepared you really are about fulfilling this goal.

So think of them as a harsh supervisor who asks the tough questions, so that you can be better prepared for the success of your missions. Instead of fighting or fleeing or trying to bury these thoughts, I want you to instead listen to them, challenge them and answer them.

All they want is to be resolved so that you can move forward. That’s it. They have no actual real power; it’s all in how you respond to them.

Now that we understand what limiting beliefs truly are, if they are left unanswered and unchecked they will cause mental blocks- i.e. your ego trying to stop you from doing something it now believes you are unready, unprepared for and will cause you harm- (literally the ego’s one job is to keep you safe) so then you have even more stressors to overcome, in order to prove to your own mind that you are in fact ready to take on this amazing challenge.

Does that make sense?

Let’s look at the three instances of limiting beliefs.

The first instance:

1)         Sometimes we create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that our mind simply does not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way we want them to.

What this means is that you have created a belief that feels larger than life and larger than what you feel you are capable of.

Sure you can achieve this goal, but really it feels as if it is outside of your range of believability. And as such your mind is calling BS on it and since your response has NOT been to broaden your range of believability or possibility, it then leads to a mental block.

As you fight the block, less energy is being focused on the resolution and the block gets bigger, because you’re actually feeding the emotion that created it in the first place.

 It’s a catch 22 like no other.

Example:

“I am going to lose 30 lbs in 21 days”

This is perfectly possible, however, you feel as if it will be really hard or difficult for you to lose that much weight in such a short time.

And you’re not too enthused about the changes you have to make in regards to your diet, workout routine, sleep pattern etc… It all just seems like a lot and are you even ready for all of that yet?

You’re not even sure you’ll have the time to actually implement all of this stuff!

Sound familiar?

The second instance:

2)         We create our beliefs and mantras while ignoring our internal alarm systems that are protesting the insanity of this belief.

In this instance, there is a part of you that is blaring that you’re worried/ afraid/stressed over this belief/ goal or simply don’t want to do it and maybe it feels as if you will not actually achieve this goal and for some reason instead of addressing those emotions, you ignore them and continue to try to push along with it.

However, they do not go away and you run the risk of misinterpreting those feelings as signs that you will fail this goal and then … you do.

Example:

“I am going to write my first book, publish it and reap the rewards all in 2 weeks”.

Totally possible if you know how, but even as you think of this goal, you feel like maybe your deadline is a bit rough and too tightly strict for all you will have to do, but you forge on and you get stressed out more and more and you can hear that voice in the back of your head saying “you’re not gonna make it” and while you’re not communicating with it, it makes you feel like giving up because ‘ maybe you’re not a good writer, maybe no one will read my book…etc”.

Really, it was about the fact that you needed more time and you would have known that if you had bothered to listen to your intuition and ego.

The third instance:

3)         We create these beliefs as shields when our goals are too big, frightening and we’re scared to fully commit.

Example:

“I want to start my own online business, but really, that’ll be a lot of work and what if I try and fail? No I should just keep on what I’m doing right now….it’s the better option.”

In this scenario, it’s not that the goal is impossible, but it’s that the person is not ready for this magnitude of change and has allowed fear to shield them from even trying it out and changing their lives for better or not.

They decided that they could not chance going after their dreams and allowed the limiting beliefs to shield the fear of actually doing something out of their comfort level.

In the end, it all comes down to you communicating with yourself, trusting yourself and being patient. Limiting beliefs will manifest fear, doubts and dread yes, however those emotions only have as much power and purpose as we assign to them.

It is all about your mindset, and how well you listen to your intuition and trust that you will achieve all that you desire easily.

So challenge these thoughts and find out how to repurpose them so that they do what they were always intended to do- help you achieve your goals easily and happily.

Want to know how they can be repurposed?

Keep on reading!

Next post is going to be mindblowing!



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