How to Trust Your Intuition

Have you ever had a thought or a feeling that came to from seemingly ‘nowhere’ followed by an urge to go do the thing, and you can feel your body instinctively react to go do the thing?

That’s what is called an ‘ intuitive nudge’, and all of the time, if you choose to not follow the nudge, life becomes just a tad more complicated and your mind, reproaches you by replaying that thought or feeling you got which you ignored.

The thing is, it’s not easy to trust these feelings or thoughts in your body, because simply put, we are not taught how to, or even that they have real value.

In today’s world, if you’re making decisions based on how you feel or on your ‘gut’ you run the risk of being laughed at.

Yet, intuition is much stronger, more accurate and much more direct that what we are taught to use today, which is ‘rational logic’.

We have all heard people use the term ‘intuition’ in an attempt to express how they knew something before hand, or to describe this sense of unproven confidence they have in a situation and it’s really no surprise that women- the more empathetic of the two sexes are more likely to not only feel the pull, but also answer the call of the nudge.

“We all have this groovy inner guidance system, but many of us disconnect from it. If we want to trust our intuition, we must release all disbelief and heighten our awareness of our inner voice,” #1 New York Times Bestselling, Gabrielle Bernstein, tells Poosh.

“Our intuition is a kind, loving inner voice that guides us toward positive actions and peaceful outcomes,” she continues.

Sometimes intuitive guidance comes to us in the form of a powerful feeling of inspiration or even a tingly sensation or even as a strong sense of knowing in your gut.

This guidance can manifest when we’re dealing with people, circumstances and even in our decisions making processes, though, we’re not always able to tune into what it has to say.

Let’s change that.

Wouldn’t it be great to recognize and trust those times when your intuition is trying to guide you to an easier and more beneficial direction in life?

To do that, we have to address one of the most major blocks to receiving the best of our intuition, fear.

Fear can manifest in our lives in a variety of forms, and sometimes it’s a good thing, but other times, it’s what we use to doubt ourselves, over-thinking and second-guessing what we know, which leads to us cutting off our communication with our inner guide.

To change the tide, Berstein has a strategy to help you connect with your inner guide and open yourself more to what you’re being called to do.

“You can begin this practice with two minutes of stillness each morning. Sit comfortably in silence and connect to your breath. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. When two minutes is up, take note of whatever your intuition tells you and write it in a notebook. Trust your first instinct.

 For one week, document the intuition that comes through after your two minutes of stillness. At the end of the week, reread what you’ve documented. It’s likely that you’ll see patterns and guidance that may not have come through without this stillness practice,” says Berstein.

Another reason we tend not to trust our inner guide is because the message we are receiving seem to not make sense in the context of our present.

For instance, if you get the slightest inkling to take a different route from the one you always use and have never have issues with, logic and familiarity will encourage you to disregard that first nudge and go as you always have.

So start small, because it will take some time to retrain yourself to listen to that feeling, especially when it seems nonsensical and illogical.

To begin, when you feel that inner nudge, that sudden clarity, take the chance to listen to it, and let it guide you.

In his book, Intuition: Knowing Beyond LogicOsho summed it up perfectly when he said: “The unknowable is the beauty, the meaning, the aspiration, the goal. Because of the unknowable, life means something. When everything is known, then everything is flat. You will be fed up, bored.”

This process allows you to open up the communication channels of your inner guide and also creates the bond between you and self-trust.

When you start listening and acting in alignment with your intuition, life begins to make more sense, becomes less stressed and you’ll find yourself happier and more confident in your own skin.


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You Need to Practice Creative Visualisation Now

If it was possible to do less, attract success and feel amazing while you do it, would you be interested or would you scoff at the idea as woo-woo propaganda?

This was the crisis I faced recently, upon stumbling upon a meditative technique called Creative Visualisation, which is the art of using mental imagery and affirmation to produce positive changes in your life.

The name itself was what intrigued me and as I dived deeper into my research, I discovered that this kind of meditation came highly recommended, having been successfully used in the fields of health, business, sports, the creative arts and said to have a positive impact in just about every area of life.

Why was this meditative process so highly recommended and how was it any different from normal visualization?

This was the question I hoped to answer and after much research, I realized that the process for Creative Visualization is in fact a simple form of meditation that encourages good feelings.

And as all the experts will tell you, when you feel great inside our bodies and mind, we become a magnet for what we want, because our energy attracts its likeness.

As thought will always precede creation, everything first starts in our mind and is balanced between our subconscious and our conscious minds.

To understand the context under which the upcoming techniques will help you, let’s briefly explore the subconscious mind first.

Your subconscious can be seen as a programmable ‘hard drive’ much like your Fire Stick, mobile or phone, with the downloaded apps being stimulus-response behaviours. The subconscious remembers everything, is very literal and incapable of differentiating between what is real and imagined.

“The subconscious […] processes only in the present tense. It will look for and guide you to whatever you tell it. So you must be absolutely clear and specific in directing your subconscious to help you accomplish your goals. The subconscious mind uses imagination and feeling to communicate; you can practice in your mind without ever doing the actions,” explains Abigail Brenner M.D.

On the other hand, our conscious mind, the one we are aware of daily is a logical thinking entity that uses words to communicate.

 It processes in all three states of time, past, present and future and directly perceives the outside world, taking in what it ‘sees’ and reacting to is as such.

“The beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors that are programmed may override what our conscious mind desires. So to attain our conscious goals the idea is to access the subconscious in order to go beyond our limitations,” explains Brenner.

Creative visualization is one of the tools in which we can learn to access our subconscious mind, control our thoughts and manifest them into our conscious reality. 

Changing what you believe, creates a change in your response to life and to what you believe you can achieve.

Let’s look at the steps towards using Creative visualization and becoming a happy magnet for your success!


The first step is to relax your body and empty your mind.

Tania Kotsos, contributor for Mind Your Reality, recommends finding a comfortable seat, sitting upright and breathing deeply and steadily.

As you slowly count from 25 to 1, all the while relaxing your muscle groups from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet and allow your mind to also relax.

“Empty your mind by focusing on your breathing. Do not become frustrated if thoughts race through your head. Relaxation techniques are a skill that you can learn. All you need do is practice what you have learnt here about how to relax”, Kostos instructs.


The second step through this meditation is to accept and believe in your creative power to change the world around you.

As noted by Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times best-selling author of 7 self-help books, “Accept that you have the power to create the world you want to see. You may not yet fully believe this. That’s OK. I just ask that you become willing to believe it”.

Kostos, adds, “Although believing you already have something when it is not present in your physical reality may appear difficult at first, it will help to remember that everything you are already experiencing in the physical realm has its origin in your thoughts and beliefs. What you believe you receive”.


The third step is reframing your beliefs into a positive affirmation.

This step is very important as you will be coming back to your positive affirmations time and again to help with all the other steps to follow.

Much like with the last step, what you are trying to manifest may seem out of reach to you presently and it is easy to doubt that you can have it.

Through thoughtful positive affirmations, you can redirect that energy from a negative place to something that makes you feel powerful and joyous.

Berstein gives us an example, “If you want to be more abundant but you’re currently in debt, don’t choose the affirmation, “I’ll make a million dollars this year.” It won’t feel good and will just reinforce negative feelings. Try something that feels more attainable and good, such as: “I’m open to creative ways to earn more money.”


The fourth step in the process is imagining the intended outcome, through visualization.

Finally we are at the part where your imagination is allowed to come into play and you train your mind to visually create the outcome you want to manifest.

“In your relaxed state of mind and body, imagine your intended outcome in the present moment. See yourself experiencing that which you choose. Bring your images to life by imagining them as a movie rather than static pictures. Let go and have fun with the process!” says Kotsos.

“Whatever you want to create, picture it in great detail. While you visualize, picture everything going beautifully. It’s safe to unleash your imagination in this way and feel really good about what you’re visualizing. And if a negative thought pops up, just return to your affirmation,” encourages Berstein.


The fifth step is allowing your visualization to become a feeling.

We remember things more, when feelings and emotions are attributed to them and creative visualization is all about imagery, words and great feelings.

Berstein instructs that that letting your visualization take you over emotionally, will allow you to feel a genuine connection to what you are seeing in your mind.

“For example, if you want to be more abundant, then truly allow yourself to feel that financial freedom and the relief of security,” she suggests.

Kostos, clarifies, “In other words, to feel how it would feel to experience your intended outcome in the present moment – now – not sometime in the future. Of all the feelings you can experience, unconditional love, gratitude and peace are the three that will turbo charge the manifestation of your intentions.”


The final and very important step to this meditative process is possibly one of the hardest to achieve, because it is very hard to detach yourself and not obsess over the outcome you want to see so badly.

Yet, that is exactly what you have to do.

Kostos, explains why this last step is so needed, “Attachment in any sense is disempowering and holds you prisoner to circumstances and misconceived external forces,

“ Detachment itself becomes easy when your creative visualization sessions are based in the kind of faith that is the “evidence of things not seen”, allowing you to say with calmness and peace of mind, “this or something better”.

Do this meditative process for 5 to 20 minutes a day and afterwards, allow yourself to return to a normal waking state and opening your eyes slowly.

Things to remember: This technique is to get you to focus your visualization on the outcome, rather than the process, in other words, leave the ‘how’ of it all, to the Universe and allow that to work it out in a way that truly best serves you in its time.

However, that does not mean that you will not be called upon to take inspired action, afterall physical action is required to successfully brig your mental intentions to manifestation.

The key here is to remain calm and be deliberate in the action you take.

As noted by Kostos, when it comes to taking inspired action, “ This is not to sit and wait for the proverbial penny to drop and nor is it to run around in a frenzied state doing everything you can possibly think of doing in the hope that something works. It is about being calm and deliberate in the action you take, knowing that it is taking you toward your intended outcome. It is about listening to your intuition and following your natural instinct”.

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The Secret Truth to Being Successful

It has been ingrained in me from a very young age that success in any form, comes from hard work.

This belief is what got me through my Common Entrance Examination when I was ten, got me to my high grades at the CXC level when I was fifteen and what saw me burn right out in college, only to fight for supremacy in University.

It is a concept that has also seen me through many days at my various jobs and even more so as a budding entrepreneur.

However, it is also a concept that I realized I grossly misinterpreted and drove too far, too deeply.

The concept of hard work suggests to me sweat, blood, tears and an unrelenting drive to achieve my goal.

 The flip side of that being, there is little room for fun, happiness, mistakes or patience, things I realized I needed for a healthy life.

It is a concept that I have grappled with for years because if I was not successful in something, then it meant I needed to work even harder, and had to make even more sacrifices, which always felt wrong but necessary.

Those sacrifices often times came in the form of spending time with loved ones, taking breaks, taking good care of my health and body and becoming even more of a workaholic whom had nothing to show for it.

It meant I had to do more, dig in my heels further, cut out all distractions and drive myself ever onward towards success.

Success meant hard work.

It’s only later in my life, late twenties really that I began to understand that hard work did not actually mean eye-strain, sleepless nights, fighting to work with people who did not want to work for me or sacrificing time with love ones .

 It did not mean self-punishment or being super unhealthy.

 In fact it turns out that hardwork meant having a new school of thought, where I needed to do less, which allowed me to have even more.

As an entrepreneur, I listened to many webinars on strategy, on building up my business and all the things that I absolutely had to have in place or guaranteed failure of my business, and I am here to say that all of that was absolutely wrong.

In life it’s not about having the right strategy, it’s not about working yourself to death and it is definitely not about robbing yourself of happiness. 

What it is about is fueling your high energy meter.

Psychologist, mindset coaches, spiritual healers and intuitive entrepreneurs all know the truth behind living your best life and being successful.

In short, they all know one secret truth:

If you focus on problems, you will reap even more problems, but if you focus on possibilities, then you will reap more opportunities.

If that’s true, then does doing less actually equal being more successful?

Now I’m not going to lie, when I first heard of this new school of thought, I scoffed and kept scoffing, but then I decided to just try it, as it wasn’t as if my spinning hamster impersonation was showing any results anyway.

So the first thing I did was to research this idea and that’s when Gabby Berstein popped up in my must watch list, around the time she was promoting her book, Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams.

While I have yet to read this book, I will admit that I was drawn in my Berstein’s interviews and articles regarding the idea of doing less busy work and indulging in intentional and intuitive work.

One such interview with Annie Tomlin caught my attention, in which Berstein was asked what a Super Attractor was, and she explained it was ‘someone whose primary focus is on feeling good’.

I was further intrigued, when Berstein, further explained, “When people make feeling good a priority, then they become a magnet for what they want.”

Turns out we are all already Super Attractors it’s just that we have forgotten and have fallen so deeply into fear, judgement and attack that the power is blocked from us.   

She notes, however, that to regain that power, all one has to do is recognize the ways your thoughts and belief systems work and how they’re making you feel, how they have disconnected you from attracting what you really want.

Seems easy enough but is it really?

I remember the first time I talked about my idea to do less and attract more how my mind rebelled against the idea because of my earlier training, but as I did more inner healing, I came to realize that I was afraid of actually being happy and feeling good, because in my mind those good feelings were fleeting, rather than long lasting.

And who could blame me, when societal landscape we live in today, it is almost expected to be addicted to fear, worry, attack and judgment.

“It’s so much easier to let your mind spin. It’s easier to worry, “What if this happens?” rather than having a default state of thinking everything is going to be fine. Fear is the default, because it’s what we’ve grown to rely on and believe. We build up that fear as a habit, but also as a false way of playing safe,” Berstein notes.

“I think that that the belief systems that we’ve picked up throughout our lives have programmed us to believe that we’re not good enough, we’re not smart enough, we’re not worthy. These beliefs are from life experiences that traumatize and trigger us.

We take those thoughts and we rethink them. Those thoughts become belief systems, and those belief systems build up the world that we see. So at times, it seems safer to be in worry and fear, because that’s how we protect ourselves, but it’s obviously not protecting us at all,” she continues.

Sound familiar?

It did for me and it got me to thinking, what if I could change the way I think about the world and how to achieve what I wanted?

 What if I could just focus on enjoying what I was doing and consciously stop myself from indulging in worry?

After all, when you feel good about yourself and what you’re doing, it’s not work, it’s not stress, its fun and something you WANT to do!

It’s the same hardwork, but instead of feeling drained and stressed out because you’re achievement based, you get to feel elevated, happy and accomplished because you are now you centered.

And to me that’s a much better trade off.


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