In the last post, we talked about some of the ways we can repurpose our limiting beliefs and even broke them down to specific situations!
Today, I’m spilling the tea on how to rewire your mindset, which is a fancy way of saying changing your perspective on your goals and your mental blocks.
We’re going to be looking at the things that cause resistance around your goals and how to blast them back into the abyss that they dared to fly up from in the first place.
So how do you go about changing your perspective on these things in real time?
You * drum roll * start reconnecting to yourself.
Here’s the thing, a lot of us are so disconnected from ourselves that if we didn’t live in this body, we would have no idea of who we were.
We spend a lot of time getting to know others and enjoying their company, building bonds and establishing trust and respect, however, when it comes to doing the same thing for ourselves, we shy all the way away from doing so!
I know, you’re thinking, how I can be disconnected from myself; I literally am myself and am in this body, with these thoughts and these feelings!
Yes, all true, however, let me know if any of these things resonate with you …
◊ Sitting in a café / movie theatre/ bar/ you name it- all alone and feeling lonely AF and hyper aware of other people having the best time. Feeling your heart beat staccato in a hollow rhythm because you want what they have. You want to also not be alone. You feel weird and awkward being alone.
◊ You argue with yourself a lot and avoid certain thoughts when they pop up because you just don’t feel like dealing with them or they hurt too much.
◊ You feel like a failure too much, you rarely look in the mirror and LOVE what is looking back at you.
◊ You’re fixated on working on ONE area of your life because to you it is failing and since it is, so are you.
If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of those ( no matter how salty) then the truth of it is that there is at least a part of you that is disconnected from the other parts of you and to be honest, many of us were not raised to cultivate a strong mental relationship with ourselves to begin with.
We rarely check in with ourselves to see how we truly feel about something or what we truly want, instead, we allow someone else (our authority figures/ haters/ lovers/celebrities) to make those decisions for us, so that we do what is expected and keep the peace.
And the more we do that, the more we start to separate from who we are- hence all those movies about ‘Finding Yourself!” – and the less we trust ourselves, the less we enjoy our own company, the less we believe in ourselves, because we are slowly eroding the bond we have with ‘me, myself and I’.
So to change your perspective, you have to be willing to repair that bond.
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What’s awaiting you:
Ashlee breaks down how she went through the reconnection process and shares tips, insights and activities.
How reconnecting to self will give you greater insights into what specifically is triggering your limiting beliefs and fears.
Step by step process of moving from being triggered to having a new viable and successful perspective on the same situation.
Guides towards bringing this concept into real life in real time, o you achieve success much quicker and with clarity.
We get much clearer on trigger moments, beliefs, and how to handle each so we don;t go insane with stress,doubt and fear.
Is it possible to let the problem fix itself? Find out in this training!
So today, we are going to be looking at how to use these limiting beliefs to ensure our success!
Now let’s look at the reasons that cause them in the first place and for each go through what will help us go from fight, flight or bury all the feels, to flowing and soaring!
Limiting belief reason 1:
Sometimes we create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that our minds simply do not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way we want them to.
For this one, the real issue here is that we do not believe the goal is possible.
While we know that it can happen, it does not feel feasible for it to happen for us.
It is a goal that while we would LOVE to achieve, we simply at this point in time cannot see how WE can get it done because of whatever reason. (Maybe lack of resources, time, or the magnitude of the change just does not fit in with our belief or expectation of what can really work out for us).
In all of this, the problem is the fact that we simply do not believe this goal is something for us. We need to expand our range of possibility if we are to ever start believing we are going to succeed in this goal.
So what do we do?
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WHAT AWAITS YOU:
We dive even deeper into the three main triggers for limiting beliefs
We go through the mindset shifts needed in real time to move from I can’t to I did!
We understand more of what is happening when these limiting beliefs are triggered and what information they are giving to us when they are.
Dive deeper into understanding how self-knowledge and insecurities blend to either stress us out or lead to success.
How to acknowledge, challenge and re-purpose those thoughts that would lead up to give up into motivation for much easier success
Today I’m spilling the tea on limiting beliefs, mental blocks and trigger moments and why they manifest in the way that they do!
Limiting beliefs just as the name implies are those ‘negative’ and challenging thoughts that swirl in our head so much that you begin to believe them as facts. They are the thoughts that keep you from believing your success is possible and can drive you to take actions that are not in alignment with our progress.
So where do they come from?
Usually when you are truly being attacked by your limiting beliefs there are for three main reasons.
Sometimes you create beliefs that are so far from our current circumstances that your minds simply do not believe in the possibility of it coming true in the way you want them to.
You create our beliefs and mantras while ignoring your internal alarm systems that are protesting the insanity of this belief.
You create these beliefs as shields when our goals are too big, frightening and you’re scared to fully commit.
Contrary to EVERYONE’s belief of limiting beliefs, I do not think they are bad things, infact I think they are your Ego’s best work in terms of not only protecting you, but also gauging where you actually stand on your own belief system.
Lemme explain that more.
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WHAT AWAITS YOU:
We go more indepth about how your limiting beliefs are triggers, examples and strategies to resolve each type.
We break down how to use these limiting beliefs in a unique way to cement success.
Your ego’s one job and how to get it to really allow you to expand more
The imaginative ways self healing and doing the inner work, makes facing your fears and limiting beliefs so much easier.
Techniques to challenge your limiting beliefs and step into your unique and awesome power to create your desired lifestyle.
It’s not that you hate your life; it’s that you know that it can be even better!
You know your life can be so much more and, you feel it in your gut, you feel it every time you think of what you’d rather be doing in this very instance if things would only FINALLY go your way.
You know it’s possible to live this free, adventurous and relaxed lifestyle, because whenever you go on your social media, there are hundreds of stories about those who left their job and are now vacationing in Bali, can work whenever and wherever they want to, are constantly partying but most of all, what really attracts you to the accounts are the looks of total bliss and freedom they are expressing.
And those images, stories and experiences are what draw you like a magnet to their accounts.
You gobble up their stories of living a fully free life, of making money in their sleep, of pursuing their dreams effortlessly and flawlessly and you compare that to your own seemingly boring and staid existence while longing settles deep inside.
Why can’t that be you?
Why can’t you be the one sharing the stories of living this fabulous life, of going to the parties, of rubbing shoulders with amazing people, of buying whatever you want, going wherever you want when you want?
Why are you only sitting on the sidelines, pining over someone else’s lifestyle , deciding as you want more that your own life will never even be close to theirs?
So you get envious, frustrated, angry, jealous, exhausted and stressed out because you no longer feel as if your life measures up or will ever get even truly close to all the things you now believe you need to have in it.
You focus on all the things that are glaringly missing. The people in your life, start to point out the long laundry list of things that you have yet to accomplish and compare you with those close to your age or younger who seem to be living that socially-accepted close to perfect life and because you’re hyper aware of this, and it STINGS- it drives you even further into the scarcity mindset.
Where even as you want more, desire more and work towards it, the one thing that drags you just from the finishing line- that you aren’t even aware is so close to you-, is the fact that you already know that you’re never gonna get there.
And the real reason that you’re never going to get there is because you’ve not been honest about what you really want in life.
You haven’t been honest about what lifestyle you truly would enjoy.
You have not been honest about the fact that you lost sight of your intuitive end goals a long time ago because you buried them deep in your psyche.
You haven’t been honest about the fact that you do NOT believe in the possibility of your life changing for the drastically better without some sort of cosmic sacrifice, (which means really that you have already doomed yourself to failure, even as you pretend to bury that thought).
All of that doesn’t deter you however, from wanting to prove those who doubt you wrong.
If anything, it drives you to all out war, and you hustle, grind, do all the things, but never just enough to actually win consistently, because deep down you know you’re not going to.
You just need a win. You just need something to show that you are working towards success, but whose version of success are you actually working towards?
For a long time, I thought success was checking off my grocery list of things to have, things I had to prove and living a life that was more professionally based than actually feeding my soul.
I spent hours researching how to make money from home, because I felt as if my job was making me crazy and I was convinced that I could make large sums of money quickly so that I could just enjoy myself without having to worry about money.
I wanted all the nice things- vacationing, expensive dinners because I love food, time to go to the gym, time to relax and unwind, etc.
And I was going to do ALL I needed to do because I wanted this and I SAW others living this, so I could too. Envious?
Of course not, I just wanted to live a wholly different life, just like those other people who were boldly boasting were as well!
At least that was what I told myself.
In reality, what I was doing was counterproductive to any of the things I wanted.
I stayed at home, researching how to build my business and tried a hundred marketing strategies, that promised to work with no large investment, even as I knew were not intuitively correct for me because I was now fully on into my DESPERATION mode and not the ‘I love what I’m doing’ mode.
I strained my eyes because I was forever staring intently into the computer screen, trying to figure out what I was obviously doing wrong, because the Experts all said they did this one thing and maybe I’m just not good at this… and instead of actually taking time to heal, I brainwashed myself into thinking a little strain was nothing and tried to make myself work even harder all to no better or further results.
I did not really work out, because I had no time to spare and if I did manage to squeeze in a few minutes, it was to work out the mounting frustration, I felt at STILL not living that glamourous life! Which meant that I didn’t allow myself to enjoy the fact that I was getting stronger and more flexible ; instead I became fixated on the fact that the scale was not decreasing as quickly as it damn well should be.
I did not really sleep or actually wake up feeling refreshed because my mind was turbulent and I could not shut off my thoughts or the web of increasing fears that wrapped tighter and tighter each day that I failed at my goals.
And in all of this, I spent rare time with my friends, ( citing mountains of work, no money and no free time) , got irritable with my family when they needed my help with anything (because seriously, can’t they see I’m trying to get stuff done? Why can’t they even try to appreciate what I’m trying to build here?)
I got progressively deeper and deeper into the mindset that I was a stupid failure who was never going to be one of those people who got to just lived life as they freakin well wanted and should just shrivel up and stop, because obviously I was never going to hack this thing.
Hindsight is 20/20 and now I can tell you that all of that stress and self castigation was not at all in line with what I was telling others or even myself about what I wanted in life.
So what was the root of this discrepancy in what I wanted in life and what I was doing?
My idea of being successfully happy was what was screwing with me and I suspect you as well.
Chatting with a friend of mine recently about life and why we got so frustrated about not having the things we wanted, we came to realisation that our mindset and the things we claimed to want were not our true goals.
It was a shock to realise that even as we were trying to change our lives, we were still essentially people pleasing!
Yes, we wanted to break away from the status quo of white picket fence, and an ok job, where we worked up to 5 weeks of VACATION. Where the amount of money you had declared your life a success or failure and wanted to chart our own path, but in the bak of our minds, the things that were driving us were not our true wants.
We were still protecting them by hiding them from ourselves and getting frustrated when we were unable to achieve them.
What did that mean for us then?
It meant that I had not actually decided for myselfwhat success ACTUALLY looked like, what it would feel like and mean to me; rather, I was looking at OTHER people’s ideals of success and how they were creating that for themselves.
Isn’t that crazy?!
My borrowed idea of happy success and accompanying envy was what was holding me back from living a life that was truly free and happy. I was grinding and hustling because I was told I needed to and I believed that that was true, even as I was focusing on the things that didn’t mean as much to me.
So if I truly wanted to be living the lifestyle that I knew deep down I wanted, then I had to be honest with myself and most importantly, reconnect to my true goals and desires.
So yes, others were building families, getting promotions, working their dream jobs, vacationing in exotic places around the world and making money in their sleep.
And if I’m honest with myself, while I was impressed by those things, they were not necessarily what I wanted for myself and not intuitively right for me in the way others were getting those results.
That revelation lead me to do more mindset work, to dive deeply into myself and pull out my truth from the depth of the vault I had hidden them within.
When I really did the mindset work and put in real effort to envision the kind of life I was truly craving, I found that what was truly important to me were not necessarily tangible, rather there were about moments.
Do I want to make the money? Yes.
Do I want to live the carefree life and own all the creature comforts that I see? Hellz Yes.
Are those the most important things in my life? No
And that shocked the crap outta me, because if they weren’t that important, then should I be focusing on them with the intensity that I had been?
What I did learn was that what was the most important things in my life were my experiences, my moments spent with those I loved and who loved me.
It was about being fully present in the moment and making lasting memories. It was about feeling healthy and brimming with joy at being in my own skin. It was about being self sufficient, and enjoying the life I was creating one action and thought at a time.
Those were the things that truly mattered to me and as such those were the things that needed to have my intense concentration. And the more I focused on those things, the more the other things came into being.
The other things, the money, the business and the luxurious things I wanted, all came to being as they were necessary to support my other goals.
( So I wanted to spend more time with my family, then I had to ease off of the long hours and late nights. Same thing for really taking care of myself and as I did that, my business started to actually take off, because I was now taking actions that were not from desperation, but from a true place of confidence and allowing the business to actually breathe!).
I started giving energy finally to the things that fuelled my soul and allowed them to light up the rest of my life. Something so simple now as I write it, took memonths to give myself permission to do.
Afterall, I had been taught to focus on making the money at all costs, on working so hard at my job, and it felt weird to not be giving 12 hours to trying to make money and build the empire.
It felt weird at first to actually spend weekends ‘slacking’, to allow myself to rest, to not be obssessed with the things that were going wrong and to celebrate no matter how small the things that were going right
Even now I’m still struggling and learning to just be! Years of conditioning will not go away overnight. it takes WORK!
And I’m very happy that I have allowed myself to come to this firm decision to shift my mindset so that it was more centered on me truly enjoying life, instead of waiting for when things were ‘perfect’ to start.
And what really helped me to get to this pinnacle point in my life?
This workbook changed my life and the lives of those who have worked through it, by reminding us that we are not in a race with others and that our self is the thing that we need to be nourishing and helping to truly grow.
It has 8 core themes, that as you work through guides you to insights about how you really want to create and nurture the life you want.
That means reconnecting and learning yourself as you would with a BFF. What do you really want, what really drives you etc.
How to identify, conquer and resolve your limiting beliefs and triggers.
What stories you have created around your life due to your experiences and how they have been shaping your life and how you can use them to empower yourself.
How to start truly trusting yourself implicitly.
How energy really works and how you can use it to actually manifest your real end goals.
Understanding what intuition really is and how to use it to guide you through your best life.
Creating and envisioning your Next Level Self and bridging the gap between the You of now and that Boss level person.
TheLevel Up Journal Prompter is one of the only resources on the market that challenges you to really introspect and not only express yourself but also gives you homework so that you take real time actions that will give you real results.
Nothing is ever gained by just journaling and writing ( sadly), you also need to do the work, after you’ve gained the honest insights.
The journaling will help to clarify your path, now you have to actually take the steps and the Level Up Journal Prompter is perfect for guiding you to action for making the life you wanted for real.
So are you ready?
Are you ready to STOP being envious over other people’s way of live and boldly live your own, freely, happily and enthusiastically?
Are you ready to intuitively describe your own version of what YOUR successful life looks like?
Are you ready to pursue your real end goals and reap the benefits of putting your energy and effort into the things you ACTUALLY want to accomplish and live for yourself?
If you answered, yes to any of these, it means that you are ready to take action!
It means that you are over settling for less than you KNOW you can have!
You’re SO ready to get to the good part, ( career success, love, money etc) !
You’re ready for things to FINALLY start going your way!
You are ready to evolve and become not only a happier version of yourself, but a levelled up version of you!
The you who no longer people please, or gets frustrated when people don’t get/ scoff at your vision but gets the results they actually desire, even as they are scared.
The You who is so invested in enjoying their live RIGHT NOW that they are ready to make it a reality and the Level Up Journal Prompter is the first step towards starting the real work to getting there.
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You’re not perfect, you’ve fucked up and honestly you’ve also been fucked over.
At some point in our perfectly imperfect human lives, we’ve either been the villain, the victim or the hero in a given situation and had to make decisions on how to go forward after the fact.
Not all of our decisions in life have been great nor had the outcomes we would have preferred, but there they are and there they stand, still impacting on our life stories.
We have all made mistakes in life however, for those of you who have realized what your mistakes are and have taken ownership for them, then cheers to you!
You are on your way to your next level self, and you’ve realized the real way we should view our mistakes. There are several reasons that you should be proud of all the mistakes you’ve made in your life and while that may seem slightly insane, it’s the absolute truth.
I can almost hear you asking: Why should I be PROUD of my mistakes? I should be ashamed and feel guilt over them, not anything else!
Especially since you feel as if these horrific events now define who you are, when it seems as if you can never live down what happened or when this mistake caused so much pain and suffering in your life and possibly others…When you have yet to forgive yourself for making them in the first place?
Let me help shed some light on your gloom and doom and show you why making mistakes is not the end of the world, just another character development chapter in your autobiography.
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what awaits you:
The 4 huge reasons you should be proud of your mistakes. eah you read that right.
How mindset shifts and healing will lead you to a much healthier and wiser lifestyle
How moving on form these mistakes and living in the present are exactly what the Mindset Coach ordered.
How understanding your path and you mistakes will help not only you, but others.
How these 4 reasons will show you a new level of awakening you didn’t even know you had.
What understanding your mistakes says about you and your future