Level Up Your Life in 9 Steps

WTF Is reconnection and why does it matter?

Reconnection to self is when you allow yourself to admit and accept your truths, your vision and your power. It’s legit the process of befriending yourself on the mindset level,  so you know who you are, why you’re doing what you’re doing and finally step into your co-creator shoes confidently.

You can sense when you need to reconnect with yourself.

It’s an uncomfortable feeling: foggy brains, restless mind, unavailable for most things that would have brought you some semblance of real heart centered joy, not knowing what would make you feel happy.

It’s shoulder muscles so tense, they constantly touch your ears, it’s feeling your face scowl and frown, it’s headaches, tense jawlines and gritting of teeth.

It’s living in a state of ‘ life won’t be better’ that robs you of your joy.

Here’s the thing:

You know who you are. You know that you want to move far away from this state. You know you want to smile more; you want to laugh, to feel light in your body and safe in the unshakeable knowledge that everything will all turn out for the best in the end.

You want to feel pleasure and way, way less pain.

When you reconnect to yourself, you’ll start to see the world differently; it’s a slow progress that is nothing to shout about with how seamless and easy it will be.

You’ll only notice that you are unavailable to negative thoughts, toxic energy and have no interest in engaging with anything seeking to bring down your vibes.

For me, reconnection was the process of realizing I was living  not for the glory of having this life, but in the state of all things that were never-ending going wrong and using that as reasons to cut myself off from my sources of light.

I was not social, I always felt like I needed to be working ( even as I was frustratingly overwhelmed and stressed out by the business not making as it should), I used my lack of finances and the shame around it to stop myself from enjoying most things. The thought was I’ll enjoy all those things once I reached my goal.

I had lost sight of who I was as Ashlee Cox. I only saw many failures and gave into protecting myself from them at all costs.

Reconnecting with myself, challenged me to move away from that kind of famine, defeating mindset and allowed me to create a new self-fulfilling prophecy.

One that involved a happier, healthier and well rounded Ashlee.

An Ashlee that had allowed herself to grow, to pivot on prioritizing problems that only brought more of the same, to using that same energy to concentrate on her actual goals.

An Ashlee that recognized she didn’t have problems, just signs that she needed a new path to her goal and allowed herself to take them.

An Ashlee that leveled the F up!

And I did it with the help of the Level Up Journal Prompter.

The Level Up Journal Prompter is available right now.

This book with its nine chapters will take you on a journey of self discovery like no other resource can in this day.

Chapters: Reconnection, Limiting Beliefs and Triggers, Stories and Paradigms, Self love, Trust and Belief, Life skills, Goals and Validation, Energy and Manifesting, Support and Boundaries, You, Intuition and the Struggle, Next Level Self .

I researched and wrote these chapters, complete with journal prompts, and strategic homework when I had finally started to allow myself to be more, to receive more and I still use them to this day, when I want to level up again.

There is an energy of accelerated growth within these chapters and a feeling of intentional ease and crystal clear clarity.

You’re ready to grow, ready to move from a state where you attract problems, to one where you easily attract success.

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What mood should you be in to break up?

In this episode, Ashlee is delving into the world of break ups and questioning when is the right time to break up and what is the best mood to actually cut the cord. Should you do it impulsively or should you do it when you’ve really given it a thorough think through? Warning: There may be cussing.


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Forget your problems, focus on your goals

Should we be so hyper focused on problem solving? Should we forget the problems and re-focus on the goal we are out to achieve in the first place and find a new path towards achieving it? Ashlee talks more about realizing why she needs to truly focus on what she is giving her attention to and how it’s going to change your world. Warning: There may be cussing.


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Panicking or Precaution: What Recent Events Taught Me

Ashlee talks about the abrupt death of her dad, what she’s learning as the world battles Coronoavirus and what she’s decided on for her future. Warning: There may be cussing.

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Why it’s so hard to keep the attitude of gratitude momentum going

Ashlee talks about the ugly truth behind the attitude of gratitude mindset and why it does not bring abundance.  She also breaks down why this one thing is causing more stress and drama in your life, rather than making it miraculously easier. Warning: There may be cussing.


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Ashlee talks how to let happiness in

Ashlee talks about her concept of happiness, how to stop depriving yourself of happiness and how to stop forcing the stars to align. She breaks down why she felt happiness needed prerequisites and why she is over that way of thinking and releasing envy and comparison. Warning: There may be cussing.


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Ashlee talks Happiness and the March Mindset Challenge

In our first Riffing with Ashlee conversation Ashlee talks about her decision to raise her energy to a much higher and positive frequency, as well as how this month is the beginning of a very personal, mindset challenge that she’s ready to share with everyone who wants more prosperity, abundance and insight into their lives.

She also talks about upcoming plans for the blog!

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The BS behind the Mindset Transition

I have been going through something last week and it has been making me feel like I want to crawl out of my skin, like there is a mass of dark energy within me, that is about to explode, like all I want to do is weep.

It’s a weird feeling for someone who wants to embrace and share joy in her life. It’s an extra weird feeling for someone who is expressing gratitude for all she has ( no matter how tiny or inconsequential it may seem) every morning and is trying to shift her mindset from the death grip of fear into one of positive growth.

I know it takes time people, but let me be very clear about this.

This feeling sucks balls.

Saturday morning I woke up in a f#$king mood.

My parents were talking and to me were way too energized for so early in the morning to be their querulous selves and I just could not deal.

The jokes were not funny to me and I just wanted quiet. I wanted for no one to be talking to me. For no one to be sharing, arguing or interacting with me.

I wanted to watch wrestling in peace.

It was not to be.

And even as I tried to quell the sudden yet ferocious surge of pure annoyance, it just settled in me like a geyser a hairsbreadth away from exploding and burning everything in its wake.

And because of this, I was mean to my little cousin and after seeing the hurt on her pretty face, I felt like such an asshole. It hurt me too, but the miasma that I was in, was stronger than both of us.

Mind you, it wasn’t that I did anything to her, it was rather, I could not make myself smile at her and once again the parents did not help matters. And yes I got called out for being a bitch, which I can admit now, hours later I totally was.

As the day progressed, my mood did not truly improve, there was something in me that was eating away at the very idea of joy and it was not the wonky weather.

I watched a movie and just allowed the day to pass, but soon my niece and nephew came over and their antics were more than enough to banish the lethargic fog that had been consuming me.

Everything about them fascinates me, how they are communicating better, the smiles, the determination, the twin-tuition and of course the dancing and the boisterous fake laughing.

In those moments I realized with astounding clarity that I was being a whiny brat yet again. I was not living life and enjoying it, I was not laughing just because I could, nor was I allowing myself to just speak my truth.

In fact, over the last few days, I had basically chosen doubt, frustration and fear as my companions and had been serving them a buffet of my dreams, hopes and aspirations.

Instead of just enjoying what I was doing, I sucked the glittery, rainbow fun out of all my ideas, sadistically holding them under the fog of my travel companions, because I was too busy convincing myself they were awful ideas.

Yet, here were these happy babies, rolling with the punches, finding entertainment and demanding love and affection, while expecting it easily. Here they were dimples flashing, hands clapping, showing me that not only were they highly intelligent, they were also fast and when necessary very crafty.

How can you stay grumpy in those moments?

So later when my little cousin re-appeared, looked at me and decided to give me some space initially, before seizing her opportunity to be close to me- loving me unconditionally, I apologized for that morning’s behaviour and asked for forgiveness which was immediately granted.

I took some painkillers for the headache I got from eating too late and was sitting at the table, head resting on my forearm on the table, when she came over to sit on top of me. She makes space people. I’ll never understand how she somehow does that when there is only a sliver before to fit her.

We sang folk songs, played a variety of games and I even let her play in my hair. The resulting hairstyle was wild, yet very chic and I laughed right along with her.

A part of that was my way of apologizing, but like 85% was because I was also having fun and I remember playing in the hair of another lady who would let me brush hers, while I filled her in on my latest thoughts.

So I decided to play it forward. What’s the harm in having fun with a 6 year old, who actually enjoys your existence?

There isn’t one.

So yeah, Saturday was a learning curve for me, it made me very, very, very aware of the excuses I was still hiding behind, the bullshit I was trying to pretend I enjoyed and my own fears.

It also made me realize what being happy is about . Spending the time with these children, all under the age of 7 reminded me what life and living is actually about.

It’s not about the money or lack thereof, it’s not about worrying if anyone will read your tales with you make that public or if you’re shouting into the void, it’s not about being perfect, it is however about accepting yourself, laughing because you can and CHOOSING to embrace joy and sharing it.


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The Age of Unhappiness: The Gimmick that Made You a Junkie

It was a latent truth, that while I had always known was a part of me, I had nonetheless  worked for years  to hide from its power when I could and when that didn’t work the way I wanted, I started to distract myself away from it.

It was too much for me to fight and while I would win a battle or two, I expected that this truth would win the war and that was why I only ever allowed myself to look at the small things, to fight those things, to convince myself those symptoms of the real pandemic was enough.

Yet, like all truths there is only so much running and hiding you can do, before it is staring right back at you, demanding you acknowledge it for what it is and to start the healing process.

I had run for as long as I could, like a fugitive in my own body and mind and unsurprisingly, it was time to own up, to look this truth dead in the eye and finally deal with it properly.

And this truth was very simple, despite all my attempts at making it seem more complex, complicated and all consuming. In the end, it was simply this: I am unhappy.

This particular gut-punch clocked me unawares sometime around 9 pm Saturday night and made me sit up and take notice. I was unhappy.

I could have been making all the money I wanted, living in my dream house filled with all the creature comforts and it would not have been enough, it would not have truly meant anything to me, because in the end I would still feel like this.

I would still feel lonely, lost, uncertain and hollow.

Sure I would have played music, watched TV, read a book, meditated…. Truly done anything I could to hide the real problem away from my conscious brain and for a while it would have worked, but I would still have felt that coldness, that stirring up of emotions like sand swirling up in me as a wave disturbs the grains.

And I would have suppressed the living day lights out of that feeling, feeding myself half –truths of I am a success, I did a lot and I am happy. I have what I wanted so I’m happy. I just feel tired right now.

And any other day that would have been enough, but not that day, because that was the day that my brain went “enough!”

That was the day that I could no longer hoodwink myself and I had to accept my own truth.

I wasn’t surprised by this information and honestly I tried to rattle off all the reasons that I should be unhappy and there were a lot, but this was a time for full honesty and the unvarnished, raw truth was that none of those things were the reasons for this specific feeling.

Sure they fed the unhappiness, but they were not strong enough to be called the villain of the piece. What was the problem was me.

My unhappiness came from deep inside and was a direct manifestation of me not taking care of myself, emotionally, mentally or physically and then blaming it on other things like my environment, lack of sales, my purpose in life, etc.

I have always heard that happiness was a journey and not a destination; that it was an attitude and not just a fleeting emotion that I should fear and yet, here it was the thing that many scoffed at, the thing that many would sell their souls to feel, begging for me to welcome it into my heart.

Mainstream happiness is bullshit.

It is an emotion that we have tied to outcomes and things. “Happiness is the same price as Red Bottoms. You can buy Happiness. This chair and phone will make you happy“.

And the ads are painted with smiling, gleeful people, challenging you to feel as they do with these products. Manipulation at it’s finest.

This very serious need had become nothing more than a marketing gimmick that was losing its meaning, significance in the hype of sales plays.

Happiness somehow became fleeting, unattainable and a lie. Happiness became conditional and was no longer a reality, rather it was a commodity. I bought into it and turned myself inside out trying to understand why I couldn’t seem to get high on the happiness drug anymore.

Why buying things, doing hobbies, being with people no longer gave the high. Why it was so easy to take the feeling away from me.  Why it was so easy to drop.

And there it was, my answer, staring me dead in the face, challenging me to be brave enough to meet its stare.

I had long ago traded in the idea of happiness and joy for greed, fear, envy and want. I had long ago told myself I would be happy when I a certain outcome -which I had no control over- came to fruition. I had made feeling good an exclusive thing, rather than my norm.

To feel good, something had to happen and if it didn’t then I was allowed to feel pain, hurt and all of it’s emotional cousins and so this went for years, decades… and so it would have continued if I had never become unscripted.

So while I acknowledge that I am unhappy right now in this moment, I also acknowledge that happiness is an attitude and it is one that I willfully, with all intention choose to nurture, to grow and to maintain. It is no longer a commodity, no longer a thing that can only be petted on occasion when something ‘good’ happens.

It’s all about mindset and today and every other day after this, I will choose to feed my Happiness attitude.

I will choose to take amazing care of myself, to reconnect and listen in with myself, to grow a stronger bond. I will no longer hinge my happiness on an outcome, rather I will purposefully do the things that drive the good, light and free feeling to me. I will allow this emotional necessity to thrive within me in healthy ways.

That may look like me helping others and also knowing where to enforce my boundaries. It will mean being more open, while knowing what parts of me are just for me. It will mean trying new things out, but not to the detriment of my very real warning system. It will mean pushing myself to greater strength, and knowing when to rest, relax and be content.

It will mean being grateful and creating an attitude of gratitude, while knowing that being grateful will also ignite the spark of ambition. I will love all aspects of myself and know that it will take time and daily effort to heal properly.

I choose to be intuitively happy.


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The Real Reason You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self Control)

Before we dive head first into the world of limiting beliefs, mental blocks, insecurities and ‘negative energy’, let’s first talk about the thing that  spawned all of them in the first place *drum roll please*  your end goals.

But first … let me know if this situation has ever happened to you…

You’re super excited about a desire, a goal or an idea you have and honestly it’s the best idea in the world to you and everything is going amazing in your head and this thing is making you feel so happy, excited and joyous.

Then, just as you’re in the process of conceptionalising it, you start thinking of all the ways this amazing thing is going to crash and burn and take you down with it.

(Dramatic I know, but am I lying?)

“What if I do this and then it totally blows up in my face and I’ve already sank all of this time into it?”

Or

You think about all the reasons why it’s dumb AF.

“But I mean, who would want this anyway…, it’s fun for me, but maybe the world isn’t ready for this?”

Or

You think about the fact that if you somehow do actually bring this thing into existence, then it’ll be too good to be true, the other shoe will drop and ruin everything.

 Or

You thing that this amazing thing holds the power to change your life too drastically and you’re not sure you’re even ready for all of that just yet.

“If this worked out, it would be so freaking awesome! My life would be so much better, but God I would be so crushed if something happened to take this away or what if it changes my life so much and then it just stops working? I’d be devastated!”

Or maybe you feel all of these things and it’s stressing you out, because, we’re multi-capable like that lol.

Sounds at all familiar?

Ok and then there is that feeling in your head, where all of these challenging and doubting thoughts begin to swirl around, making you feel foggy, tired and ready to bury the idea into the deepest recesses in your mind,  * insert shifty smile* for safekeeping obvs.

Followed closely by the pain in your chest- a kind of hollow feeling – a pang of loss as you bury the idea/ dream/desire even further and mourn the death of what would have been a really good thing, had those thoughts not come and crashed the creative party.

*Let’s have a moment of silence of this once amazing idea- gone to rest way too soon*

Now instead of thinking about the awesomeness of your idea, dreams, desires, etc enter self sabotage, fear, desperation and anxiety.

And they crowd up your mind and replace the joy, happiness and excitement you once felt, while dragging you down, down, doowwnnn into deepest abyss …if we allow them to.

And if you do allow the limiting beliefs to take over, then, even when you want more, even when you’re fighting the good fight and meditating, and journaling and trying to get your head on right and be that progressive bad-ass you know you can be….nothing great happens.

In the back of your mind, those emotions and feelings remain, ruling from the shadows, waiting for you to drop your guard so that they can pounce like the predators you know them to be!

And then life starts to progressively get a bit duller and more stressful and one day you wake up, wondering what the hell happened and why you feel so distrustful and anxious about the world and why you’re not motivated to do more or anything really.

So am I saying it’s your end goals fault that you feel like this?

no boo

Nope.

I’m saying that when it comes down to it, the things that are so amazing to us, have the most epic potential and life changing benefits definitely, causes us the most stress and can make us feel so unworthy, thereby creating the limiting beliefs and mental blocks to protect us from the hurt they could potentially cause us.

Why?


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what awaits you :

We answer why thinking about your goals stresses you the eff out and how to change that response.

Examples on fear, end goals , limiting beliefs and responding to them, so that you can practice shifting your mindset in real time.

We look at how different goals and desires provoke different reactions and dive deeper into why that is.

The sneaky reason you’re procrastinating and yeah, it has nothing to do with lack of self discipline, it’s way easier.

We break down what stressors are, how they effect your productivity and how to resolve them.

We give real strategies for shifting from procrastinating to enjoying your work again.