4 Reasons You Should Be Proud of Your Mistakes

You’re not perfect, you’ve fucked up and honestly you’ve also been fucked over.

Who hasn’t?

At some point in our perfectly imperfect human lives, we’ve either been the villain, the victim or the hero in a given situation and had to make decisions on how to go forward after the fact.

Not all of our decisions in life have been great nor had the outcomes we would have preferred, but there they are and there they stand, still impacting on our life stories.

We have all made mistakes in life however, for those of you who have realized what your mistakes are and have taken ownership for them, then cheers to you!

You are on your way to your next level self, and you’ve realized the real way we should view our mistakes. There are several reasons that you should be proud of all the mistakes you’ve made in your life and while that may seem slightly insane, it’s the absolute truth.

I can almost hear you asking: Why should I be PROUD of my mistakes?  I should be ashamed and feel guilt over them, not anything else!

Especially since you feel as if these horrific events now define who you are, when it seems as if you can never live down what happened or when this mistake caused so much pain and suffering in your life and possibly others…When you have yet to forgive yourself for making them in the first place?

Let me help shed some light on your gloom and doom and show you why making mistakes is not the end of the world, just another character development chapter in your autobiography.


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The 4 huge reasons you should be proud of your mistakes. eah you read that right.

How mindset shifts and healing will lead you to a much healthier and wiser lifestyle

How moving on form these mistakes and living in the present are exactly what the Mindset Coach ordered.

How understanding your path and you mistakes will help not only you, but others.

How these 4 reasons will show you a new level of awakening you didn’t even know you had.

What understanding your mistakes says about you and your future


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Sometimes It All Sucks & It’s Ok

Sometimes, all you feel to do is cry, and rage and scream and the urge is so strong, it takes over your whole body!

Sometimes you want to curl up on the kitchen floor and drown your sorrows in your fave alcohol or in your fave comfort foods.

Sometimes positive platitudes are enough to make you  want to commit acts of violence and there is no real reason why…

Sometimes my Luvs, you are simply human-

…Human in a world that seems to delight in chewing you up and spitting you out….slowly.

A world that others keep telling you, you have the power to control, but every experience that pops into your head reinforces that this control is true for other people. Never you.

You’re the one who just cannot catch a freaking break, you’re the one who seems to have committed some terrible crime in a past life. You’re the one that keeps being kicked down, again and again.

So what are you supposed to do?

What do you do?

The latest motivational/ inspirational  post you probably read told you to not give up!

It most likely encouraged you to persevere and to not let these feelings take control of you. It probably reminded you that you should be grateful for all you have, because there are others with so much less and it tried to motivate you to believe in yourself and to just keep on going.

And you probably looked at that post and wondered what kind of happily ever after hippie person wrote that ish.

Persevere? Haven’t you been doing that ish for like forever?

When is the change supposed to happen anyway?

When is it YOUR time to shine, have all the things and feel better about your life?

When is it your time to be abundant, to feel as if you are in control of your life and time and finances?

What exactly are you doing so wrong that these others seemed to have perfected?

Because right now, in this moment, you are seconds away from flinging your hands up, and caving to defeat.

And it will not be pretty.

You are seconds away from screaming at the fury and angst that has been building up within you but worse of all, you are moments away from settling into your surrender.

Moments away from deciding that all your naysayers were right and your end goals are silly, too big or just not for you. You may be one final push away from thinking you are a failure and that you are neither good enough nor worthy enough and that is why you keep on failing…

And really, all you want to know is ‘How do I make this better? How do I make me better?’

If no one else knows how you are feeling right now, I freakin do.

I know the days of watching others get the attention, praise, money and validation for their ‘bravery’, talents and  dedication.

I know the headaches, backaches and restless sleep of wracking your brain trying to figure out what you need to do, that you’re STILL clearly not doing, because no matter what, you’re not the one getting those amazing results.

And I know how easy it is to straight up start blocking those positive a-holes who keep sprouting rainbow-like possibilities from their posts.

Seriously, EFF them, -even though you are also reading their posts and secretly wishing it was all as easily doable as they made it seem for you too.

All I can say to you, my friend, is that this is normal and natural. 

Of course you’re going to feel frustrated and stressed out when you’re trying to shape your life into someone else’s image.

Of course your life is going to feel empty, if you’re focusing on your problems and what is lacking in your life, rather than what is enriching it.

Of course you’re not going to be sure what you deep down want, because you’ve been actively running, fighting and burying those intuitive nudges so deep down in your psyche, that now that you’re ready for them to guide you, you no longer recognize your own voice.

And of course you’re going to be seeking comfort when you’ve been trying to prove that you are worthy, prove that you can make those important in your life happy and be what you think they need you to be, even at the detriment of actually being and living your life as yourself…

So yes, all of these feelings, emotions and resulting frustrating situations are all normal when you are actively living a life that is not at all in alignment with your true self or purpose.

So again, what to do?

First, we let it all out!

Rage around!  Let the pain and frustration out.

Scream!

Find a sport that allows you to HIT something or exert yourself.

Lift weights and do cardio exercises.

Rage Journal!

Let it all out, exhaust your emotions and let yourself release it all, so that you can come back with a leveled, less pent up brain and then, only then, refocus.

Refocus on your ULTIMATE goals, the ones that are constantly in your mind and makes you so happy and excited that your freaking heart skips a beat while thinking about them.

This gets easier, the more you reconnect to WHO you are and what you need in your life to make you feel so much better consistently!

Release all the ‘I did this already’ and the ‘I can’ts’ and the ‘I ‘m just so freakin done with this’ and ‘what will people think…’ and ‘what if..?’

Screw it all.

Release the rage; refocus on your goal, de-stress by doing something fun and let yourself recover.

Tomorrow, or even later- depends on how fast you listen to your intuition-, you will find the path you need to.

When it’s time, you will be able to recommit and know that it is safe to go after what you truly desire. In time you will learn that sometimes it all sucks and it’s not a bad thing.

You’ll learn from your mistakes and come out so much stronger, wiser and patient from it all.

It is safe to feel it all and to react and to respond and to take a moment and to come right back with an improved strategy.


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How to Stop Manipulating Yourself Into Settling

We manipulate ourselves every day in some way and while it is not always a bad thing depending on the circumstances and the reasons behind this , it can also be one of the fastest ways to losing track of you real end goal(s). 

There are a host of ways and reasons why we may manipulate ourselves, and that includes trying to feel better about a situation, talking ourselves into  doing things  that really we don’t want to do, trying to protect our reputation and/ image,  including staying out later with friends, when really we want to go home, but don’t want them to think you’re a ‘stick in the mud’, rationalize why someone was mean or unprofessional to us, just so we can clear the deal…and the list can go on and on.

The really big challenge with self – manipulation is when we get lost in the lie so deeply and so quickly, that we no longer know which way is actually up; when we tell ourselves that we no longer know what we want or that we should give up on a certain huge outcome that we actually desire.

This is what can lead us to settling for what we have right now, even as we KNOW deep down that it is not what we truly want.

I liken it to when the waiter screws up your order, and instead of calmly explaining this is not in fact what you wanted, you accept the slip-up because of what ever excuse you come up with at the time.

Only it’s times one thousand.

Self-manipulation is not all it’s cracked up to be, when we’re actively doing it to take away our own hopes, dreams and giving up on what our real end goals.

It’s not ok, when we self manipulate out of fear, desperation or anger, because then, we are not pushing ourselves into a better zone, rather we are pulling away from the journey of happiness and growth only to end up entering the bad lands.

 If your feelings are NOT coming from an authentic place within you, then the lie, no matter the worthy cause will start to burst out of you like Poison Ivy’s vines and when that happens, it will cause you to feel all sorts of emotions you’d rather not, all while doubting yourself and getting even more tangled up in the lie-vines.

I’ll tell you my own story with self-manipulation gone wrong!

I self-manipulated myself for about 6 years, telling myself I was happy with my lot in life, while I was not. 

During that time, I would have told anyone that I was happy, that yes life was rough but I was making due. I would have lied to your face and said I believed it was all going to get better.

And to protect my lies, I pushed down and tried to BURY those urges, those whispers of dreams that resonated too loudly within me.

You know, those fantasies that feel right, but make no real sense because of where you are in your life right now?

Those day dreams that pull and tug at you and haunt your days because really they are exactly what you deeply want and need, but it makes you feel sad because you’ve already decided they are not realistic. And you know on some level that you’re killing off your own potential.

  I almost got myself to believe that I was happy and everything was just fine after a while of constant repetition, but it just refused to stick. 

How could it?

The truth was that I wasn’t that happy about the life I was living or the lack of control over where I was going to be at any hour of the day. I was not happy about feeling trapped and unable to just embrace that feeling that comes with truly happily living!

In the end, I had to stop trying to run from myself and really face it all.


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Ashlee spills the tea on how she got her self to stop settling for way less than she actually wanted.

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One of the best ways to stop settling for thins in your life revealed.

How honestly makes it all easier to go after your dreams and what you truly desire.


The 4 Things You Need to Realise Your Dreams

It can be difficult to have a dream that is so BIG, it challenges your own status quo.

It is a scary concept to have the desire, to want it, to feed and nurture it and worst, to share it.

It’s risky sharing your life goals and future hopes with others because truthfully not everyone in your circle can or will relate.

Our friends and our family are the ones we look to for support, guidance and validation, so when you finally share with them this awesome dream  but their facial expressions change into anything other than a SMILE and a shared look of appreciation for just how awesome your dream and goals are, it gives you a moment of panic.

This panic only grows and spreads when they begin to explain in seemingly unquestionable logic why your dreams are either going to evaporate like water vapor or why it will be the most arduous, stressful thing you will ever do.

And almost immediately, you have major doubts and dwindling motivation because fear and uncertainty are eating you up for breakfast.

In short, depending on who you share your dreams with, you will either discover an enabler or a dream killer!

So what sets those who are successful apart from those who have settled and are resentful, but will still not stand up and attempt to fight for their dreams?

I got that info right here:


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The 4 Pillars you need, to achieve your dreams.

Why self reflection and healing will bring success in droves you can’t imagine.

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Understanding why you’re doing what you’re doing and whether you’re ready to commit.

The things you’re doing right now that are super counterproductive .


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How to Be Inspired, Without Losing Yourself

Have you ever met someone who inspired the hell out of you?!

Like in your mind, they are freaking amazing because of how confident they are, how poised and elegant?

They get stuff done, they look AWESOME and their lifestyle is what you imagine yours to be someday.

They are living the life that RESONATES with you. They are doing the things that you wish, dream and fantasize about doing and you have a little, secret crush on them.

( You know it’s true!)

That’s why you follow them on any and all social media accounts.

Why you need to let them know that you are around in some way- or you’re more of a lurker and you don’t like anything on the accounts, but you are always aware of their posts and they give you LYFE!

They just freaking resonate with you and they inspire you to be better and to want more from your life. They did it, and they are so sure that you can too.

Annnnd here’s where things get tricky.

For some of us, it’s not enough that we are inspired and motivated to be better, instead we get triggered and start to literally model ourselves after our role models or celebrities.

It starts off small, maybe we start to mimic some of their behaviors, the way they express themselves, even their gestures. Maybe we start altering the way we think about things and can recall how they dealt with a specific situation, so we try it as well.

 And then we start to compare ourselves, which in some cases lead to either you deciding to improve yourself, or you try to replace yourself with a version that is more them than you.
The problem comes when you start to forget who YOU are and what is so SPECIAL about you.

When you start to compare yourself and keep coming up short and decide that you are just not good enough.

People, it’s time to get real and realise that you are you for a reason. That you are special in your own way and to realise that the same people that are inspiring you, are not trying to change their core self, but has accepted it and has chosen to continue to grow.


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