How I learnt to Let Life be Easy

Can I really have what I want in this life and can it be easy?

This was the question I struggled with for years upon years and most often than not, the answer I came up with was a resounding ‘no’.

I was taught hardwork, struggling and paying dues were all the benchmarks I had to go though repeatedly, before I could see any hint of success.

I was taught to wait for the inevitable shoe to drop, if anything good ever happened to me and without truly noticing it, this was the way I started to live my entire life.

I started to mistrust people who were kind, friendly and seemed generally good natured, because it reminded me of how I used to be and made me upset that I was no longer that person, but I couldn’t be that person, because all the lessons I’ve learnt ( and learnt well) yelled at me that I had to be guarded, I had to people please, I had to hide  who I was and look to other successful people to show me what my life should look like, what my thoughts should be and what I was allowed to achieve.

Now here’s the thing, you simply cannot have this mindset when you’re looking to do great things. I’m a naturally empathetic person and something ALWAYS felt wrong about this lifestyle, but damn if I could put my finger on what exactly it was.

So years go by and my intuition,- that whispering guardian angel that lives within me- that I would occasionally listen to every now and again, started pestering me and pestering me. It was sick of seeing me settle, sick of seeing me lose confidence and looking for a semblance of affection in the wrong people.

It was tired of me adding unnecessary burdens to my heart, tired of feeling my pain over and over again, tired of me basing my dwindling happiness on beliefs that were designed to drain it.

 So it finally rose up and got my attention.

And one day, after the weeks following a tremendous health scare that I was being treated for, my defenses were down. I was for the first time in a long time, also fed up of the pain, the betrayals and feeling as if I had let myself down.

That’s when I felt the intuitive nudge; taking it as a sign from God that I simply could no longer ignore, I allowed the message to flow into me. It told me there was no need for struggle, no need to burn myself out, no need to make everything complicated.

It explained no one was impressed by any of this.

And I wanted to believe in it so bad, but old habits die really freaking hard and I felt my mind erupt into a civil war. One side preaching that life was always supposed to be joyous and beautiful, the other saying that if it isn’t hard and complicated how will I learn to appreciate it?

Turns out I was not ready for my life to be easy, I wasn’t ready to release my teachings no matter how wrong they felt. I wasn’t ready for my life to be so aligned I could have everything and anything I wanted.

I was fighting tooth and nail for my limitations.

Mind you, I tested the theory a few times and it worked beautifully each time, but it was not enough for me to rehab the 3 decades strong fear addiction. And when that truly hit me- that not only was I choosing to feel crappy and complicate my life, but I was doing so because i was so driven by fear and the need to struggle, I made a real decision to get to the bottom of this need and reprogram my mind.

It was time for me to allow my life to flow. I had seen the evidence for myself. I bought my car cash, I rented  a condo for super cheap and it was in a great natural area, I was in fact never actually short on money, I always got what I wanted even if I didn’t buy it and the coup de grace, I was loved unconditionally by awesome humans!

So when it really sunk in that my life wanted to be easy, that it wanted to be successful and there was no need to stress and struggle, only to listen, align and do.

I finally started to allow things to flow. I finally moved things out of my way and reconnected with my inner being and that rare feeling of harmony and trust.

Life became so easy , I almost started to doubt its longevity again, because the last thing to leave me was the idea that good things could run out and I’d be left holding the proverbial bag. Funny how I never thought bad things could come to an end…

So I went to mindset rehab and I came out so much better for it. It’s a daily effort to reprogram my mind ( 30 years of habits do not change in a week) and each day I get stronger, more confident, more aligned and life is something I want to actively engage in again.

One of the resources I used when I was going through this period was the Level UP Journal Prompter. This book is filled with journal prompts, exercises and insights that I personally used to challenge myself into changing old teachings for new intuitive ones.

It’s easy to say I want better for myself, but as I learnt, it’s not so easy to walk the walk and release the bad habits to receive abundance. Hope and Faith are hard because of those same teachings, but it’s not impossible.

I know you’re ready to do more, to drop the effing struggle and let life actually flow in harmony as it needs to be. I know you’re over feeling as if you have to climb that oil slicked ladder, getting nowhere fast.

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How to Stop Manipulating Yourself Into Settling

We manipulate ourselves every day in some way and while it is not always a bad thing depending on the circumstances and the reasons behind this , it can also be one of the fastest ways to losing track of you real end goal(s). 

There are a host of ways and reasons why we may manipulate ourselves, and that includes trying to feel better about a situation, talking ourselves into  doing things  that really we don’t want to do, trying to protect our reputation and/ image,  including staying out later with friends, when really we want to go home, but don’t want them to think you’re a ‘stick in the mud’, rationalize why someone was mean or unprofessional to us, just so we can clear the deal…and the list can go on and on.

The really big challenge with self – manipulation is when we get lost in the lie so deeply and so quickly, that we no longer know which way is actually up; when we tell ourselves that we no longer know what we want or that we should give up on a certain huge outcome that we actually desire.

This is what can lead us to settling for what we have right now, even as we KNOW deep down that it is not what we truly want.

I liken it to when the waiter screws up your order, and instead of calmly explaining this is not in fact what you wanted, you accept the slip-up because of what ever excuse you come up with at the time.

Only it’s times one thousand.

Self-manipulation is not all it’s cracked up to be, when we’re actively doing it to take away our own hopes, dreams and giving up on what our real end goals.

It’s not ok, when we self manipulate out of fear, desperation or anger, because then, we are not pushing ourselves into a better zone, rather we are pulling away from the journey of happiness and growth only to end up entering the bad lands.

 If your feelings are NOT coming from an authentic place within you, then the lie, no matter the worthy cause will start to burst out of you like Poison Ivy’s vines and when that happens, it will cause you to feel all sorts of emotions you’d rather not, all while doubting yourself and getting even more tangled up in the lie-vines.

I’ll tell you my own story with self-manipulation gone wrong!

I self-manipulated myself for about 6 years, telling myself I was happy with my lot in life, while I was not. 

During that time, I would have told anyone that I was happy, that yes life was rough but I was making due. I would have lied to your face and said I believed it was all going to get better.

And to protect my lies, I pushed down and tried to BURY those urges, those whispers of dreams that resonated too loudly within me.

You know, those fantasies that feel right, but make no real sense because of where you are in your life right now?

Those day dreams that pull and tug at you and haunt your days because really they are exactly what you deeply want and need, but it makes you feel sad because you’ve already decided they are not realistic. And you know on some level that you’re killing off your own potential.

  I almost got myself to believe that I was happy and everything was just fine after a while of constant repetition, but it just refused to stick. 

How could it?

The truth was that I wasn’t that happy about the life I was living or the lack of control over where I was going to be at any hour of the day. I was not happy about feeling trapped and unable to just embrace that feeling that comes with truly happily living!

In the end, I had to stop trying to run from myself and really face it all.


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The 4 Things You Need to Realise Your Dreams

It can be difficult to have a dream that is so BIG, it challenges your own status quo.

It is a scary concept to have the desire, to want it, to feed and nurture it and worst, to share it.

It’s risky sharing your life goals and future hopes with others because truthfully not everyone in your circle can or will relate.

Our friends and our family are the ones we look to for support, guidance and validation, so when you finally share with them this awesome dream  but their facial expressions change into anything other than a SMILE and a shared look of appreciation for just how awesome your dream and goals are, it gives you a moment of panic.

This panic only grows and spreads when they begin to explain in seemingly unquestionable logic why your dreams are either going to evaporate like water vapor or why it will be the most arduous, stressful thing you will ever do.

And almost immediately, you have major doubts and dwindling motivation because fear and uncertainty are eating you up for breakfast.

In short, depending on who you share your dreams with, you will either discover an enabler or a dream killer!

So what sets those who are successful apart from those who have settled and are resentful, but will still not stand up and attempt to fight for their dreams?

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