It has been ingrained in me from a very young age that success in any form, comes from hard work.
This belief is what got me through my Common Entrance Examination when I was ten, got me to my high grades at the CXC level when I was fifteen and what saw me burn right out in college, only to fight for supremacy in University.
It is a concept that has also seen me through many days at my various jobs and even more so as a budding entrepreneur.
However, it is also a concept that I realized I grossly misinterpreted and drove too far, too deeply.
The concept of hard work suggests to me sweat, blood, tears and an unrelenting drive to achieve my goal.
The flip side of that being, there is little room for fun, happiness, mistakes or patience, things I realized I needed for a healthy life.
It is a concept that I have grappled with for years because if I was not successful in something, then it meant I needed to work even harder, and had to make even more sacrifices, which always felt wrong but necessary.
Those sacrifices often times came in the form of spending time with loved ones, taking breaks, taking good care of my health and body and becoming even more of a workaholic whom had nothing to show for it.
It meant I had to do more, dig in my heels further, cut out all distractions and drive myself ever onward towards success.
Success meant hard work.
It’s only later in my life, late twenties really that I began to understand that hard work did not actually mean eye-strain, sleepless nights, fighting to work with people who did not want to work for me or sacrificing time with love ones .
It did not mean self-punishment or being super unhealthy.
In fact it turns out that hardwork meant having a new school of thought, where I needed to do less, which allowed me to have even more.
As an entrepreneur, I listened to many webinars on strategy, on building up my business and all the things that I absolutely had to have in place or guaranteed failure of my business, and I am here to say that all of that was absolutely wrong.
In life it’s not about having the right strategy, it’s not about working yourself to death and it is definitely not about robbing yourself of happiness.
What it is about is fueling your high energy meter.
Psychologist, mindset coaches, spiritual healers and intuitive entrepreneurs all know the truth behind living your best life and being successful.
In short, they all know one secret truth:
If you focus on problems, you will reap even more problems, but if you focus on possibilities, then you will reap more opportunities.
If that’s true, then does doing less actually equal being more successful?
Now I’m not going to lie, when I first heard of this new school of thought, I scoffed and kept scoffing, but then I decided to just try it, as it wasn’t as if my spinning hamster impersonation was showing any results anyway.
So the first thing I did was to research this idea and that’s when Gabby Berstein popped up in my must watch list, around the time she was promoting her book, Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams.
While I have yet to read this book, I will admit that I was drawn in my Berstein’s interviews and articles regarding the idea of doing less busy work and indulging in intentional and intuitive work.
One such interview with Annie Tomlin caught my attention, in which Berstein was asked what a Super Attractor was, and she explained it was ‘someone whose primary focus is on feeling good’.
I was further intrigued, when Berstein, further explained, “When people make feeling good a priority, then they become a magnet for what they want.”
Turns out we are all already Super Attractors it’s just that we have forgotten and have fallen so deeply into fear, judgement and attack that the power is blocked from us.
She notes, however, that to regain that power, all one has to do is recognize the ways your thoughts and belief systems work and how they’re making you feel, how they have disconnected you from attracting what you really want.
Seems easy enough but is it really?
I remember the first time I talked about my idea to do less and attract more how my mind rebelled against the idea because of my earlier training, but as I did more inner healing, I came to realize that I was afraid of actually being happy and feeling good, because in my mind those good feelings were fleeting, rather than long lasting.
And who could blame me, when societal landscape we live in today, it is almost expected to be addicted to fear, worry, attack and judgment.
“It’s so much easier to let your mind spin. It’s easier to worry, “What if this happens?” rather than having a default state of thinking everything is going to be fine. Fear is the default, because it’s what we’ve grown to rely on and believe. We build up that fear as a habit, but also as a false way of playing safe,” Berstein notes.
“I think that that the belief systems that we’ve picked up throughout our lives have programmed us to believe that we’re not good enough, we’re not smart enough, we’re not worthy. These beliefs are from life experiences that traumatize and trigger us.
We take those thoughts and we rethink them. Those thoughts become belief systems, and those belief systems build up the world that we see. So at times, it seems safer to be in worry and fear, because that’s how we protect ourselves, but it’s obviously not protecting us at all,” she continues.
It did for me and it got me to thinking, what if I could change the way I think about the world and how to achieve what I wanted?
What if I could just focus on enjoying what I was doing and consciously stop myself from indulging in worry?
After all, when you feel good about yourself and what you’re doing, it’s not work, it’s not stress, its fun and something you WANT to do!
It’s the same hardwork, but instead of feeling drained and stressed out because you’re achievement based, you get to feel elevated, happy and accomplished because you are now you centered.
And to me that’s a much better trade off.
You made it to the end! Wooot!