Self Dates and Solitude

I have always admired those girls who could go to the movies, cafes and even shop by themselves, without feeling awkward or lonely, because to me that seemed like such a power move.

 As much as I’m an introvert, there are things that I simply do not want to do by myself, for the very simple reasons that I fear it would only serve to emphasize my loneliness.

Afterall, how many times have you seen anyone on a self-date who looked comfortable and like they were having fun, minus being attached to their phone or having that painful ‘ please keep me company’ expectant expression on their face?

Ok, so maybe that’s just me projecting my own feelings on the few times I’ve been out alone, but to be fair, those times were because I was meeting someone and felt anxious, knowing I’d be better when they finally appeared or I left.

However, recently, something changed within me. The more I learn about mindset health and connecting to myself,  the more I’ve started to allow myself to enjoy solitude and have started welcoming my thoughts, rather than engaging in an epic and exhausting battle of fighting them.


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What awaits you:

Ashlee reveals what was truly keeping her from going on on her own and it’s SO relatable.

She also reveals what practice allowed her to feel calmer, more centered and waking up with a smile.

What the hardest things for her to disconnect from where.

What her next goals are and why she’s so excited to get there.


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Why You NEED Solitude

In today’s world, with all the buzzing, deadlines and tons of things to distract you,  the idea of taking time to disconnect and simply listen into your own thoughts is nothing short of alien and may even seem lame, yet, it’s one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself.

Solitude allows you to reboot your brain and unwindConstantly being “on” doesn’t give your brain a chance to rest and replenish itself. Being by yourself with no distractions gives you the chance to clear your mind, focus, and think more clearly. It’s an opportunity to revitalize your mind and body at the same time,” writes Sherrie Bourg Carter Psy.D.

“Solitude provides time for you to think deeply. Day-to-day responsibilities and commitments can make your to-do list seem as if it has no end. This constant motion prevents you from engaging in deep thought, which inhibits creativity and lessens productivity,” she continues.

Solitude allows you to become more comfortable in your own skin and gives you the …


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What’s awaiting you:

Easy ways to incorporate solitude into your day, even if you’re not into meditation

Key advice from Mental strength trainer and international bestselling mental strength author, Amy Morin.

More benefits of solitude and how it helps your mood, mindset and overall lifestyle.


Start Dating Yourself

The idea of self-dates may seem strange especially if you’re in a relationship, after all wasn’t one of the overall points of having a partner, so we wouldn’t have to go and do things alone?

But that’s just the thing, why are we so determined to not spend time with ourselves?

Why does the idea of going out alone, bring up feelings of awkward loneliness and feelings of slacking off, when we could be spending time being more ‘productive’.

We know we are social creatures, but does that really explain the sheer panic and fear many of us feel at the prospect of being alone with our thoughts or visiting a place alone?

Mental strength trainer and international bestselling mental strength author, Amy Morin, breaks down this conundrum for us …


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What’s awaiting you:

Key advice from Mental strength trainer and international bestselling mental strength author, Amy Morin on why dating yourself is a must!

Online Coach, Sarah Von Bargen, weighs in on how doing what we love also benefits our other relationships.

Elite Daily Contributor Lena Oh, gives awesome insights on the connection you achieve when going solo.

Find out if it really is natural to enjoy your solo-ness or if you should want others with you…nature vs nurture.