The thing that pulled me from the brink of energetic extinction!

I am so passionate about helping people gain clarity of self and nurture their growth mindset, that I literally made it my business.

My experience in this field started not surprisingly with my friends first, because they would come to me  and still do- for relationship advice, to vent and  to just have a safe, stress free sounding board.

And they would contact me at times when they just could not see past their own anger or mistake or was scared by something in their relationships and I would be the one they would either call or literally drive to visit and we’d have a session.

If they were by my house, we would go for a walk as I live in the country side and nature is awesome for heart to hearts or we would go to the beach and walk along the sand, listening to the waves crash against the shore, while they expressed what was bothering them.

And afterwards, they would thank me for really listening to them, for letting them pour out what they needed to and also for being honest in how I helped to guide them to reveal what was underneath their distress, which then helped them to solve their own predicament.

Lately, I’ve been working with more entrepreneurs, towards nurturing their growth mindset, which has been so crucial to them living the life they want overall and also in nurturing their own rising empire.

And while they may be business minded, they are all still human and they have been going through tough relationships times break-ups and family dramas all of which has been contributing to the blocks they have been experiencing in their lives, but the one thing that they all have in common, is the realization that they can have a better life.


UNLOCK THE ASH FILES WHEN YOU SIGN UP.

This support will help to offset the costs of this ad-free site and keep it available to everyone. Thank you so much!


They can have a life they enjoy and that is not ruled by fear, anxiety and desperation.

They are realizing that they are indeed worthy of unconditional support,  and love and that it is safe for them to be honest with themselves about what is actually happening in their lives in that moment.

They are shedding old, draining paradigms and at their own pace, shifting into new, better serving ones.  They are learning the importance of emotional energy flow and self love and how this can and will impact their actions, decisions and overall life health.

It is my belief that the  world needs more people who are self aware, who are ready to be more positive and genuine with themselves and others, because then you don’t get the people who will waste your time, take pleasure in making others  feel less than, or will disrespect your boundaries.

You’ll get more people willing to help, willing to see how things can be solved instead of inflicting unnecessary pain and stress on others. More people will be willing to take responsibility for their actions and are aware that true power comes from being able to communicate and be honest up front, so we’ll have less life trolls.

And I’ve seen these kinds of changes within the people who I work with. I love it when they are able to see the big picture of a situation and are no longer limited to only their point of view and also when they realize that growing is an every day journey that they are more than up to.

It makes me so happy when they have given themselves the permission to be living the life they dream of and know that it is safe to go through life’s hurdles and know that this is just a challenge for them to solve on their way to further growth.

The funny thing is that I have been passionate about mindset work for a long time, but only truly began to see its real value and applying it to my own life, when I came to the abrupt decision that I had to no real choice but to leave my marriage.

 I was in shambles, doubting my worth, doubted my ability and was miserably cranky AF.

I felt like everything around me was crumbling, including my work, my social life, my health everything.  I was just tired.

And learning about the Law of Attraction and enrolling into my first online course on mindset and business started me along a much different and so much better path.

It took like months of real work, discipline and several mindset shifts for me to pull myself back from the brink of extinction and to realize that, this painful situation that I was dealing with in that moment, was not actually the end of my world, and that I had the choice to let all the poison out and begin to rebuild the life I felt had been burnt down.

That hope, alone was enough for me to really start getting my mojo back and not only did I start to feel better mentally, but I also got the strength to finally start to take care of myself, to release and resolve old stories.

Soon I was brave enough to not just help myself through one of the roughest most dangerous times of my life, but to also start a movement to help anyone who ever went through something similar or were on the journey towards self growth and needed genuine guidance, because while it seems easy to say, in real life, that ish is HARD WORK!


Up next shop our Level up Journal Prompter

The day I let go of my safety line and dove deep

I remember the first time I did something I was afraid to do and was still afraid of even as I did it. I remember the first time I jumped into the deep end into cold uncharted waters, on purpose.

It was one of the first swimming lessons I had as a teen and I remember being super excited and at the same time scared of the unknown because I was very new to swimming in general.

I, like most islanders love the sea and love to frolic in the turquoise waters however, we never venture further than where our feet could firmly be planted on the shifting sands, because  ironically most of us can’t swim, or  at least swim  well.

So there I was with my class-mates who had all signed up for swimming as our P.E elective. I was one of the shorter ones in the group and while I loved and was drawn to the cold, beautifully blue, pool water my anxiety sky rocketed when our Coach marched us straight past the kiddie pool- my comfort zone- and over to the ‘Adult pool’ as we had christened the Olympic sized, competitive pool.

And I thought I was going to throw up, when she lined us all up at the deepest end of the pool and grabbed a long pole with a hook at the end, looking at us with a slightly mischievous smile on her face. I tried to listen to her instructions, but my heart was beating way too loudly when I heard her explain that we would be jumping into the deep waters of the pool, one by one and touching the floor of the pool.

She told us that it would be safe and would help us to get more comfortable in the water. I heard her words, but really I was overcome by my own brain screaming at me to turn tail and run away.

I stayed. I stayed and watched as one after the other, my class mates jumped into the water. I watched as they became submerged blurs and then popped back up, only to be scooped to safety by our Coach, or guided to the stairs.

All too soon it was my turn. I was the last. Dammit.

So I walked to the edge of the pool, feeling my poor heart try to lurch away from the sure danger that was me about to jump into the deep end of this water, knowing I couldn’t even thread water, even as I knew I had a safety line.

And then I was jumping.

My heart frozen by my brazen actions and then I was submerged by the cold water.  And I could not touch the bottom. We all held onto the hook of the pole as we got into the water, and in that moment, when I realized that I was too short to touch the bottom, and that the water was pushing me back up, I made an executive decision.

I let go of the hook- my one safety line- and pushed myself to the bottom of the pool. Touched the tiles and then jumped to get to the hook again.

In that moment of snap decision, it was no longer about my fear; it was about proving to myself that I could do this thing. It was showing myself that I was safe, that my trust in myself and my coach was not unfounded. It was to show myself that I could follow through.

My coach was impressed by my determination, if a bit scared by my decision.

And I felt lighter than I had ever felt in a really long time in my young life. I felt buoyant and I felt fearless but mostly, I felt inspired.

There have been many times since that clear and defining moment in my life, where I felt again like I was on the precipice of jumping into the deep end. And I have not always been ready for it, because I what I knew about what would happen if I did.

I knew that jumping in meant change. It meant that no matter what happened, good or bad, I would no longer be the same person I was at the moment just before I jumped.

I hesitated a lot, because I could see the waters, be them still and deep or, rolling with waves, I knew that once I jumped in, I would have to make a decisions about my survival, and I would have to take action to live and in doing this, I would have to grow, I would have to be better and I would have to make it all the way to the other side no matter what.

So sometimes I stay on the precipice and just look at the water beneath me. I allow the fear to grip me, to hold me and encourage me to rethink my life decisions. I stay looking at the water and fearing all that it would mean, because I’m afraid to take that next step, life line or no.

And in those moments, where I feel trapped, stuck and paralyzed, I force myself to remember the times that I was brave enough to let go of the safely line and achieve my goal, even though it was my first time in the deep end and I remember that I survived it all.  I remember that in those moments of calm and trust that I would not only survive, but I’d blossom and it would be ok.

It would be ok, to allow myself that change, that metamorphosis and as sacred of the plunge and all that it would mean, I would be free.

And it’s enough to challenge my initial fear, enough for me to assess my own self- trust levels, my own belief that I have done enough due diligence to make sure it is safe to jump…enough to take a deep breath and dive right in!

What about you?

Do you have those moments where you are afraid to dive into a new idea, a new goal, a decision that will impact you way of life?

Do you remember anytime in your life where you were brave enough to dive in and fierce enough to decide that no matter what you’d survive, that you’d flourish?


UNLOCK THE ASH FILES WHEN YOU SIGN UP.

This support will help to offset the costs of this ad-free site and keep it available to everyone. Thank you so much!

The 4 Things You Need to Realise Your Dreams

It can be difficult to have a dream that is so BIG, it challenges your own status quo.

It is a scary concept to have the desire, to want it, to feed and nurture it and worst, to share it.

It’s risky sharing your life goals and future hopes with others because truthfully not everyone in your circle can or will relate.

Our friends and our family are the ones we look to for support, guidance and validation, so when you finally share with them this awesome dream  but their facial expressions change into anything other than a SMILE and a shared look of appreciation for just how awesome your dream and goals are, it gives you a moment of panic.

This panic only grows and spreads when they begin to explain in seemingly unquestionable logic why your dreams are either going to evaporate like water vapor or why it will be the most arduous, stressful thing you will ever do.

And almost immediately, you have major doubts and dwindling motivation because fear and uncertainty are eating you up for breakfast.

In short, depending on who you share your dreams with, you will either discover an enabler or a dream killer!

So what sets those who are successful apart from those who have settled and are resentful, but will still not stand up and attempt to fight for their dreams?

I got that info right here:


CONTINUE READING

THE VALUE PAK FOR THIS EXCLUSIVE POST IS COMING SOON.

WHILE YOU WAIT SUPPORT US BY BECOMING AN AWESOME PATRON!


what awaits you:

The 4 Pillars you need, to achieve your dreams.

Why self reflection and healing will bring success in droves you can’t imagine.

The importance of patience, self love and trust and why you won’t get anywhere without them

Understanding why you’re doing what you’re doing and whether you’re ready to commit.

The things you’re doing right now that are super counterproductive .


Up next, shop our e-mag The Unscripted Collective

5 Undeniable Truths About Dream Building

It starts with you rationalizing why there is no way you can ever live the life you fantasize about and it ends with you feeling torn between what you think should do and what you are  feeling in your body that you are being called to do.

And it all feels  like frustration and building resentment.

I’ve lived there!

I was the girl who had the high dreams and a vision of a life that was filled with ease and spending time on activities and people I truly wanted to and I knew what my one talent in life was. 

My problem however, was that I just did not know how this was going to make me the amount of money I needed to truly contribute to the kind of lifestyle I was secretly craving.

So I did what seemed to be working for everyone else and  I gave in to my own doubt monster and into the worried pleas of those close to me, to do the ‘responsible’ thing.

I got a job,- a well paying one- that on paper was pretty awesome.

It paid just shy of comfortable and the workload initially was ok and to sweeten the deal even more, I would be utilising my ONE talent!

I convinced myself I was happy with this way of life, after all every day I was utilising my talent and learning new skills and really, it wasn’t that awful, infact, it was actually kind of fun and I had really awesome colleagues.

Yet in the back of my mind I knew- legit gut feeling knew- that this would not last.

And when things finally became too overbearing for me, I jumped ship and took on a job I KNEW was not going to end well for me, because of the reputation of the company was one of being disorganized and stressful….but I told myself I needed the money and I was optimistic that it could work.

The deal sounded right and I had grown to be more confident in my abilities, however, people are a very real factor in any job and negative attitudes can sour even the best of situations when you feel undervalued and overworked.

That lead me to do the unthinkable!

 
I left the job and my only source of income and in shock of what I had done and in a fit of thriving stubbornness and the need to prove that I was not in fact insane, I started my own series of companies.
 
However, I can tell you now, that I was NOT at all in the right mindset for such a huge undertaking.
 

Really, I was driven by fear, desperation and a need to show everyone that I CAN do it all!  Which was not at all in the direction of my ideal life, but my focus was now on surviving, not actually living.

Now I can go on and on and tell you about that journey, but what I will do instead is tell you what I learnt and hope it helps you to jump over these same hurdles faster, so that you will continue the journey to your dreams with only minimal insanity.


CONTINUE READING

THE VALUE PAK FOR THIS EXCLUSIVE POST IS COMING SOON

WHILE YOU WAIT SUPPORT US BY BECOMING AN AWESOME PATRON!


wHAT AWAITS YOU:

The 5 undeniable truths you need to know right now so that you can achiever your dreams and desires much easier,simpler and faster.

The things you should NEVER apologise for in your life as you go after these dreams.

The mindset that will get you aligned with your goals much easier and faster.

Understanding the perception of time and how to move out of feeling ‘stuck ‘ or in ‘stasis’.

The gold mine of learning from your mistakes revealed.


Up next, shop our Level Up Journal Prompter