The Transformation- The First Step vs Your 100th.

Inspiration can sneak up and hit you over the head from just about anywhere at any time. Same thing with epiphanies and this week, I got a healthy dose of both, while watching a show on the E Network.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking, what could she possibly have been watching?

Well, it was Revenge Body with Khloe Kardashian. Yes, I love that show and I’ll tell you why, as you read on.

For one, the show, especially this season, has a focus on not just the goal of weight loss, but on the wholistic journey of lifestyle change the individual is undertaking and it really shows how serious deciding to commit to the process and journey is as a continuing to grow person.

When these participants come onto the show, they are not just there to lose weight, rather they are there for help in dealing with their own demons, asking for help from these professionals to see what they are really fighting with and help them to shed the chrysalis and emerge the beautiful butterfly they know they can be.

They are ready to not just work hard, but also find their rhythm again and I relate to that so much!

While the show focuses on workouts and meal plans, if you really tune into what the participants are sharing with you, you would hear just how much of a lifestyle change for the better they are going through.

And it is rough AF.

It is the arduous task of changing habits, of not running to your security blankets, it’s about mindset shifts, discipline and self love.

It’s not just doing an exercise, but committing to the entire process, and even as they cry and sweat and think long and hard about giving up, many of them don’t.

They make a decision to see it through, they make a decision to be honest with themselves and their trainers and you the viewer by the end of the episode see a person who has grown into their next level selves.

Exercise and diet require the mind to be present and for it to work just as hard as you do when you push those weights, when you do that cardio and when you eat the veggies.

If your mindset doesn’t allow you to adapt, then you simply won’t.

So there I am, on the bed, watching these people, make the courageous decision to not only get their lives together, but also do so in the public eye and all I can think is ‘wow, that first step is so freaking serious! They are so brave!”

If you never understood about mindset and why it’s so important, look no further than this show, no further than those who have decided to enhance their own lives and made changes to further its positivity.

It is not an easy process, afterall it took you a long time to create and validate those same bad habits that you’re trying to change and it will take you making conscious efforts to create new best serving habits and make those the familiar ones.

At the end of the episode, they show you just how much the person has grown. You see them barely able to do the first portion of the exercise compared to them at the 12 week mark, when they are breezing through the workout easily and ready to level up yet again.

You see a difference in their countenance, they are glowing, and they are PROUD of themselves. No magic wands, no magic pills, just the happiness they feel that they achieved their goal and realize that they are different in a very intangible way now, with only love and excitement going forward in their individual lives.

The you at the beginning of the journey is not the you at the one thousand step mark of that same journey.  At the beginning, we are hopeful, terrified, excited but also plagued with doubts and anxiety about what we can truly achieve.

At the one thousandth step, you’re more confident, you realize that while you may bend, you will not in fact break. You may want to run and hide and give up, but you inherently know that you won’t. You know the goal, the things you desire and while things will go awry and we can get distracted by fear, stress and naysayers, you are in a place where you can acknowledge that all can be used to strengthen you resolve instead of weakening it.

You recognize yourself for who you are, ‘the fighting dreamer’.

It is intense and absolutely crazy, but you know that it is something that you need to do. You start to learn what real discipline is, what real self-love and confidence is. You start to push your own boundaries without the fear of falling and not being able to get back up.

You learn that strength is about never falling, rather about getting back up and keep going.

And this is why it is so important to have a strong, inner circle who are there to unconditionally support you during this time in your life. The journey will be rough by its very definition and that is why having those who believe in you and will guide you towards seeing your dreams achieved is so vitally important. They keep you grounded, they keep you motivated and they call you out when you want to break and run.

They are your real MVP and they come in all shapes and forms, from family, friends, trainers, coaches etc. They are the ones who understand that while they do not get your vision, you do and that is enough for them to healthily support you as you literally change your life.

For me, as I watch these brave souls work on their bodies and by extension their lives and see their mindsets shift, I think of  how beautiful they are, how heroic and it inspires me to believe that everything I want is achievable.

I understand finally that I’m not stuck, or lost, instead I acknowledge that growth is not linear, and that I will bend, shake and want to cry, but my resolve will not break.

I will change, and open myself up to even more possibilities, and all I have to do is have faith that I am safe and secure as I continue to grow.

My journey is still ongoing and if I’m honest, the game that is my life will always have new, exciting and challenging missions, however, I will be ready to meet them all head on, because just like those participants on Revenge Body, I too am ready to shed my burdens and reveal to the world the real me that I almost lost track of.

I know that life is about love, joy and all the moments that added to them, as well as, allowing yourself room to grow, to be disciplined, to be committed and to stretch.

It’s about honoring your own commitment to yourself and not resorting to punishing yourself for your perceived failings of mistakes, but about patience, forgiveness and love.

So have I fully inspired you?

Are you ready to also shift your mindsets into that of a fighting dreamer?


You made it to the end! Wooot!

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